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Hi and nice to meet you. I am in the very same "boat" as you. I am single and pregnant and all my friends are married and attached. Sometimes - well most times i do feel alone and its good to talk to people. what part of the world do you live in?

I am in San Diego, where are you at? Did your boyfriend leave you also?
I feel so embaressed about it, that I don't even tell my coworkers that he left me.
And to make matters worse, he is black and I am white. So it feels like I meet all the stereo types in that catagory. Now I am worried about what my child is going to have to go through being mixed and his mom is white...with how awful kids can be...I don't want my kid to resent me.
Tell me more about your situation...

San Diego-wow. I live in Canada.
Well the father and i were just starting to see each other and the morning after pill didn't work. I refused an abortion and he walked out and i haven't talked to him since i was 8 wks.
what is wrong with you baby being half black? there's nothing wrong with that. Your child will have not only one ethnic backround to learn about but he or she'll have two. These days people do not get stereo typed becuase of your skin color, I certainly hope that is over, ( by the way i am white). Why would your child resent you, i think your watching to many movies or talking to too many people. I hope this hleps you becuasei feel your worried over nothing. And if anyone does judge you, then there just not worht your time!

Surprise, I have a grandchild who is half and half. She is smart as a whip, personable, and has plenty of friends in a school that is lily-white. Sure, there are occasional encounters with other kids who have picked up bad racial attitudes at the breakfast table and teachers who try to track her based on sterotypes, but there are bullies within racial groups, too. Learning how to handle aberrant personalities is part of everyone's life. California is a gloriously mixed society. Your baby will do well. GL!

Yeah you guys are right, my sister is mixed and I saw what she had gone through having all her siblings have blonde blue eyes, including our mother.
Now that she is older, she is coming to accept her exotic beauty, but I just wish she could of seen it a lot sooner.
I am super excited I have wanted a child for soo long, what do you guys think about visitation rights? due to the father's side all from detroit, and not liking the fact I am white. Do you think I should allow visitations unsupervised? I'm worried about them filling his head up with crazy nonsense like they did to my baby's father. I know I am probably worrying for nothing, but I have no other person who has been in this type of situation before.
Thank you again for all your insight.
Ohh Grandpa Viv, I was thinking of moving to New York...do you think there is a pretty diverse range of bi-racial dating, kids etc...?
Baby b I can't believe he left you just like that...I don't know the cultures in canada, but guessing they are a lot like US, how far along are you now?

There is nothing wrong with being pregnant and single. You are doing a great thing; bringing a new life into the world. I'm a black male and I see nothing wrong with having a biracial child. Be confident and proud of your pregnancy at work and to everyone you know. I would try supervised visits at first and if those go well move to unsupervised.

Surprise, it takes a couple of years to establish yourself with a support network in a new city. New York (City, not Upstate) may be plenty diverse, but with a new baby you need to be close to those who are near and dear. Gather them around, don't keep them in the dark. Good luck!

Surprise76- Single parenting has been going on since the beginning of time. You aren't the first, and you won't be the last to find yourself in this position. I myself was in a similar one more than 14 years ago when I was expecting my son. There are two points I would like to share that I hope will bring you some comfort. #1 - what you are experiencing? Right now? Is your life's work. You and your child will travel through this life together, while you both learn and grow. #2 - "Alone" is not "Lonely"... As for what other people will think? Tell them you are CHOOSING to take on this challenge ALONE. Because you? Are strong enough, smart enough and confident enough. They won't be able to argue with that. Raising a child alone can be a wonderful, gratifying and successful venture - if you choose to look at it that way. Remember, your life is your story and you are the sole author. Decide what you want your life to look like and then, do whatever you have to to make your ideal life your reality. Best, best, best wishes to you and your little one. Lala

Surprise, I know how you feel with the whole 'alone' thing. I can't relate to any of my friends, because none of them have children. Im still a college student and found out 4 weeks ago that I was pregnant (Im 13weeks now).
The dad and I had a big falling out in July. He knows, but refuses to help. His first suggestion was an abortion. And mine was go to hell. Needless to say we dont speak anymore.
Im not in the best situation to have a child, but luckly I still have a strong support system. My parents have let me move back home and have agreed to help me until I get my degree. And my friends are trying to help the best they can. Im just trying to stay positive about the whole situation.
It would still be nice to relate to someone else in the same situation.