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oct19bad i think the best thing you can do is to try and stay positive. i think its so dangerous when we put all our happiness in the hands of ONE person, as if that one person then leaves us we turn into absolute wrecks! i can't express how dangerous it is to do that, and no doubt you are considering counselling because you think things are all your fault. chances are they aren't your fault, you just picked a bad apple at the time. i had counselling after a bad split from an ex and to be honest it taught me that it wasnt my fault, i wasnt the bad person who deserved to be unhappy for the rest of my life but he was! as women we are naturally clingy to men and even sometimes believe that we can't possibly be happy without a man there. time is the biggest healer for you and in time you will see that putting all your happiness into a loser's hands is no good for you, mentally or physically. one of my friends is currently 33 weeks pregnant and her bf didnt want anything to do with her or the baby since he found out. her courage and determination to be a strong woman is absolutely amazing and something to be admired!! i just wish more women were like her so instead of punishing themselves they could realise that sometimes things arent meant to be. i believe that life gives you lessons to teach you something, and if its that this guy is no good for you mentally, then at least its made you stronger.

Thanks Cat24, I guess i was just stressed about bringing up the baby alone. I will work very hard on being a stronger for me and my baby.

Hey oct19bad - I think its a great idea for you to get counselling - I am not in your situation but I can understand how scary it would be - Its all new and unknown. I am glad you have the support of your family and I really wish you all the best! I think you will find you are a lot stronger then you give yourself credit for. Take care xx

oct19bad i know it sounds alot easier said than done but in years down the line you will get my drift! i'd only go to counselling if you feel you cannot mentally cope, there is no need to go if you want to discover why this guy isnt with you because those answers may never be answered. just remember that you deserve better and you arent crazy or nutty, you are just struggling to deal with the change. best of luck