Attitudes About Breastfeeding Geesh

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Olivene - July 10

Hi. I was just talking to my friend and she decided to share a story about how her lunch was recently interrupted because of br___tfeeding. She was eating lunch with a co-worker when she noticed a lady br___tfeeding her baby. She apparently saw the lady's whole br___t at some point. My friend said she lost her appet_te and it was all she could do to finish her lunch! WHAT!? I could understand if someone vomited or something, but br___tfeeding?! Why does anyone think it is disgusting? I just don't get it! Is this a common att_tude in America? What is the deal!?

 

Olivene - July 10

Oh, yeah, and my baby is due in less than a month, and I am planning to b___stfeed- my friend knows this! How do you deal with these att_tudes?

 

sahmof3 - July 11

I don't know what the deal is. I did try to keep well covered when b___stfeeding in public, to be respectful (and because I don't feel comfortable having them just hanging out for anyone to see), but still I did in restaurants and other public places, because really, what's worse to those people, just KNOWING that someone around them is b___stfeeding or hearing your baby screaming? I mean it's weird, because in some ways it seems that more and more people are realizing how much healthier it is to b___stfeed, but they don't want to see it happening!

 

Renee-Marie - July 11

I think it's got a lot to do with society. the female body has been reduced to no more than a s_xual object, and b___sts especially are for oggling, not for nurturing. I have to admit, years ago, I too was embara__sed, even offended, when I saw someone b___stfeeding in public. Now, I AM that woman and you know what - I'll have it no other way. I feel so empowered to beable to fulfil my childs needs on my own. Screw anyone who thinks it's gross. I didn't factor the publics opinion into my decision to b___stfeed my baby. Who do they think they are anyway?

 

Susan W - July 11

Unfortunately, it is a very common att_tude in America. I dealt with it by staying close to women who also choose to nurse, to not be embarra__sed and to do what is right for my child. I covered up when I could -- that does stop, as eventually your kid realizes they can pull the cover off! -- but I ended up learning how to nurse without a cover and nobody ever knew what I was doing. If you are interested, LLL has a forum specifically to address dealing with criticism.

 

Olivene - July 12

Thank you, ladies, for replying. I was just really surprised about my friend's reaction because usually she is such a rational person! Right now I am living in Japan and very much enjoying the acceptance of all natural aspects of motherhood as normal. I am just wondering how much culture shock I will experience when we return home to America in 4 months or so.. I am looking forward to the b___stfeeding part very much, but hadn't previously given too much thought to public opinion. I have one good friend who b___stfed- I think we'll spend more time with them!

 

Petzer - July 12

Let me tell you. I was at a Childrens hospital with my son. a CHILDRENS hospital. We were waiting for the xray techs to get to us and my ds was hungry so I started to feed him. I was covered as much as I could be. The tech came out to tell us that it would be a while. He saw that I was nursing and asked me if I wanted a private room. I told him I was fine, and he said well it might be making others uncomfortable. I couldn't believe that, it's INSANE... Well, he kept going on about it trying to make me feel bad for doing it there in public. I told him that it is a natural and wonderful thing that I am doing for my child, and the law protects my right to feed my child anywhere I d__n feel like it, and if he had any more complaints he could keep them to himself. I mean come on this i sa hospital for children only, you would think they have some sort of decency there. Anyways just wanted to vent. Stand up for your rights, do what you want and if it makes others that uncomfortable, THEY can leave. Don't mean to sound like a terrible person, just that it really ticks me off, they way society treats women who b___stfeed. Someone even told me it was perverse. Can you believe that?

 

Olivene - July 12

Petzer, I know, it is like it is dirty or something. It is all of these s_xual connotations that are dirty, but people really cling to those ideas. Why do people place a higher value on the b___sts for their s_xual purpose than for their nutritive purpose? If anything is perverse, it is that!

 

Ginny - July 14

I like to respond with something equally as rediculous, like, "I know what you mean! Because drinking from a bottle is so much less work and is WAY more natural!! I'd rather get up in the middle of the night and prepare bottles and warming them, than just wipping out my b___st ANY day of the week. Who do people think they are?" But then again, I'm a smarta$$.

 

Sophia - July 16

I'm amazed that people can actually dislike glancing at a b___stfeeding mother! I haven't experienced this sort of thing. My experience was to the contrary. I was on a plane feeding my hungry daughter, and the waitresses would look and smile, and even gave me extra snacks and juice! There was a guy across the aisle who discreetly took out a magazine and was reading that whole time, and later admired my baby's calmness when we were leaving the plane.

 

Miriam - July 17

I personally am not at all bothered by people feeding in public. But I just can't do it myself. I don't think I would be able to do it discreetly because my son likes to take brakes and look around. Plus I just feel uncomfortable. My husband was encouraging me to get one of those punchos so that I can do, but I just don't know. I guess society does rub off on you. I think it would be different if more people b___stfed.

 

Kim L - July 18

Oh please - she was revolted by catching a glimpse of the mother's b___st to the point that she could BARELY finish her lunch? Does she not have b___sts? Does she nearly vomit when she takes her shirt off to get into the shower in the morning? People are so twisted. UGH!!!!!!

 

Olivene - July 18

I know, Kim, I was completely baffled! I think it is lovely to b___stfeed and I just don't get why a b___st is offensive, baby on it or not. I don't have a lot of family or friends who b___stfed and now I'm wondering if it is going to be a big deal everytime I feed my baby!

 

Susan W - July 18

Ladies, FYI, if ANYONE tells you you can't b___stfeed anywhere in the US, tell them to buzz off. It is not illegal anywhere!! . . .OLIVENE, when you do come back to the US, I bet one of the first questions you will be asked is when you are planning to wean. It's far from common here to nurse past 6 months, if that long. I was severely critized for nursing for nearly 2 years, when the WHO recommends 2 years! . . . .But if we all stand up for what we believe, in a non-threatening or offensive way, att_tudes can change. It's just we live in such a s_xualized society that anyone using a b___st for the actual reason it's on a woman's body it freaks people out. . . Hang in there with nursing everyone!!!

 

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