Pregnancy After Miscarriage

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*Kelley* - July 12

I am currently pregnant for the second time. I miscarried last march at 12 weeks. I believe today I am exactly at 10 weeks, but will not know for sure until my first dr appt on thursday. The calculators tell me by my lmp that I am due Febuary 7th, 2006. Looking for someone who is around my age (22) to talk to. It's very easy to get worried over the slightest symptom or lack there of.

 

stacey - July 12

I'm not your age (32), but am in a similar situtation. I had a missed m/c in Jan.at 8 weeks- baby only grew to be 6.5 weeks. I am currently pregnant again (in 6th week) and am nervous as all sin abot everything. Also, my neighbor is pregnant (2 weeks more than me) and we have such differnent symptoms. We are aprehensive to share the news until we see the baby's heartbeat.(last time there was a low heartbeat, then nothing)

 

*Kelley* - July 12

I never even knew I was pregnant with the last one. I had no symptoms and had my regualr period. I did not find out until I had a ma__s in my stomach and excessive bleeding. It was traumatic because I never saw it coming. I am terrified to tell anyone as well. I am sure that once I pa__s the 12 week mark I will feel a little better. Is this your first child? I am also struggiling to find a way to stay at home with my child. I am going back to college as well. It seems as though everything hit me at once. It gets a little overwhelming.

 

stacey - July 12

yes, it does get overwhelming! This is my first child. I just resigned from my job (as a teacher) and am trying to figure out what I will do. I will stay home once the baby is born, so it hinders what type of job I can look for. I was thinking daycare teacher, but I am due in March, so I would only be working for about 6 mos. You should finish college- is there someone that can help you out with the baby? Did you tell people about your miscarriage?Were you trying to get pregnant? Sorry for the 20 questions..

 

*Kelley* - July 12

No we weren't trying to get pregnant. I am just so sensitive to the birth control pills. I was on bc when I got pregnant this time. I told no one. My best friend was pregnant at the time. I quit my job and was depressed for almost 1/2 a year. How did you handle it. I sat home watching TLC "A Baby Sory". I realized that I need to get settled before we tried again. No not really, but I am taking all my cla__ses online from a state university. I am taking accounting so I can definetly work from home with that. I thought about the day care as well but my fiance didn't really go for it. By the way, I have been engaged for 3 years. He's so excited, of course he is 3 years older than me too. But my only concern is that we bought our house only 2 years ago, just got a new car... and here I am. I am not sure I can afford not to work. With the cost of day care, I would be working for my child to be there. Have you had your first Dr. appt yet?

 

Amy - July 12

kelley hi i'm 28 and i m/c in may and got pg about 3 wks later i to i'm so worried about every thing i went for a u/s june 30 and all we could see was a sac and heart motion so i was told to come back in 2 wks to make sure that the baby was growing right so that is all i have been thinking about for the last 2 wks i go thur for u/s and i hope we see the baby and it is doing good

 

Tiffany - July 12

I am 24 and miscarried in the beginning of April with my first baby. I am now 10 weeks pregnant due Feb 8th. I have a party planned at 12.2 weeks to tell all of my friends I'm pregnant. No one knew last time and I'm just praying this pregnancy goes to term. It is a very scary thing. I still think about how far along I would have been

 

stacey - July 12

Tiffany- I think of that all the time too! Especially since a friend of ours is due the week after I would have been. KELLEY- the cost of daycare is huge which is why I decided to be a stay at home mom..My job would basically be to pay for the daycare.Crazy! Plus add to that the cost of gas, clothes etc to work..it was just better to stay home. I have all the same $ concerns though- house car payments etc..Can we manage?- We have to :) Good luck to us all!!! (Oh, we are married a little over a year)

 

*Kelley* - July 13

Tiffany - I did the same thing. Now I look back and think of how old our child would be. It's an extremely hard thing to deal with. Amy - I am sure that everything is fine. Is it bad that I haven't had my first dr's appt yet? They didn't schedule me until the 14th (I will be a little over 10 weeks). By the way how was your dr's appt? What all happened? Stacey - I know what you mean about daycare... it will just be hard to convince my fiance. He is a very financial person and is always worried about money. The way he is so excited and involved makes me think otherwise though. Is your husband very excited?

 

Cheryl - July 13

Hi Kelley, Stacey and Tiffany. I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm a little over 6 weeks and went for an ultrasound yesterday. We saw the baby (tiny!) and the heartbeat. While it made me feel better, I'm still nervous about another miscarriage. I had one at 6 weeks and another at 10.5 weeks. Honestly, I don't think I'll ever completely relax, but I know I'd feel a lot better to make it to the second trimester! I read somewhere that pregnancy after miscarriage is 9 months of nervousness. Its hard because, while I'm nervous, I would like to just enjoy being pregnant and do all of the fun things that planning for a baby can bring! My next ultrasound is on the 22nd, so that will help. I'm hoping for the best for all of us! P.S. Stacey, I think we're on another Q&A about March babies. =)

 

stacey - July 13

Hi Cheryl- yup it's me again :) I was just wondering about your m/c at 10.5 weeks- did you already hear the heartbeat- or did you say you hadn't been for an u/s yet? I have so many weird feelings that I am so nervous (especially weird feelings in my back), but I keep taking my temp and it is still up, plus I still take pregnancy tests (and they are as dark as the control line) so I figure that all has to be good. I am very neurotic huh? :) KELLEY- my hubby is excited, but he's a more internal person- he says this one is more real than the last one b/c in the last pregnancy he wasn't aware of all the worries and possiblities. Now he is, so I think he is (we both are) a bit apprehensive about getting excited, but I make him talk to my belly every day so that it feels a bit more real to him. (My husband has never been around babies or had interaction with alot of pregnant women, so I am trying to break him in :)

 

Amy - July 13

kelly my dr makes app at 6wks this is my 5 pg but i had 1 m/c so on my first app went fast we just talked about how my other pg went and then she took me back for the u/s i did't need a pap cause i had one in jan and i guess ins. don't pay for more that 1 a year but i go tomorrow for another u/s i will let you know when i get back

 

*Kelley* - July 13

Amy - did your bf/dh go with you? I think that makes me even more nervous because mine won't be able to go with me tomorrow. I always think that it's harder for him to really grasp that we are having a baby because nothing in him has changed. He only hears what is happening when I don't feel well. I am sure that once you start to show it's easier to bond with the baby. I am also noticing that I am overly obsessed about being prepared. I have looked at every stroller, car seat and crib. I think it helps me to feel rea__sured. Was anyone ever given a reason for their miscarriage? Till this day (more that 1 1/2 year later) I question it everyday. When everything was said and done I walked out of the hospital with no answers. Even with a follow up dr's app I had no answers. I know that they say that the reason is mostly unknown or due to abnormal chromosomes but has anyone got any closure?

 

BD - July 13

i just had an ultra sound yesterday and i dont know how far along i am because i had a dnc on 5.4 and did not have a period in between. When my doc called me yesterday he told me everthing looked normal and they saw a fetal pole but it was too soon to c a heart beat. I am worried cause alot of the other posts i read they say they were 5 wks along and saw the heart beat, and the doc said they could not see one yet. if there is a fetal pole should they have seen a hb? and what the heck is a fetal pole? i tried looking it up on goole but did not get a real clear answer? I have also had some brown discharge for about 4-5 days and they say its normal. I am freaked out cause i feel like im going to miscarry all over again.

 

Cheryl - July 13

Hi Stacey- No I didn't have an u/s the second pregnancy either. If I had, it probably would have been a missed miscarriage. My fertility specialist figured out that my body was releasing lots of immature eggs instead of one fully mature egg each month. So, that's what led to my miscarriages both times. I was getting pregnant, but there was no chance of a baby developing. The Clomid took care of that, but it doesn't relieve my anxiety! I know what you mean about taking the tests, I don't have strong symptoms, so I worry a LOT. I know it sounds silly, but I worry every time I go to the bathroom (which is obviously a lot!) because I'm afraid I'll start spotting. I'm a teacher too, so while its great to have the summer off to relax and take care of myself, it gives me way too much time to think and worry. Its good to talk to other people who are experiencing the same things. It helps me feel a little less crazy! =)

 

Cheryl - July 13

BD- I hope everything is alright, was it your doctor's office that said the discharge was normal? If not, I would definitely give them a call. And if they did, I'd still push to get in to see your doctor. Its not good for you to worry if you don't have to, so I would think they'd get you in ASAP! As far as how far along you are, that's a tough one. But, it is possible that its still a little to early for a heartbeat. Mine was a 6 weeks 3 days and it was so tiny! Good luck, I hope that you get some good news soon. I'll be sending lots of positive thoughts and prayers your way. =) P.S. I don't know what a fetal pole is either. Is that a term for the developing spinal cord or something? Your guess is a good as mine!

 

stacey - July 13

It sure helps me feel a bit relaxed- knowing we are all pregnant after a m/c. No, we never found out why we m/c in the first place, chromosomes- most likely is what were told. My concern is (just wrote a post on this) is my weird backache. It moves around my back- could it be gas- or constipation? I am so scared that it is a sign of a m/c, but everything else still looks good..Anyone???

 

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