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First of all, I'm no legal expert but i don't think he can just wave his rights as a father, He can choose not to be involved but that doesn't get him off the hook for child support. Second, you might want to remind him that sex can equal pregnancy, seems like he would have caught on to that already. I can't tell you what decision to make, you are going to have to listen to your heart on that one. I can tell you this, what makes a great husband is someone who is there for you no matter what and is supportive whan you are faced with difficult situations. What I see is a man who is giving you an ultimatium, he is making you choose between him and your child, that doesn't seem very supportive to me. Good luck.

Ouch! This man may be a keeper, his logic may be irrefutable, but he does not understand how it feels to have a life started, and then have to terminate. As long as you can keep track of his whereabouts, he will be paying child support, and his attitude to involvement may change. You should be able to arrange termination with less than a 4 week time lag if you look around. Good luck!

Seriously just reading this post pissed me off. It's like listening to stupidity! Why even keep wasting your time with this man? If he is that quick to ditch you because your pregnant with his child then he's not going to be "the one" or "the man of your dreams". He is going to probably end up being some prick. Well... Already seems to be a prick. Thats the end of the story. I think that you should either keep the baby and leave, or not keep the baby and leave!!! Thats it! There is no other options in this story. You will only get hurt more the longer you are with him. Sory I am cold but this man needs to go thats for sure. Sounds to me he probably has other gf's and he has total control over u. Well... U either keep living this stupidity or u get up and be strong and leave him. It's not love and it's not right to threaten someone with leaving them because they are pregnant!!!! shame on him!!!

Floricica you are right. My post was pretty much pure stupidity but its exactly what's going on in my life. Thank you so much for the advice or your opinions to everyone. I've thought long and hard about the "situation" as he likes to call it and I've decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. I looked at it from these two point of views: "Which one can I do and live with myself afterwards?" and the answer is, I'd rather go through with the pregnancy because I know I'm strong enough to support and take care of the child with or without it's father. I'll leave the decision up to him whether he wants to stay in its life or not.

I really think you are making the right decision. I feel abortion is just wrong too! I also can't believe your boyfriend would try and make you choose. What a selfish man! I don't think you will regret leaving him he does sound like a loser. Sure being a mom is hard but it is so rewarding!

I am so glad you made that choice. My sister choose the other choice and terminated her pregnancy. She never fully got over it. She always blamed him and it ended up causing them to get a divorce (yes they were married and he did that!). So you always need to go with your heart. If you would have chose him it wouldnt have worked out if you blamed him. Like others stated...he may come around once he sees his child. Good luck!

I think you have made the perfect decision. I am very happy to hear the good news! and congratulations!!!!!!