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You are WAY too young. Sometimes even 25 years old is too young for a baby!! If you are in school, you're too young. If you don't own and/or rent a home you are too young. If you don't have a job that pays more than 10 bucks an hour you are too young. If you aren't married and/or in a stable relationship lasting AT LEAST 5ish years you are too young. If you need ANY financial support from ANYONE to support your baby you are too young. Even straight out of high school is way too young. You'd go to college if you cared about your would-be child so you could have a career that pays well enough to support him or her. No body wants a mom or dad that's 40 something and works at McDonalds.


Look, it's normal to want a baby. That's nature's way of helping the population grow. It isn't you that wants a baby, it's your hormones. Don't let them get the best of you. If we all listened to our hormones all the time you would not be able to separate man from beast. Think of your future child... How would you feel if your parents hadn't of waited. Picture this. Your mom had you at 16 years old. Your dad isn't around because as much as your parents THOUGHT they were in love, as much as they THOUGHT they could handle a child... He couldn't, packed his bags and left. Your mom never graduated high school or college because she was so busy with you. She works 2-3 jobs just to feed you. You never see her because of it. You stay mostly with your grandparents but you wish you had more time with your mom, you wish she could afford to put you in school, give you clothes on your back, but she can't. Your grandparents do what they can for you but it's not the same, they aren't your parents. You feel abandoned from lack of contact with your mom, so you seek attention elsewhere. The bright, happy kids that you would play with if your mom was like their parents just make you sad to be around. You have nothing in common with them... You can't feel the happiness they feel. You start to feel more and more alone when a couple of drug dealers approach you, they say they have something that'll make you feel better about yourself. So you start to do one drug after the other, doing obscene things to get them... Since the age of 13 you've never been out of jail more than 6 months.


Don't think I just made that story up... that's a true story. My brother is 24 years old, and that's his life. His parents weren't ready but they went ahead anyways.

im sorry about your brother;; I know, people tell me im to young and it might just be the hormones, ive tried talking to him about things like that and my boyfriend just gets upset with me, i really love him and want us to be happy and stay together as long as we can, is there anything i can do to talk to him and he wont get so upset with me?

Sure. Say "I know I'm too young and I shouldn't have a baby so I'm not going to." That'll solve everything.

thank you, ive gone a period of time without saying a word about it to him, but it just seems to come back and i start thinking about it A LOT! how can i just get it off my mind? it drives me insane - mom put me on birth control and i started to gain weight but i didnt know that birth control had that side effect and a couple days i actually thought i was preg. and kinda started freaking out

Get a hobby? You can't really stop yourself from wanting something or stop yourself from thinking about something... especially if your hormones are involved. The best you can do is learn to control yourself. Whenever you feel like talking about it, distract yourself. Whenever you feel like doing something really stupid (like having unprotected sex... or sex at all at your age) read a book, turn on the tv, or better yet do some homework!

lol i never have homework, ive been suspended from school for 5 month started back in october, and now i sit in iss all day so i dont get homework. He is kinda a sex addict so how can i focus his attention to something else? its hard when he loves to tease me a lot

Eww... Sex should never be casual! It not only loses all meaning, makes you lose your self-respect, it's crazy mentally unhealthy for both of you. If he's a sex addict tell him to back off or you'll tie his pecker in a knot. You know how messed up your situation is, right? Your 14, you want a baby, your boyfriend obviously doesn't... he just wants to bone you all day and you're suspended from school for god knows what, damaging your education... What the hell are your parents doing? Do they even know you exist or do they just not care?? Alright, alright... I'm probably being harsh. It's a touchy subject for me. You can never respect your body if you have casual sex and he'll never respect yours either. Sex addict... that's disgusting. He's gotta earn it! *sigh* I was in your position once and it was a stupid ass thing to do. If you ask me my advice... stop having sex altogether. He may not even want to be with you for any other reason. Tell him "I just don't want to have sex anymore, I realized I wasn't ready." and see how he reacts. If his reaction is anything but "okay, I respect that." he's a stupid asshole and you should kick him to the curb. There is no long term relationship going on if sex is such a big factor in it. Haven't you heard? Sex gets old when you have it too much. You get bored of the person you're doing it with all the time every day. That's why so many long-term married couples do it like... once a month maybe? And looking at older couples... a few times a year. If you make sex special, it IS special. It is a lasting, special, love-filled act that's 800,000,000,000 times better than it being just because.



Seriously... I know you won't really get this because you're young, you'll probably disagree, or even if you do agree you won't do anything about it. But... your kinda messing up your future.

well i had sex before i got together with him, and i was his first so yea. I know he does love me and doesnt want me only for sex. We have tried to give it a rest for a lil bit but our hormones are kinda high a lot and i got suspended from school, for getting caught with anti-depression pills on me that weren't mine cause i had 2 friends commit suicide, do you have a myspace? i like talking to you, you really seem to help

See that's even worse! How old were you when you lost your virginity? 12? 13? It's just wrong! When you're older you'll realize just how long you were. I'm embarrassed to tell people I lost mine at 14. You know how much that immediately damages someone's opinion of you? I was in a job interview and I told them I had a kid... they didn't ask it was just my choice to tell them so they'd know. They suddenly had to end the interview, it hadn't even really started. The guy kept saying "it's not because of that, I just have to go." So he wouldn't get freaking sued for it.


Anyway yeah I'm at myspace.com/2097699
I'd be happy to give you farther input.

damn that suxs, i lost it at 14 and i'll be sure to add you on myspace

i never had sex until i was almost 16 and it was probably the worst time. i ended up staying with that person in a really bad relationship for almost 3 years. We ended it a while back but that whole time i stayed with him and i never thought it was just because of sex. I don't even think i ever thought of sex when i was 14 or before this boyfriend i was with for so long anyways. I have a boyfriend/fiance now we have been together over a year i am almost 20 and still think sex messes up relationships because it gets hormones all messed up. Trust me, even casual sex can mess up relationships because you don't take into consideration your emotions at that point.

On top of that she's been with her boyfriend for a WHOLE MONTH! Talk about giving it away for free... ew. I wonder how long the other guy(s) had to wait.... couple days? "Hi nice to meet you let's doink and make babies....oh yeah and I love you or something."

Yes,babies are precious....yada yada yada.You know what else is precious?SLEEP.unfortunately the two don't go hand in hand.I am 22 and I have been married 4 years.My oldest daughter just turned 2 a couple of weeks ago and I also have a little girl who is 6 weeks old today.My baby has colic,and life has been very hard the past few weeks.No 14 year old is ready for a baby,physically,emotionally.You just aren't.I love my little girls,but that doesn't change the fact that it is extremely difficult to raise children.You are so young,a baby yourself,don't be in such a hurry to grow up.Once you do there is no going back.

It's as simple as this-if you get really hungry, would you rather throw some ground beef in a microwave to brown and throw on some hot sauce, throw it in a cold flour tortilla and eat it, or would you rather the meat be cooked on astove, ground nice, seasoned well, allowed to simmer in the seasoning, and the shell warmed and the time and option to add all your favorite fixing? You are living your life to hard and two fast, and that will get you nowhere. I mean your life expectancy is like 60 more years, reproductive age is a good 25-30 more years, and your sexual prime isn't really hit until like 40 or 50, so what are you in such a rush for? If you get everything half assed and fast, wht are you going to have to look forward to for the next 30-40 years? You are desensitizing yourself to sex, you're already wanting to tie your life down to this boy (and no matter how he acts, treats you, or chooses to do with you and that child, you will be stuck with him for the rest of yourlife) who you haven't been with long enoughto know if he is even worth it. When you have a baby, me ends. You are pretty mch dead, and a working zombie for that childs life and future. You are stll livng your life and still have so much to do-why not get that out of the way, so when the time comes to give up your life and yourself to actually be a good mother, you can do itwithout resentment or the crap that some people put on their children.

I say you should wait, 15 is to young to settle down and raise a family. You still have about 4 years of being a teen and all of highschool, you should be enjoying being a kid rather then looking after one. Wait till you graduate highschool then think about if you want to continue with school...go to college or University..or what you want do with your life to be successful and support yourself and then think if you are ready to support a baby. Another thing is what usually happens is that your parents will be looking after it and loaning you money and they've already gone through that with you, there past that stage in their life. You don't wanna drop out of highschool and you wanna hangout with your friends and go to parties and be a normal teenager, right? So wait until your older, please, I think it would be better. But its your decision and you shouldn't pressure your boyfriend to be a dad. He knows you guys aren't ready.
I Hope you make the right choice, good luck! :D

well... Planning a pregnancy is a major thing. I was pregnant while I was in highschool, and it was very very very difficult to go to all the doctors appointments and such. I was puking. I had to run out of class so many times to go and puke. I missed a lot of classes due to the doctors appointments. I had to quit smoking and all of the above. Once you have a child, you give up that free sperit life. If you want to be a good mom you wont be hanging out and drinking or chilling. Most of your friends will dissapear because you won't have much in common with them. Forget sleeping once the child is born. They wake up every 3 hours for milk and cry really really loud. WHats worse is when your in school, and your child is sick which happens often if they are in daycare. Thats when you have to miss classes or you smell like child puke for days because they r puking all over the appartments. etc I can go on and on and on about all the hard things. A baby is fun to shop for and look at but let me tell u, it is work like there is no tomorrow.