Ahem Men Suck

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<3 - March 4

Sorry to unload on all you nice ladies but this is rediculous and I am so fed up and sick and tired of this whole situation!!! I have severe moodswings right now ( 7 weeks and had to stop taking my anti depressants like 2 weeks ago when I found out I was pregger) And he is not even trying to be supportive. I have tried explaining the situation to him and he refuses to understand. All he wants to do is argue with me. He doesnt even try to see it from my point of view and how draining it is to be upset and crying and puking all the time. Its physically demanding being pregnant and he doesnt see that either. He just wants the baby, but doesnt want anything to do with me and the pregnancy it seems like. That last sentance was a stretch but he doesnt even act like he used to. AAAAAA Over stressed over here! HELP

 

Missy - March 4

Sweetie - We ALLLLLL feel for you!!!

 

<3 - March 4

So what do you all do about it? I am scared if this keeps up I am either going to boot him or he is going to leave. We really love each other but its just a little hard!

 

rose - March 4

try to be patient with him....the way he is acting is wrong but maybe he is a little scared about all this and he just needs time...try to talk to him about what is on HIS mind and then calmly tell him how he is making you feel...explain to him that the arguing and stress is not good for the baby and you just need a little extra from him, im sure he will come around...if things get heated, take a few minutes to calm down instead of arguing...men can be so difficult sometimes.......

 

<3 - March 4

Yeah, very difficult. I have tried asking him whats on his mind and all he says is, "I am sick and tired of arguing" and all I want to do it try to talk to him, but he takes my talking to him as trying to pick a fight EVEN if I curb my tone and talk in a calm tone and not get upset! And what makes it worse is because I was so excited for this baby and how Icouldnt wait until it came, and now because of him I m not sure if its such a good idea to bring a baby into this relationship. Sad eh?

 

Missy - March 4

<3 -- I think you just have to give him time...how long ago did you find out you were preggers? Things have been really rough for me, I told him a month ago and we are still trying to iron out the kinks in this new situation. Just remember it is a whole new deal for the both of you. I got alot of support from the women on the forum (thanks again ladies!!!) check out the thread "Man PMS...."

 

LESLIE - March 4

Well I have been crying for about 2 or 3 hours. No NOT HOURS, WEEKS! I dont know what my bf is thinking I get so mad because I think he is been selfish, like you say <3 he doesn't even think about looking at it from my point of view..actually I AM SCARED TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT THE PREGNANCY is that normal, NOOO! I FEEL SO bad speically now that i am extra sensitive and anyway to make it short. I am in the same situation...all I can say I feel for you!

 

tara - March 4

>3 and Leslie; the emotions you are going through are as common as the emotions your men are going through. It is really hard for men to understand pregnancy nevermind understanding how to deal with us. Eventhough my pregnancy was planned, I felt as though my husband wasn't happy and just wasn't trying. But as I'm getting bigger and he has had more time to adjust things have improved dramatically. I think they just need time to adjust to all of this and I know that in the mean time it is you who is getting upset over it, but you really need to give him the time and he'll come around.

 

leslie for tara - March 4

Thank you tara I guess you are right and we just don't understand them and its normal for them...I will try to be more understanding..actually right now he just mention something about the baby!! it was something very small but I was so exited! he never talks about it so it felt GREAT!

 

ekay - March 4

<3, I would talk to your doctor about getting off the antidepressants. It is never good to just get off them cold turkey, that will really screw with your head. I took a.d. with my last pregnancy and this pregnancy and my daughter came out just fine and this pregnancy is going so far so good. I turn into a raging b___h if I even miss a couple pills, so I would definitely check. Which ones were you on? Sorry your so stressed!

 

KIM - March 4

SOMETIMES IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER TO HEAR FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS IT WORSE. IM 10 WEEKS AND I JUST STARTED MY BUSINESS WITH MY FIANCE A MONTH AGO. ALL OF THE SUDDEN ALL OF OUR MONEY AND THE OFFICE MONEY STARTED DISAPPEARING. WELL TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT, HE WAS SPENDING IT ON CRACK. I WAS SHOCKED TO SAY THE LEAST AND I HAD TO KICK HIM OUT AND I HAVENT HEARD FROM HIM SINCE. NOT TO MENTION THAT I HAVE 3 OTHER KIDS AND NO FAMILY. SO DONT FEEL SO BAD. MEN JUST DONT HAVE A CLUE WHEN IT COMES TO PREGNANCY. YOU WANT THEM TO PET YOU AND OOH AND AAH OVER EVERY FETAL MOVEMENT, AND THERE JUST NOT INTERESTED. ITS NOT JUST YOUR MAN.

 

nenhumapressao - May 2

yall got issues

 

To <3 - May 2

Get a grip woman! Whining won't get him to do anything just because. You're thinking 'me, me, me!'. Even if you're preggy that can be a bit tiresome after some point. Can you CONSCIOUSLY make an EFFORT to control your temper and be reasonable. I'm saying that coz even before you got preggy you were taking 'anti-depressants'. Being preggy don't give you the right nor validate in any way for you enjoy being 'b___hy' to the full. Try taking a deep breath, step back, and consider a different approach. Don't overestimate the 'of course' att_tude just because of your pregnancy. The guy has his own limitations, too. Give him a break. Be clear on what you want, say it-- and don't be threatening and never whine.

 

Lynn - May 2

Everytime my DH b___hes about me being too tired, too sick, too everything I just remind him that I'M the one growing the baby inside of me & until he does it, then he has no place b___hing about it. It usually shuts him up pretty quick.

 

Karen - May 2

Lynn I love your comment. Excelent. Cause my bf soemtimes acts as if he the one pregnant. Then I have to give him a relity check, SO What if I want to be a F**king b___h today. I deserve to when I want...... So just stay out of my way I tell my bf that men could not even survive a month of pregnacy and that is a strech I would say a day would kill those a__ses. HAHAHA

 

leslie - May 2

that is why I always say...Men would never be able to be pregant b/c when they get a little bit sick..they expect us to take their shoes off, make chicken soup, cuddle with them, get them their drinks to the sofa, watch SPORTS CHANNEL with them..etc..etc.etc. So imagine if they were preggs instead of us? We would be their slaves for 9 months!! and they would be bithcy all day! And always use pregnancy as an excuse to do everything they wanted...So we shouldn't feel bad when we have our b___hy days!

 

Karen - May 2

Leslie , Amen SISTA. I called my bf the one day and told him I wish that he felt as sick as I did, all he said was I feel good today old ASS.

 

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