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Some kids just aren't very social. I think the best thing is not to push her. Be gentle and reassuring. Tell her that she can stay by mommy but if she feels like playing than that's a good idea and you'll always be right nearby. You could maybe get down on the floor with her.. or help her play with the others. I'm sure things will improve with time.

yea im trying that but sometimes i just get so stressed because i dont want her to be upset she cant bare me leaving her even to cook dinner but most of the time she is really social she is so happy and good with other children its just at these to places she screams nursery mother n toddler group and at my sisters ok thats 3 lol but you know its so frustrating she has gone to this nursery since january and still no improvement, But they say when i leave she stops cryin after like a minute when i drop her a nursery n they she is fine how can i get her to look foward to nursery

kids don't have the same reactions with other people as they do with their own parents.. especially with mom..

It's probably a phase.. a really annoying one granted.. but it will pass. Just be patient :)

thanks i hope so oh and also i so spely phase wrong i swear my spelling is terrible but now i know how to spell it lol

Hey - i had the same problem when my daughter was about 3 - 4 and she was in the nursery (school) every morning we woudl be find until we got there and then as soon as we went into the classroom she would start gripping onto my arm and start crying. the teachers always told me that a couple of minutes after i had left she was fine again but it used to break my heart walking out of the classroom while she was still upset. luckily that only lasted for a few months. but even now she is still really shy when we are at friends houses. even tho she has known these people all her life (she is now 6) and it does take her a while to settle down and go and play with the other kids. i agree with what Cendres said about telling her where you are and that she can always come back to you when she's playing. have to say tho that i remember her piczo site adn she is an absolute stunner. she has beautiful eyes. x

I speak from experience.
Just drop her off, give her a kiss, tell her you love her and you will be back soon, then leave and don't look back. Eventually she will get the message that no matter how much she cries, you aren't going to stay. She will just keep doing it because she knows that it upsets you enough to make you stay longer.
I would never suggest this if she did not calm down once you leave, but have confimed that she does calm down quickly when you are gone. This tells me she has learned that if she is upset , you will stay longer. She will eventually stop when she realizes that it is not working anymore. It could take a couple weeks and even after you think she has stopped she will try it again once in a while, just to test you. Stay strong and don't give in.

There are various possibilities. One is that she is going through the "fear of strangers" phase pretty late. Another is that she has been left on some previous occasion in a situation that really scared her, so now she is frightened to let you out of sight unless she is with people she knows, and knows you come back to. Or she is straight up being manipulative. Whichever the case, you do not have much choice now but to give her a hug and some reassuring words and quickly leave her to the professionals, who have lots of experience in this kind of situation. Buy T. Berry Brazelton's book Touchpoints on rearing a toddler birth to 3. Good luck!

by the sound of it shes going through a very clingy stage. when you go off or leave her for a bit, or when your attention isnt on her she becomes nervous that she isnt wanted anymore or that your going to leave her so she clings to you for dear life. she will grow out of it (she wont cling to you by the time shes 16 ) but im afriad its something all children go through

mummy2paris - i believe that this is a phase and she'll outgrow it. You just have to find a way to survive until then!!! I think my 5 year old is the most social child on earth, but starting at about the age of 2, she could not stand for me to be in the kitchen making dinner and not interacting with her. During that time, try to find a way for her to be in the kitchen with you - safely of course!! Maybe sit her at the table with something she likes to do. You can also give her a bowl and spoon and have her "help" you make dinner. Continue to encourage her to "stretch her wings" and eventually she will. Good luck.

Oh, one other thing a very wise person told me once that helps me keep things in perspective sometimes - Whatever she's doing may seem like a big problem now, but it's only a big deal if she is leaving for college and still doing it!!!! Then it's a problem ! :P