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Scared To Be Alone

2 posts on this thread and the last post was on February 15th, 2005 5:03 PM
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misha - February 15th, 2005 1:28 PM
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I'm 28, 32 wks. and I just put my ex out last night (for the millionth time). We've been together for 6 years and have a 4 year old together and one on the way in 9 weeks. For the last 6 years he's worked maybe a total of 2, but off and on. He spent all his time "out", drunk or high. I've supported him, helped him by a car helped him to go back to school because I always saw the good in him and I believed he could be better. I've tried to find him jobs which he always loses in a matter of months. Meanwhile, I've worked, gone to school (I graduate next may) and taken care of our son and my son from a previous relationship, oh and his daughter that he dropped on me during "his" visitation weekends (since he would be out all night and asleep all day). Last month he borrowed my car because he killed his and got drunk and wrapped it around a telephone pole... I tried to get past that since it wasn't on purpose and for some reason I still loved him. The final straw for me was last night I got my bank statement and saw that over the last month he stole over 600 dollars out of my account...now that I'm out of work and he never was in work. I don't know what I'm going to do I just know I have to do it without him. The thing is I've never been pregnant alone...to be real I've never been alone period and I'm scared that I'm going to spend the rest of my life that way.

Rhonda - February 15th, 2005 1:45 PM

I'm so sorry for you Honey, but reading your post it sounds like you already know what you have to do, you are not alone, you have your kids and by the way you are working and studying you will financially be a lot better off not having to support him. I sound harsh but I think you already know what you have to do. Good Luck I wish you all the best.

Advice - February 15th, 2005 5:03 PM

Rhonda is right, its very obvious what you have to do. I mean damnn this guy is obviously a loser and you dont deserve that. Its great that you continuted with your education and like Rhonda said you will be financially better off not having to support his ass. I know its all easier said than done but really think of your children. Yes you will be without a man during the rest of ur pregnancy but im sure you have family and friends that you can go to for support. Trust me you wont spend the rest of ur life alone, a great man will come into your life one day and u'll spend the rest of ur life with him. Good luck.