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look Ive been through alot of it.. the baby father leaving, cheating, giving me an std, still in college, very sick during my pregannacy, etc.. like I said just summing it up.. but LOOK, yall WILL get through it..WITHOUT A GUY..is it hard.. yes.. but you have to be strong enough to not only be strong for you but for your child. you would be surprised the strength us as women have when we have to.. does it get old..yes..does it get harder..yes ( BUT IT WILL EVENTUALLY GET EASIER)and it sucks that we picked assholes(or GReAT men who turned in to assholes)- but there ARE VERY FEW>> BUT THERE ARE good men out there and you will eventually find one you will be there for you and your child, more so than the sperm donor who decided to put the semen in you instead of the cup that day..;) but in my case, Ive never gone after shild support b/c I dont want him to try to get custody of her- or even visitation.. believe me if they have no/or menail income, crappy girlfriends/drug problems.. its better off they never see them.. yes, its tempting for me to shove the DNA results in his face but for what? she has a father now- the only father shes ever known who loves her.. her SD isnt trying to be there so why subject my daughter to that...I cut off all contact with her family on his side over 3 years ago, when they took his side. and when her other"fathers" family took more interest in my daughter than them... ya know that song..i think its by bonnie raitt.."i cant make you love me".. that song is so true.. you cant make a man want to be there and really why should you have to and do you really want that type of person around you child.. live, learn and move on.. and every time you look at your child youll know you did the right thing.. keep those monsters out of the closet...and out of there life....
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