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Hope everyone is doing well and the pregnancies are going well. Not too much going on here. I'm loving work and may change my days to Mon, Wed and Thurs so I get to go to the good playgroup here at the Church on Tuesdays as I miss it. Sophie keeps asking if we can go back to the hotel we went to in Sweden and go on an aeroplane again - she's turning into a mini-me, always dreaming! Nick has calmed down a lot and is back to his usual docile teddy bear self though taking 1 less nap a day. DH did speak to the nursery to be fair to him. Poor DH's boss - they've stopped his chemo and he's gone back home to China - its so sad to think he'll die leaving 2 children under 5, one is Nick's age. My SIL's IVF failed again we've heard. We get a Bank Holiday weekend here in 2 weeks time so we're just deciding were to go, DH wants to go to his house in northern France. How is everyone?

Sorry I have been MIA for a while but we just had a long weekend and we all went to the Island to visit df's Mom. It was fun. Caden is becoming such a brat and so hard to control though. I really don't know what to do. I know it stems from jealousy over Jaxon because most of his anger and frustration is directed at me. I know I should spend more time with him but its so hard to do when I am basically a single parent...DF works way too much and it's starting to really piss me off. The only time he is home on time to see all of us awake is Sun, Mon & Wed (after 6pm...a whole hr before the Caden go to sleep). He NEVER gets up at night to help with Jaxon and has never offered. I am just so tired and feel like my patience with Caden is on a thin thread which isn't fair to him. But god does he moan and cry non-stop all day. This all started about 1.5 months ago. He cries more than Jaxon does and it's for the most silly things. I attempted to take him to the lake today so that he could play in the water/sand. I thought he would love it. But the entire time he spent either trying to poke Jaxon in the eyeball...sit on me with his dirty pants...and basically dropping & rolling on the ground in tears because I was trying to stop him from doing these things. AND the hitting is just getting worse. Its hard to do time out at a lake...and even at home is doesn't seem to be working because he just won't stay in one spot. I think I am going to have to use a play pen or something. Wow, sorry for the rant but I feel much better now. Caden is napping right now and then we will spend a good hr organizing the "plastic" cupboard which he will love. I got a whole box of Tupperware for my birthday that needs to be sorted in there. Jaxon is doing good...still likes to be swaddled like a mummy for naps and bedtime. He is still trying to get that thumb. He is easy because he doesn't mind being plonked down and just watching me sort laundry ect. Right now he is my favourite son...hehe just kidding of course.

Thanks Justine for starting the new thread! I'm so sorry about your SIL. That must be sooooo hard...and your dh's boss. I can't imagine how he (or his wife) feels. I guess the good thing is he'll always be able to see his kids, so to speak, but of course, how hard to lose your daddy at that age :( That makes me soooo sad to even think about it. DDT-wow, I wish I had some advice. I feel like I'll be in the same boat as you in about 3 months. Audrey can be quite demanding and she is very into clinging onto my leg lately. I pray she won't be a jealous brat when the baby comes. Hopefully the phase will wear off. I've found when timeout won't work (ie, Audrey won't sit where I've put her), that just setting her down away from me on the floor and I sorta ignore her for a minute seems to help. I just repeat 'you're in timeout...mama can't play with you while you're in time out"...I'm not sure it really works, but it sure pisses her off when I won't let her sit on my lap when she wants to. I imagine that is the good thing about second children, that they probably never have the same type of jealousy issues that the first does....ugh...I wish I had advice for you. Well, Audrey had her 18 month check up yesterday. She did so well, had three shots and didn't even cry!!! She is 24lb3oz (50%) and 33.75 inches (95%!!). She is very tall for a girl...she really looks like a two year old to me lately!!! The doc said all looks well. I can't believe no more well visits til she's 2!!! I'm so used to going at least every 3 months! I'm going to update my babysite tonight and then I'll post the pics...You've got to see her little pigtails...so cute!

babysites.com/sites/dawnbelasco I moved thing around to add in belly pics for baby 2. Hope that works

DDT - Sorry you're having a hard time. That must be really hard if you're DF isn't home much. If the money isn't essential (I know it often is when you've got kids) I'ld talk to him and try to get him to cut back his hours and help you out more or even pay for a cleaner for a few hours. Can either of your family's help to give you a break? I was lucky mine get on pretty well for the most part. I'ld be very strict on the hitting - its understandable he's jealous but hitting is not acceptable. Mine only occasionally push each other then I always say a loud No and say what must do to the other one - cuddle and kiss them and say sorry for Sophie and mine just do that. If not I'ld try timeout next - if he won't stay still I'ld put him somewhere he can't get out of like a crib/playpen. Another thing you can try is to ask him if he can fetch things for the baby and make a fuss of him for doing that if he'll do that. Sophie used to love doing that. Aww its really hard. I hope someone can help you out. DB - Hope Audrey likes the baby when it comes. Audrey's very tall, Sophie is too, she's as tall a lot of 4 year olds!

DB - Just looked at your pics. Audrey looks great and so do you.

Hi everyone! I haven't been on in soo long it seems. We were gone for a week and a half camping, which was great but exhausting. Camping is so much better with a trailer when you have a toddler/baby! Anyway, my new desk job is pretty boring, and daycare is closed for a WHOLE MONTH, so between dh and I we're scrambling for child care and having to take time off work. I can't believe the daycare lady closes for all of August and leaves us high and dry. I've been waiting and waiting for the pre-natal clinic to call and book my 20-week u/s but they take forever, it's been almost a month and every time I call they say "Yep, we're still waiting..." By the time they book it the baby will have been delivered, lol! The hospital I'm getting pre-natal care at this time is so big and busy I feel like they heard us preggo's through like cattle. If I have a 3rd baby, I won't be coming back to that place. The hospital where I delivered Tyler was small, but you got much more personal and faster care. Other than that, I'm afraid to weigh myself and I've finally hauled out the maternity pants, haha! DDT- I'm really afraid Tyler will have the same reaction as Caden when Baby 2 comes along. This weekend we camped with friends who have an 8 month old, and Tyler got extremely jealous and pretty violent any time I talked to or held the other baby. If he saw her playing with his toys, he would go running over and bonk her on the head or poke her in the eyes/mouth if we didn't stop him in time. I'm sure Caden's crying/whining will pass soon though as soon as his language improves; he's probably frustrated that he can't tell you what he's thinking and crying is the only way to express himself. That's too bad your df is working so much, that must be so hard to be alone all day with no help and no breaks. DB- Your pics of Audrey are so cute! Tyler is tall too, but a lot chunkier than her, lol. Last I had him checked he was 33.5" and just over 26 lbs, so it will be interesting to see where he is for his 18 month appt next week. Justine- That's too cute Sophie is ready to go back on vacation! How disappointing for your SIL with the IVF; I don't know how it works in the UK but in Canada it's very expensive. A co-worker of mine is having IVF and had to pay $14,000 in advance and there's no guarantee if it works. My dh always jokes all it cost him was a $7 box of wine followed by 2 years of agony, lol.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend. Its a bit miserable weather here. Just been to see the ducks. Sophie and Nick were emptying a drawer so I said can you two keep out of the cupboard please and Sophie said its OK Mummy we're just in the drawer! MamaGoose - Glad you had a great time camping. SIL is French (lives in France) so she gets 4 free IVFs which is good (standard there) - just had the second one fail and our aunt told us they cried forever. She's 42 though so its not really amazing its not working. In England 3/4s of people pay for IVF - its pretty random who doesn't pay, must be your first IVF and then depends on your age and address. We could have got 1 cycle paid after 4 years if we didn't move areas - not much use! Ours was £2,000 (c$4,000) and the doctor paid for the drugs £1k (c$2000). So Sophie cost us - or rather MIL - £2k. Though MIL gave DH £15k so he made a profit! I hope your co-worker gets pregnant - its really tough to go through.

It amazes me how different countries, let alone states in the US, vary their coverage of IVF...Had we needed it when we got preggo with Audrey it would've been 90% covered by our health insurance because Illinois has a Family Building Law. But when we ttc this baby, none of my fertility treatments were covered (although my doc billed them differently so they were) because even thoug I live in IL and we have the law our health insurance switched and was based out of TEXAS, therefore they did not have to follow IL state laws! Isn't that BS! Justine-I'm glad they'll get two more tries. That must be sooooooo hard! mamagoose-maybe by then Tyler won't be so jealous. He'll be 2 right, or just about? It'll be interesting to see the changes that occur in these lo's over the next six months. I am a whale...seriously. My belly is huge. I think this child is going to weigh 10lbs. I got his new bedroom decor. It's very cute. When I get it all up I'll take a pic (that could be another month though, lol). I am taking my nursing school entrance exam tomorrow night (after a nice long day at work, lovely!)...this is the ONLY thing they base your entrance in on. Let's pray I do well! I cannot retake it for 6 months!

Ok, I told dh we really need to pick/narrow down our names! Here is our top four, Landon, Logan, Owen, Gavin. My fav. of those is Owen, dh's fave is Landon. We liked Jackson too, but we are pretty sure the middle name will be Michael and Jackson Michael is questionable since Michael Jackson is such a wierdo! What are your opinions...tell me your favorites!?

DB - Hope your exam goes well. You've done brilliantly so far so it should be fine. As for the names ours are totally different over here so its hard for me to say. We have Owen and Gavin a bit and Michael a lot but never heard of Logan and Landon. I like Logan and Michael best but you should choose what you like but maybe not Michael Jackson -lol. Hope he's not 10lbs. Nick was 8lbs one week early - I was glad he wan't 2 weeks late! Sophie is still talking all day long about wanting to go on an aeroplane and driving DH nuts! He took her to an aeroplane museum but she so wasn't being fobbed off with that - she's too smart for that! She keeps packing bags for the "aeroplane" with things in for her and Nick. Sophie made me laugh the otehr day. I told her off for shaking the rose in the garden - I told her to stop it and she said No so I said Sophie stop shaking the rose you'll hurt it. So she put her arms around the rose and I said to her what are you doing? and she said I've giving the rose a cuddle to make it feel better, do I need to give it a kiss too? Lol. I've change my days at work now so I get Tues off instead of Thurs. We've booked a Bank Holiday weekend away in Oxford which should be nice. DH is being seriously grumpy at the moment - I hope it cheers him up.

Hey there! Man it seems I dont get on here much at all anymore. We have been going camping non-stop this summer. Seems as though we are making up as much as we can. We just came back from camping again yesterday. Although, I was anxious to get home. My dhs parents took care of Alexia and Isaac. Isaac since Alexia has been born has always bullied her. She was playing the other day and he pushed her into the table. She split her forehead open. My FIL took her to the emergency room and 8 hours later came it with 3 stitches. I feel so bad for my poor little girl. She is actually a bit scared everytime he comes near here now. Im not sure what to do. Im trying to give him lots of attention and he gets more then her actually. Even then he does not want her to have any!! Im not sure what to do!

Amanda - Glad you're having a good summer. Poor Alexia, hope she's OK now. Hope Isaac gets better. That must be hard - I think I'ld be strict with him when he's being naughty and give him lots of encouragement when he's being good. Sophie likes to do things for Nick - like fetch things for him. I'm lucky mine get on well for the most part and normally will happily share everything though sometimes Sophie will push Nick a bit but then I just get her to cuddle him, kiss him and say sorry and she always does that. She likes to mother Nick quite often and if he falls she'll rush over to him saying "Nick needs me" and say "Nick do you need a cuddle from me" and give him a cuddle. Nick's been really sweet today - he kept saying momma then kissing me all day. Hope this lasts! Hope everyone has a good weekend. Haven't really got any plans for this weekend.

Hi Justine! Thanks!!! I try being strict with him as much as I can. Its mostly when I have left the room, or I am busy doing something else that he gets after her. He will give her kisses and stuff but thats only when we get mad at him. Its really hard considering he is still a baby himself. He is always wanting me or his daddy. Alexia is so easy she does not demand anything. Im having a hard time understanding what im doing wrong. I hope this is phase that he will grow out of soon.
At least Alexia is going to grow up being a tough little girl.

dedaa-ouch, your poor girl!!! That sounds awful!! Hopefully it's just a phase and they'll get along great soon!! Justine, Sophie and Nick sound so adorable...so sweet to eachother...what exactly is their age difference? I hope Audrey is sweet like that to this baby...we shall see!!! We are going tomorrow to buy Audrey's new bedroom set. Big girl bedroom!!! We're going to try to move her in the big bed soon. I hope she'll stay in it. That'll be an interesting week or so I think!!! I think my exam went well. I should get my results hopefully next week. I'm so antsy to see my score...my future really depends on a good score!

Sophie gave me a hug and kiss said I love you this morning that was nice. I caught DH looking up holidays on the internet - yay. Sophie keeps asking everyday to go on an aeroplane again and back to the "monkey" hotel - its the hotel in Sweden she forgot her monkey cup at and saying she's packed a bag for her and Nick. I've been trying to get DH to get a cheap flight somewhere but so far he's just been really grumpy about it but sounds like he might be coming round. Dedaa - I'm sure you are a great Mum. I don't know how you manage two 14 months apart and a third one. I think its normal for kids to fight. DB - Glad you're exam went well - I'm sure you'll have another great result again. Sophie and Nick are 14 months apart. Sophie was a very grown up 14 months though - Nick still seemed such a baby compared to her when he reached that age. Sophie's always been quite independent which helped and naturally will share things - like she'll give all the other kids at playgroup toys and if you ask her to give Nick some of her chocolate cake, she'll give him more than half normally. I think she enjoys making him happy she says "Nick happy" and she likes to mother him and always has done like she'ld put a blanket over him in his cot when he was a little baby. I ask her to fetch things for him and say oh look Nick's happy now, thank you Sophie and try and encourage them to share - like if they both grab a book I'll ask Sophie to get another one for Nick but its basically the way they are I think. It maybe girls like to mother and I'm sure her not being clingy helped. Nick's always been a real Mummy's boy - just wants to cuddle and kiss me all day - and I think he would have been heartbroken if I'ld had another one at 14 months younger than him. I don't know if he would have hit as he's quite gentle and its very rare for him to hit, he's very docile like a teddy bear, but I think he would have cried his heart out. I hope Audrey's good with her sibling, hopefully she'll like playing mother too. Sophie called Nick "dolly" when he was born and used to get her dolly and say Sophie dolly, Mummy dolly (Nick) and say aww dolly to Nick.