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I'd be shattered. I'd be doing the same as you.
I'd possibly like to say something to the teacher. Just a brief explanation as to why you won't leave him in her care any longer and that it was hurtful to see, and you as his mother have duties to his wellbeing. Have you spoken to your son? Just a suggestion okay, i really don't know a thing, but maybe avoid making a big quiz or issue with him as he might start thinking and replaying in his mind and start a negative thinking pattern thing, it's probably made far more of an impact on you than it did on your son.

Oh my lordy! cattac i would definately be informing the director about what you saw and would not let my child anywhere near that place untill that teacher was gone! If thats what she does in front of othr adults and kids just imagine how far it could go behind closed doors! Fair enough to give him a yelling if he had deliberately been hurting another child or had already been warned but that really sounds harsh for a little one! Id have wanted to climb the fence and wallop her myself! Karens advice was great -especially asking your son about it without making him realise that it was a 'thing' y'know.

Thanks for your replies- good to hear. My stomach just sank and I got such a weird feeling when I saw it going on...you know when you know something wasn't right. My mom told me she was surprised I didn't get out of my car and run over there and ask her what she thought she was doing. I was honestly in shock though and didn't know what to do.

OMG that is horrifying!! I can't imagine seeing something like that!! Totally unacceptable! Let us know what the director has to say and what action will be taken against the "teacher" who did this!

the asst director and director were very apologetic saying no excuse. Of course the director was trying to think of possible reasons as to what could have happened even though she said there's no excuse...I think she was probably trying to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt because she probably hired her this year. They both said they were going to talk to the teacher and try to get to the bottom of it and would let m eknow what came out of the conversation with her. I told them my son wouldn't be going back there and they understood.

I'd have been in jail as I would have knocked the hell out of that teacher. Completely unacceptable for anyone to lay a hand on your child like that.

well I am honestly disappointed with the school/church. I got to know the asst director very well and thought she would have at least given me a call to follow up. This happened last Monday; went to talk with them Tuesday morning and still have heard NOTHING. Nothing from the teacher, nothing from the director or asst director. I'm not going to follow up with them but thought they would have at least called to apologize or tell me what happened and what the teacher said (I'm sure she denied the whole thing). Just says a lot about the school/church I guess.

Please for all parents out there call and complain to the local licensing agency. I run a Preschool through a Church and it really bothers my hearing stories like this because they are much more common then people think. It may be a great program with a bad teacher, but it is so hard for the Director to see things like this. I appreciate that you spoke up to the Director. The State child care licensing for KS is through the Dept. of Health and Env't so I assume it's the same everyone. I'm sorry that you had to go through this, but you are lucky that you saw it and pulled your child out. Just so you know most people would consider this abuse and the teacher would be fired immediately.

mommytobeto2- are you in ks? thats where i am. if you are im in overland park and im sure have heard of this one

I'm in Topeka.

How weird we're so close. Anyway thanks so much for your advice. I do have a question for you though since you run a church preschool...what would you have done if you would have been the director I was talking to? She apologized several times but this happened early last week and I have yet to hear from anyone there. I know she was trying to figure out that teachers perspective and maybe why she did what she did but I dont know. For some reason I dont think she took me seriously and it's not like I have a videotape or anything like that to prove what I saw and I'm assuming the teacher denied everything.

The least I would do is to put the teacher on probation and keep a very close eye on her. Our policy is that two teachers must always be together with kids, so if another teacher saw something and felt uncomfortable with the situation I would prob. fire the teacher immediately. I'm usually a very understanding boss, but when I think that a teacher has crossed a line or is no longer what is best for the children I will fire someone. I find it weird though that if you knew the asst. director ahead of time why it doesn't seem as though she took you too serious. If someone I knew and trusted told me this I would fire the person. As I said you always have to put the children first and almost always if someone can "loose their temper" on a child once it prob. has happened more often. Did you contact the State. Just to ease your mind if you don't want to get anyone in trouble, they wont' get shut down or anything, but they will keep a closer eye on the situation and it sounds as though someone needs to. Keep me posted.

Hey no I have not contacted the state. There was an asst teacher that is, to my knowledge, always there. The asst teacher was out there and witnessed everything. I'm just not sure what has gone on since I've talked with them. I knew the asst director much better than the director. I did not know her before my son started there though. I would have at least expected a call from her if nobody else so I'm disappointed. I guess I just need to forget about them in a way because although I would LOVE to know what, if anything, went on, I dont want to call them back because I feel they should have called me. Oh well. What exactly would you tell the state? Just what I told the director at the school?

I would just tell the state exactly what you saw and what action you took and say that you just want to follow-up. I could see that the school may not contact you, because there would be that fear that you may sue them and if they call and check some attorney could take that as them admitting their fault. I know it's sad, but true child care providers have to be extremely careful because of the few sue people happy out there.

I never thought of it like that and it makes perfect sense. Thanks so much for that point of view! I hope that's the only reason they haven't contacted me.

Well my husband called this morning actually and spoke to the asst director since the director was not available and she told my husband they didn't know we wanted a follow up (which I specifically did ask them for before our conversation ended last week). She also said the director talked to the teacher and that she knew the teacher was sorry for how my son took her actions and that the director was going to call my husband.