Am I To Young To Have A Baby

17 Replies
Hollie - October 6

Am I to young to have a baby to ya'll and im 19

 

Samantha - October 6

Only you will know whether or not you are ready to have a baby. There are some 19 year olds who are immature and all they want to do is party. Then there are some 19 year olds who make wonderful mothers. So only you and only you will know. Just so you know you will not get much support on this site. People on here think that if you are not 25 years of age or older that you are just a stupid teenager, and you need to grow up! Just giving you the heads up. Best wishes to you in making your decision!!

 

Hollie - October 6

Thank You Samantha and I dont like to party never have been a party girl

 

. - October 6

I've not seen one person who says on here you should be 25 or over or anyone who called teenagers stupid. I have seen Samantha called a very immature teenager, and based on her defensiveness and making statements like that which are not true...I have to agree. Is 19 too young? It depends on you. You are an adult and if you feel you are at a good place in your life and can take care of a baby, then go for it. But make sure you think of the baby and your capabilities. Are you married? Do you have good income? Do you have your own place to live?These factors should all be considered. People will tell teenagers on this site that they are too immature to have babies when they live at home with their parents expecting them to help take care of it, aren't married, still in high school, etc etc for the obvious reasons. In your case it just depends on where you are at in your life.

 

Samantha - October 6

to who ever u are i am the most mature 16 year old i know .... im married to wonderful guy.... i have my own apt. i pay my bills... so call me immature if you would like! Because you dont know me .... Everyone i meet says wow you are so mature for your age i dont know anyone like you .... so i could really care less about wat you think...

 

amanda - October 6

It depends on what you think. Don't ask people on this site, because most of them will tell you that you are to young. It depends on your maturity level not on the amount of years you have been living. Just make sure you have everything you need to give your child the best life possible. Are you married? Do you have enough money saved up? Where do you live? Do you have a safe car? Are you going to college? Who is going to watch the baby if you have to work or go to school? Are you really ready, and is your partner ready to? Just think about it, and if you are really ready then I wish you luck and hope it happens for you soon.

 

amanda - October 6

oh and . there are plenty of people who say that. read some of the posts and you will see. samantha you know that you are better then that, just remember it and dont worry about what other people say.

 

. - October 6

No, there are plenty of posts where people say that young teenagers are too immature to have babies. Which you both interperet as being called a stupid teenager. Hardly the same thing. Feel free to point out where you actually read different.

 

amanda - October 6

i am not only talking about this forum, most of the bad posts are on the teen pregnancy forum, where the older people feel that it is their place to tell us that we are stupid, immature, sc_m. but i have seen some posts on here that say the same thing only in different words. go back to when it was started and look on all the teenagers questions and see that these people say stuff that is not appropriate or go look on the teen site and look at what these people are saying to the teenagers that need help. these people who say that are supposed to be the older more "mature" people. that is where i get what i say from. i was not only talking about this site, but it does happen here, they may say it in different words but what they say amounts to the same thing.

 

carrie - October 7

Hollie,its no good taking advice from Amanda,I have'nt seen anyone call her sc_m.Amanda,you and I have been having a good bit of banter,I am enjoying it,you seem to be frustrated and angry by it.Hollie,sorry about that,you asked if you are too young at 19 to have a baby,the decision rests on you and your partner,whether you feel stable,both financially and in the relationship,know in both your minds that you have'nt rushed into it,that was you do not know different aspects and beliefs you both should share to raise an infant.I believe raising a child takes two commited people who has been together long enough to share the same values on life,which the younger people will no doubt change when they grow up a bit.

 

amanda - October 7

i wasnt only talking about me. read some posts carrie and see what people are called. most of the bad comments are just poor tasted and are taking off of this site but there still are some. and look at the teen pregnancy site while you are at it and see what people 25-40 are saying to these girls.

 

amanda - October 7

.And Carrie what was wrong with my advice? You need money to raise a child, you need a stable relationship, you need a car, you need to be really ready, you also need to know who is going to watch your child when you are not there. huh guess I am wrong about all that stuff to, stupid me.

 

mandy - October 7

Amanda,there was nothing wrong with your advice,but maybe what Carrie means is that you cannot see anything wrong in marrying at 14,here in the u.k that is illegal,why is that?Because as Carrie said you are a "SCHOOLGIRL"yes,a girl,growing up,not one ready to commit into a lifelong relationship,maybe it will work,maybe it won't.but you did not give yourself long enough to find out.Carrie gave you sound advice.As I told you,I am 25 with 2 kids,I was'nt at 18 to become a mum,its hard work.Why can't you understand how wrong 14 is?

 

amanda - October 7

Why cant you understand that my choices are none of your business? You think she gives sound advice, that good but did I say something about her advice? no I did not. She was the one coming on here and telling hollie not to listen to my advice, sorry but people need to think about those things when they are going to have a baby.

 

To; Amanda - October 7

"Why cant you understand that my choices are none of your business?" Again, if you do not like people not agreeing with your choices and giving their opinions (which they have been, not attacks), then do not put your life story out there on a forum like this.

 

. - October 7

Hi. I started a thread called "to all teens ttc and those who argue with them". It might be relevant here.

 

JJ - October 8

hey hollie. it depends on how u feel and how scure u are. having a baby is hard work, and takes alot of time and patience. do u wnat it for the sake of wanting a baby becuase its cute and that, or do u feel that this is the time in your life that motherhood steps in? everything happens for a reason i believe and if it happens naturally it will, jut dont force it. oh and aslong as u think about the future too, i mean are u guna grow up regreting it wishing u had had more time and finished ur career path or are you guna look back and kno that that was the best decision of ur life. i hope u make the right decision for u and ur baby

 

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