I AM 20 AND WANT A BABY

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SHEENA - May 9

MY HUSBAND AND I JUST GOT MARRIED AND WE BOTH REALLY WANT A BABY BUT DONT WANT TO DISSAPOINT MY MOM.SHE IS A VERY NICE AND UNDERSTANDING PERSON BUT WANTS ME TO FINISH COLLEGE FIRST.I WANT TO GO AHEAD AND GET STARTES I LOVE BABIES.MY HUSBAND IS 25 WILL BE 26 THIS.WE BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH AND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 5 YEARS.WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT IT SINCE THEN.WE ARE VERY RESPONSIBLE AND DO NOT DRINK AND PARTY OR DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT.I WAS JUST WONDERING SHOULD I START A FAMILY?

 

To:Sheena - May 9

Sheena I think that if you are very commited to your relationship with you hubby and between the two of you the money you make is enough to support a child on your hands then go ahead you are a married women now, but you have to consider that juggeling a baby and school at the same time will leave you very busy and perhaps not have enough time to spend with your child. Remember your mom wants the very best for you. Just as some advice, If I were you I would finish college get the degrees you need, take a year off to concive a child and raise the baby, and then start a job to support the family aswell. Best of Luck!

 

Sheena - May 10

Thankyou, so much for your imput on this it means alot to me.I will take your advise into consideration.I have 2 years left though and i dont want to wait that long.I want what is best for our baby though.I am so confused.

 

sheena - May 12

Can someone else please help?

 

Jessica - May 12

I know what it feel like to want a baby so bad that you would do anything, ive been there. but just think if you did wait until you finish college you would have alot more time to spend with your baby and im sure you would want to spend as much time as possible with your little one. but if you think that you can do it and still have time for your baby while in college then i say go for it if you really think you are ready. good luck on whatever decision you make.

 

Anna - May 12

Sheena, I am 20 years old also and am 15 weeks pregnant, also I go to college full time. Although I'm getting my AA in two weeks, and am very happy about being pregnant, there is a lot I have to consider now. Because I'm due in November, I can't possibly go in the fall. I also am taking a year off to be with the baby-although it will be rough, especially financially, my love and I anticipate having a child, and I don't regret it at all. All the advice I can give is-go for what is in your heart-if you want a baby have one. And love him or her no matter what! Good luck!

 

Alison - May 13

Sheena, a very good friend of mine who is a few years younger than me was at uni when she fell pregnant unexpectedly. She had been married 2 years (got married young, was 21 when she conceived) but had been using the "timing" method to avoid pregnancy which obviously isn't very reliable! Anyway she took a year out of uni while she had her little boy and is now back finishing her course and has a childminder 3 days a week. She is a wonderful mum and her little boy is lovely. I do think if you can it would be best to wait a couple of years but if you do get pregnant it doesn't mean your work will be lost. Take care xxx

 

Sheena - May 16

Thank everyone for helping me with this it has helped to hear what you think.I am really exited to have a baby now because i am really ready.I will wait a little longer just to be sure but i have wanted a baby for a long time and now iam not a teen anymore and my baby will get everything she or he needs.I am really happy about this but still want responses before i make my decision.thank eveyone

 

Carlie - May 17

If you really want kids and you and your husband agree on the subject, then I would say, its fair for you to go ahead. However, as a woman who wed before she finished school, I would strongly encourage you to finish your degree. I did so, even though at times I just wanted to quit and focus on being married. You'll be so proud you did. And pleasing your parents is worth something too, you know. If you're woman enough to handle it, I suggest trying to plan your pregnancy so that you concieve sometime late in the school year which will leave you summertime for your late pregnancy and delivery.

 

Elyn - May 17

Sheena, it sounds like everyone's on the same page here. My husband and I wanted a baby badly too. I did get pregnant and was in school full time. It was a busy time for me to do both so I decided to concentrate on my son before he starts preschool this August and go back then. You never know what can happen to stall your plans again. I'm also pregnant now with my second and will have to wait even longer. Please finish school first and you'll never have to wonder 'what if I had finished school first'. Good Luck!!

 

Jo - May 18

Sheena, go for it, i got married @ 19 and fell with my son shortly after i had him @ 20, and now planning no.2 @ 21. It was the best decision i made. how i look at it is when thomas is ten for example i will be young enough to go and still get a career. You have made the commitment of marriage and from how your talking you sound like you know what you want you. my mother in law was dead set against us "rushing into a baby to soon" and now she wouldnt be without him. Having an older hubby helps, mines 30. go for it and good luck!!

 

chrissy - May 18

Hi! I kind of know how you feel. I really want a baby and I have 1.5 years of graduate school left and am worried about not finishing my degree. I would at least suggesting finishing your undergrad or like others have suggested, plan to have it right after you graduate. The degree is something no one can take away from you and, even though it can be done, so many people fail to finish their schooling after a baby comes. Finishing school is like investing in yours and your babies future. Plus- a little stat_tistic- the more education the parents have, the more education the child is likely to earn. Only you can know what is right for you. Good luck with whatever you decide.

 

Sana - May 25

hey sheena. I'm 20 and i just finished my 2nd year at university. I'm married and pregnant right now but still continuing my studies. It's going fine. It's not expected to be easy, but with the proper scheduling and prioritizing it is very possible to walk out with both a degree in whatever you are studying and a new healthy beautiful baby. Go for it! Havinga husband there by your side makes things alot easier as well. I am about to finish my final year now, God willing, and looking forward to having a sweet little baby to take care of with my husband.

 

jessica - May 26

it of course is your decision to make however let me tell you about a friend of mine who got pregnant at that age and had sort of the same kind of circ_mstances.....they were married in august her son was born in april the next year didn't take long to conceive for them. after she became preg her husband began drinking a lot and going to bars. after her son's 1st birthday she walked in on him and another woman having s_x in HER BED!! She didn't think he'd be capable of such cruelty. Now her son is 3 they are divorced and he is a dead beat dad who doesn't pay his child support only 100$ a month and doesn't even want to see his own son.

 

Sana - May 26

I think sheena and her husband have their head on straight from the way she was sounding; especially if they are religious and moral people, that would make it even better. so Sheena if you trust your husband and her is not this kind of person and you two stay away from the evils of alcohol that almost every religion prohibiits if you dig deep enough in the doctrine, then you will be fine, God -Willing...

 

Kris - June 1

You Go Girl! If you want to have ababy and your hubby does to, I say go ahead and have one! Good Luck !

 

Alicia - June 3

sheena im 19 (20 in november) and me and my fieance decided to try for a baby I know 20 is considerd "young" but i could never be happier. my family thought i was crazy untill they relized how happy i am, the babys due dec 25. Some people just feel ready more than others i think if your both ready go for it!!

 

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