How To Make Him Understand

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Dee - November 9

Here is the thing, Im 20 now and I have the urge for a baby. My husband and I agreed on having a baby around 22 or 23 but I just cant stop thinking about it. Its almost like my body is telling me that Im ready, I dont like the feeling because its driving me nutty. I have spoken to him about it but he wont agree. We have 3 family members who are all pregnant and having babies soon, so he thinks its because of that, but I dont think so. I really want a baby but I dont really understand why, the urge came from no where. I hope it will pass but it just doesn't seem to want to. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do.

 

Bonnie - November 9

I can understand exactly what you are going through. I wish I could make you feel better but I'm afraid the urge doesn't go away. At least for me it didn't. But you definately need to be patient and wait for when your DH is ready too. You are still young and have plenty of time as well. Try to enjoy spending this time alone with your DH for a while first. Once children come along, it will be a LOOOONG time before you and your DH are alone again. Nice romantic evenings, s_x, special dates.....there's no spontaneity in them anymore and will have to be planned around your children. That's something I kind of miss, but then again I had 7 years alone with my DH too and I'm really glad we did. Enjoy your time while you can, a few years won't make a huge difference in the long run when you consider how long your children stay with you. :) Good luck!

 

Dee - November 9

Bonnie, thank you for the advice.. You said you wish you could make me feel better, I wish you could too. I have been with my DH for 4 years now, we have spoken about children alot and I know he would make an amazing father. I Know Im still young to be even thinking about a baby but like I said, I cant help it, its like my body has taken over my mind, It feels so right and yet I'm affraid. Anyway, thank you again for the advice and support.. It means so much to me.

 

Bonnie - November 9

Np, I can totally relate as I was ready WAYYYY before my DH was, lol. But he finally came around. I'm sure yours will too. There is certainly no harm in waiting a little more if he wants too. It's tough on us women though when we want one so bad, especially when you have your family members all pregnant. But think of it this way....once you finally have yours, their children will be a little older so yours will get lots of attention. Heh, goodluck!

 

BUMP - November 10

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Melissa - November 14

If he is not ready yet, you have to respect that! You agreed to wait until 23 or so, and you should stick to that agreement. If at 23 he is still not wanting a baby, then you can decide what is best for you at that point. But you really don't have any right to pressure him into having a baby.

 

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