Fetal Pole Wednesday Empty Ges Sack Friday

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LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

Hi Everyone. For those of you who have been following my post threatened miscarriage. Yesterday I found out I lost my baby =( Just to refresh: I got positive preg. test a few weeks ago. On Wednesday I went to doctor and by LMP I was 7wk6d. The baby measured 5wk6d. The size was ideal for my dates & my late ovulation(long cycler here!). I went to doc on Wed. b/c I was spotting brown. Not much but scanty. No cramps and my symptoms very strong. They saw fetal pole but no heartbeat, however they were pleased with the size and said come back in two weeks. Then my HCG levels came in. On 6/13 it was 2311.8 (low for a 5wk 1d measurment maybe but still in range). On 6/18(day of spotting) it was 2200something. Went down. OUtlook not good? Yesterday I coudn't sit knowing the levels, so I went to the OB I never seen before but had scheduled for my first Prenatal Appt. in July... She didn't like the stats I gave her, but was optimistic. She took blood, examined me. Said the spotting wasn't much her concern, as was the level stats. So then she told her tech to give me sonogram. ONLY SACK. No more yolk or fetal pole and the sack was changing shape and small. =( I am sad.. one day see my dot on screen, feel my body nourishing a baby even if so tiny.. next two day.. nothing.. GONE. I was told the preg prob wasn't viable from the get based on levels but even so, she advised how it was great I got pregnant on my second try and it wasn't meant this one.. my body sees that and it let it go before major development. I know =( ... My question is 1)then why did a embryo even devleop? If it did then doesn't that mean things are going good? 2)alhto she explained it some, I was in a zone so I want to ask you guys.. in two days.. is it just expelled from the sack? absorbed? came out with spotting? and 3)I am schedule to get D&C Wed night but I may push it to Friday b/c the wkend I rest. She said the ges sac may come out but she wants to clean me out and so I can start fresh and I am fine with this but scared of the process a lil. Also, would it start to come out on its own? Thank you ladies for reading and thank you ladies for your answers to my 3 concerns. (p.s: I am RH negative I think they may give me a shot and also- I believe she said she will be sending somethings to the lab so 4)what can they discover?) Thanks again ladies and my thoughts are out to all of you in here as well =( ? (I posted this in another forum but put it here for those of you who have been following and concerned- THANK YOU! for those that can offer insight.. I appreciate it) I plan to be back after a cycle or two but I may not write until I am in the clear- however I will be back!

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

I just don't get the whole fetal pole one day.. two days later gone.

 

FinallyPreggers - June 21

Lady, I'm so sorry for your loss. They checked my Rh when I started spotting and were very concerned about it. If it was negative, I think they might have given me shots from the beginning. So please do ask about that in case they can give you shots from the beginning next time. I hope your next time comes really soon. I'll be watching for you. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I'm glad you found a good OB.

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

Thank you FinallyPreggers. For the next few days I will prob be on for input. The shot they give at 28 and 32 weeks (approx.) but w/miscarriage I believe the shot is needed. I shall find out next week. I am just having wacky hope they HCG comes back super high and the ultrasound before the procedure will show the fetus again lol. I know I am just having wacky hope. But with all seriousness what will this be called since the fetus was seen days prior. (I will ask more ques. of course when I go back, it was just that yesterday I was too in a "zone" to generate questions while so numb inside)

 

breezieb - June 21

I am so sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know that doesn't help much when you are hurting but know ou have support here!!!!!!!!!!!! ok as for your questions I had 2 m/c in 2007 at 6 weeks and at 9 weeks...your body knows if the babies cells are not lining up right and it is natures selection and it naturally rids a pregnancy that isn't healthy ...there are # of reacons for this but from what I understand d-n-a not lining up is a common factor. When the send it for test that can determne if that is the case or if it was do to something in your body that might need some adjusting like hormones etc. so the test is a good thing because if it was something like that the doc can help get you better b4 the next pg. And the good thing about the d-n-c is that you get pregnant quicker after having one. It is great that it only took 2 tries. I also get pregnant real easy( 1-2 tries) but then had 2 m/c...I know me and this man can have babies since I have 2 kids but for some unknown reason I had them....My doc put me on progestrine with this pg because it helps women who are at rsk for m/c sustain the pregnancy(as much as nature allows) ask your doc about using this on your next pg. I will pray for u and dh for peace and understanding and that you are soon blessed with another!! i am hear if you want to talk vent scream etc..... Please just let me know

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

breezieb- thank you so much. it is very endearing to have this support and i appreciate u much. i am sorry for your losses in the past but your story gives hope and i am excited for you w/ur current preg. best wishes! i hope to be able to offer woman hope real soon. in fact after 3rd month i plan to sit and do just that b/c it means so much to get it! ...right now i am in the phase where i am talking with my mom back and forth with questions/pointing things out back and forth all morning. also i am faced w/retelling the story to the people i chose to tell i was pregnant =( ...Physically i have a lil period cramps like it may come but it don't. i do plan to take it easy and i imagine a d&c next week would b suffice. there is jus a sac now so i wonder does it stay put until hcg goes low before it tries to come out? i am hoping it holds off until d&c. speaking of can u share your exper w/d&c? as for trying thereafter, was advised to wait 2 cycles to try thereafter. one thing at a time right =/ (thanks again breezie and i hope you are enjoying your wkend)

 

mcbee - June 21

LadyBoleyn1, I am very sorry. I've been there. I've lost 3 pregnancies. I just wanted to answer one of your questions. When I had my m/c, I expelled everything on my own. My body just flushed it all out, and I never had to have a D&C. However, I don't think that's the case with every woman. If they say you need a D&C, you should probably get one b/c you don't want to risk infection. Plus, you make sure everything is all ready for your next attempt. It will happen. Stay positive!

 

newbaby2009 - June 21

So sorry for you're loss. Like finally said they really should have given yu a rhogam shot when you 1st started spotting. Im Rh neg as well and have had 3 miscarriages. I had to have a rhogam shot with even the tiniest hint of spotting. Dont worry about the d&c.. It doesnt do any damage as long as its performed correctly.

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

Thanks for your input. I will talk with the OB as soon as I see her. before I was running in and out of Gy's so fast in panic etc cause I didn't have an OB yet. But I found a great OB who took careful attention to the fact I am negative and dh positive so I am expecting our next visit (altho its the d&c) to discuss this. I am afraid now the fact I didn't. I think they have a test to check the antibodies though, don't they. O god I hope this isn't something I have to worry about now =/ ... But this is my first pregnancy that I am aware of so hopefully its not to late to get the shot and make things right.... I don't believe this happened

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

u kno wats most odd is how the fetus is there one day and now no yolk or pole in ges sac. i asked where it goes she advised absorbed or expelled in the discharge. i was too in upset to think of more ques bc now i have so many.

 

breezieb - June 21

lady - as for my D-N-C's( I have had 2) they said to wait 1 month but I seen sites that said 2 and 3. i opted for three and went on baby asprin, zinc, folic acid, prenateals etc. i stopped the pill in april and had my first cycle on May 17th and got pregnant very first try. I had my doc do hcg and progestrine checks right away!! I am really hoping the progestrine helps...I really have so much confidence being on it!!! maybe you can set that up with your doc. But yeah my previous doc said just one cycle was enough. I guess it depends on your comfort level. He also said since the clear everything out it is easier to get pregnant after d-n-c but because they clean everything out is why you need that month to build up linning again. The d-n-c it self was never painful for me (u don't feel it while they do it cause u r asleep) but afterwards I had light cramps for 1-2 days and had minimal bleeding defently smaller than AF worth. are you gonna see how you feel in regards to trying again or set a timeframe now? Also there is this really cool poem called transformation when I am having a hard time I read it and It helps! It is by Martha Beck if you google it should come up.

 

breezieb - June 21

I just seen about the rh- my SIL is also rh- and the doc gave her rohgam shot to after her misscarrage and I was with her when he explained that with any type of bleeding it needs to be folowed up with rohgam shot because if not then when your body goes to make antibodies it will make specific to attack the foreign blood in your body( I didn't explain it wel but it is along those lines) Have you ever been given a rohgam shot b4?

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

Breezie I am going to look up that poem. I like the t_tle. Thank you so much! As for the shot, I never had it before but I will def make sure I get it when this is all said and done. You said "after" the miscarriage so I imagine you mean when she was through with bleeding and/or d&c? Today I started light cramping and the brown is much heavier. Feels like an af is going to start.

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

as for trying again dh wants to as soon as possible. ideally i wanted to work out a little so perhaps i will see how i feel once i get the first af after dnc and then perhaps the cycle right after or at the latest.. after the second cycle. i doubt i can wait so i will prob def try the cycle right after the first. does that make sense? (lol- cycle after the cycle after the cycle).

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

breezie- i am a litle bit scared now. should i be getting the proced in hospital with monitors etc.? right now i feel the bleeding is going to start. (ps thanks so much i really need someone who can relate to talk to.. so even this posting here and there really really helps =) .....

 

LadyBoleyn1 - June 21

i have a feeling i am going to miscarry naturally. i think i already sort of did only the sac is left. i am like in the stage right before af blood comes on down so if it does come out.. what can i expect and then perhaps i will not need this procedure that i am now scared of =( (breezie thanks again in advance and i hope ur enjoying your saturday. my mom was kind to take me food shopping and she did my dishes and vacuumed for me. dh is at work)

 

breezieb - June 21

lady- i understand your need for support I wish I new of this site when I m/c. As far as the location I think it is fine I am sure she has done it that way a million times and also my cuz was fine like that and you have to imagine girls who get abortions(same exact procedure) they do it safely in a clinic and from what i understand they are only given a valium to take to ease erves and the rest is fine because the numb you down there so you don't feel it. Maybe a little pressure. also it is a quick procedur...i actually wish I was only sedated instead of asleep because it is easier to shake the sedation when done. and like I said either way it wont hurt and it is done safly in regalur clinics all the time. I understand your fear though because even though 1 had the first one I was still nervous for the second one even though I KNEW it was painless. It is just intimidating not to mention your emotions are a rollercoaster from falling hormones and feeling the loss of your baby. with my SIL she went in for spotting and seen a blighted ovum and gave her the shot but she had a baby before and they gave her a shot after having the baby. From what I understand they have to give it whenever you bleed I don't know why exactly. I am going to ask her though maybe she can help me understand it a little better. I have to go to the store I will finish when I come back lol..sorry so long :)

 

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