Stephanie U Ok

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Robyn - March 30

Hey girlie you have us all worried, give us the low down on what happened at your doc appt yesterday. Hope youre doing well, youre in all of our thoughts! ;)

 

Stephanie - March 30

Hi Robyn I'm still not feeling good at all and to top everything off my boyfriend and I are in an arguement! AAGHGHGHAG!!! I want to scream so bad!!! The Dr. said that I need to slow way down that I'm doing too much and working too fast! "I spotted bc thats the way your body warns you" Anyways the red spotting came back again after seeing the Dr. yesterday but it is so little that I did'nt notice until this morning. But something funny is that this morning I noticed a smell and it is coming from there it smells like metal (like when your on your period)so I'm afraid that this might be the beginning of the end so I'll definantly keep you posted on how things go. I'm still cramping too and this morning seemed to be worse in fact I just got to work. I was'nt able to get out of bed until the time that I'm suppose to leave for work...... Anyways the Dr. told me that he wanted me to take a few days off of work but I'm the only person here really! They just can't find anyone to take my place! So agreed to only work 6 hrs 5 days a week and he said I should be fine if I have more help with my work so today I'm going to tackle training to my a__st for that she can carry on more responsibility. Also I got a Dr.s note but I will just talk to my super to see if there is something we can agree on for that it does not cut into my pay. I am salary can they cut my pay??

 

Robyn - March 30

Im not sure if they can cut your pay or not. Can you work from home at all? That might be an option for you. I am sorry youre going through a hard time, but at least your doc is doing everything he can to help you out. The best thing for you to do is rest. When you get home from your day at work put your feel up as soon as you can. Let your boyfriend take over the house chores and anything else you do at home in general. Still try not to worry. You just need to relax and you should be fine. I hate arguing when I am not feeling good, thats the worst and lemme tell you it happens more often than not with mine only because he doesnt understand the pregnacy hormones. Its ok though because as rough as it all may seem you know it will eventually pa__s. I just cry all the time when I am in a tough spot and most of the time after I cry it makes me feel a lot better. Its like an emotional release as long as it doesnt turn into hysterics. Like the other night my BF and me got into an arguement and I started crying and he was like whats wrong I dont get it!!! So we Faught I cried and then after we resolved it I cried some more and he just held me and I felt so much better. Emotional release, cry it up girlie. I know you have a lot of people supporting you, you will get through this.

 

Kelly K - March 30

They can cut your pay even if you are salary. If you have sick time see if they'll let you use that instead. Every company policy is different. But the federal law does allow them to dock your pay whether you're exempt or non-exempt.

 

Stephanie - March 30

Hey you know I am like a leaky faucet thats turned into the waterfall bc I have'nt been able to turn it off since I vented to you. Im so angry at him right now. I cannot walk around the grocery store. I feel so weighed down and then I cramp more and then I spot so I have gone on strike and will not go to the store! Anyways we have no food and do you think he wants to shop----NO! Heres the deal he works on-call (tow truck driver) every other day and everyother weekend so hes hardly home! We'll last night was his day off (after 5PM) So he gets home now grantid i am not feeling well and already told him what the Dr. said and he cracks a beer and says I'm gonna take the neighbor vehicle somewhere to help him out and then I'll come home. No problem!!. I called him and asked If on his way back he would go to the store and get b___ter, bread, cheese and a meat and I'll make grilled sandwiches. (something simple not to be difficult) He said Okay but 1st hes gonna stop at Chilis and have a drink with the neighbor! Okay again no problem the neighbor probably wants to thank him. Thats cool! Let me remind you that he left about 5:30 So around 8PM I called him he doesnt answer. 8:20PM I called him again and he answers by telling me I'll call you back in 10 minutes. He calls me back from the bathroom and of coarse I yell at him bc its 8:30 and its Ashleys bedtime. Brandon goes to bed at 9 and hes hungry too. So he says I'll finish my drink and come home. I hung up on him bc I was so angry! He gets home of coarse drunk still in his work uniform and driving his work truck. I was pretty p__sed bc he has b__wn off everything to be irresponsible!!! Now he wants to go to the store in my car. YA RIGHT BUDDY! NO WAY! Im fine he says what a loser I think and if right now I could go anywhere I would'nt be with him. Im so angry at him. He doesnt even understand!

 

Stephanie - March 30

Thanks Kelly thats what I was afraid of thats why I don't want to give them the Drs note bc then they will force me to leave earlier. I am salary and Im hoping to talk them into letting me leave early when I feel bad. They told me that since I am salary that I am only required to work 2 hrs. a day and still get paid for 8 hrs. As long as I finish everything like a good girl

 

rb - March 30

hey girls - stephanie - as frustrated as we get, our bodies have a way of warning us - just try to take it easy and take care of you and baby... that's kind of what i'm thinking - if work has a problem with it, then screw them!!! as for the bf... isn't that typical! - it's only when you're in the c___ppiest mood ever that they decide, hey, what a great time to fight! anyhow, take care of yourself first and let us know how you are doing... hugs!

 

rb - March 30

hey steph - just read your other post - it's not karma!! you didn't do anything wrong - trust me, if it had to do with karma, yours truly would be in deep sh*t...

 

Stephanie - March 30

I just spoke with my super and he told me that if I've finished my work and I want to go feeling goood or not then just shoot him an E-mail and go. He said thats the joy of being an exemp employee so YEAH ME! He said if its under 4 hrs for the day then he would want me to use Paid Time Off Hours. I'm happy! :o)

 

rb - March 30

hey steph - just read your post re: bf - what a bonehead - where's that hose when you need it... robyn - how're you doing?

 

Stephanie - March 30

HAHA how funny we will all be fighting over that hose. I can just see it now were all like kids no me no me first no give it to me HAHA that sounds like a good plan. I want my hose to have one of those nozzles so that i can get mine to go really far!! :o) HEHEHE Hey Robyn did you go to dennys?? I wwwent but they did'nt have my veggie soup. But I had my salad and fries w/ a root beer. YUMMY

 

Robyn - March 30

Woah everyone seems to have BF problems today. You see I had this car that I LOVED and put so much time, effort, and money into and would still have it today but was talked into selling it and buying a family car, granted I know I need one I mean hello TWO BABIES!! AAAAA, so I got roped...not talked but rather roped into buying a 93 Toyota Corolla with 4 doors but it was wrecked inthe front. My BF brother fixed it up, we put nice music in it and a nice deck and my alarm etc...from the very first day I had the pile it kept over heating. So I spent money to replace the thermostat...not the problem...the thermostat seal...not it...radiator cap...not it...and about a million gallons of anti freeze...nothing is working, and now he just called me at work with bad news telling me its going to be 600 dollars to fix the pile. I have to replace the motor. Nice eh? So I just got my income tax back yesterday(Yay 1000.00 bucks going straight into savings because my maternity leave isnt paid and I need to save as much as possible) and now I have to spend it on the car so I can get back and forth to work. I know I need a reliable car, but now since Ihave to spend my income tax I am STRESSING that I wont be able to cover rent and utilities and c___p for the two months I have off. Keep in mind I have always been really responsible and have been working since 16 with no gaps and now TWO MONTHS without working?! I am really afraid I wont be able to do it!!! He just called again and now I am crying at work and I hate that, but like I can help it right? Arg....I am just so frustrated with him right now, I didnt want this car to begin with and now its costing me more than anything! I just want to cry or hose someone....I think I am goin with crying but its involentary...

 

Stephanie - March 30

Ohhh Robyn I wish I was with you we are all so down I wish that our national holiday were here and that we could all kick it together like what Cinshon said the other day! I had to get rid of my baby celica too! It only had 4 seats so I got a corolla (used) UCK it was reliable but I hated it it just was'nt me You know so I kept it for 3 1/2 yrs and then last Sept bought a new 2004 Camry LE (dark blue) and it is B-E-A-U-tiful I love her so much that I named her Charisma Blue. My bf just got it tinted limo in the back medium on the front. He also ordered a tail and it will be installed next week. Now I need rims :o) Hey I had a Dodge Caravan if thats not the Mom Mobile. I was only 20 driving around with that thing and it had all the same problems (I bought it from Ugly Duckling LOL) Anyways the alternater finally went out but I only found that out after also replacing everything else! How long ago did you buy the car and does it have a warranty??

 

Robyn - March 30

That is so weird, the car I loved and gave up was a celica! It had the rims and system and all that and I loved it. Now I am in a bucket. Granted it does run and drive really well!!! Untill it over heats...The only thing cool about it is that we do have a nice system in it. I just bought it this weekend and it didnt have a warentee it was an independet seller. I am only 20 and driving a mommy car. Dont get me wrong I want to be a good mom and have a good safe reliable car but where is it written that you cant look good while doing it? I guess in my boyfriends terms..."We cant afford to look cool right now" and he likes to use that line when I am shopping for bigger cloths. I tried to explain to him I cant come to work in sweats and jammie pants, I have to look somewhat decent! He doesnt understand what I am going through. He doesnt think about the future like I do, I plan in advance, he flys by the seat of his pants! That would be cool is a few preggers went out for a little bit. I dont have any preggers friends and all the friends I do have are away at college so finding someone to talk to is difficult. YAY for this site though!

 

Stephanie - March 30

Is there gonna be a full moon tonight....I mean how ironic is it that we are all moppy and criing today all in the same day. Our bf our acting like monsters and for what for that we can feel worse?? I mean who's really got the short end of the stick?? You'd think they'd be callin us "Sorry honey" or "how do ya feel" but NOPE they are busy! Mine should be kissin a__s right now but he has'nt even called! I'm even madder than I was this morning!

 

Stephanie - March 30

Hey Robyn I forgot to tell ya that I don't know how the law works in the state that you live in but here in Cali. we have a lemon law and if the car is'nt good there should be something in your favor even if it is independant seller. Maybe you could talk to the person who sold it to you and see if they can subtract the amount of the motor to make it reliable. Maybe you can do something to it if he does'nt agree and make it seem unoperable. Mwah hahahahaha!!

 

penny - March 30

Hey Steph, Ive been in a cla__s all day but was thinking about you. I haven't read everything but will later and will respond :)

 

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