Anyone Overly Depressed

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nicole - March 29

is there anyone one on here who was depressed before being pregnant and now that ur pregnant its x 100? i mean it was bad first and second trimester, but now in the third trimester its unbearable. ill cry for whatever but then i get into a whole thought process of worse things and i cry even more and eventually it ends up with me contemplating or cutting or killing myself, and i cant deal with these harsh emotions anymore, i want this kid out now so i can be normal again. when i get like this ill cry for hours at a time bc im talking myself into believeing im a horrible person and fighting to keep from hurting myself, its insane and i hate it i just want to be normal again. so i was wondering if anyone else has this extreme of emotions going on...

 

for nicole - March 29

you should see a doctor? if you're depressed now then think what you will be like with a screaming baby at all hours and the lack of sleep-it wont do you any good.also you think about killing yourself.that includes your child too as he/she is inside you still.get help now!

 

ellie - March 29

i agree, you need to get help. remember that depression is an ilness, its nothing to b ashamed of or ignore, it is caused by a chemical imblance in your head, just like diabetes, it can be managed with the right diagnosis and treatment. go to your general pract_tioner and talk to him. do this not only for you, but for your baby. you dont deserve to feel like this, remember its not your fault. just get help before you hurt yourself of ur baby.

 

to nicole - March 29

Are you the same nicole with the earlier post of the bf and ex-girlfriend? If so, I think you really need to seek some help because all of these things piled up is way to stressful for you and your unborn child! How far along are you?

 

nicole - March 29

yep thats me. im 30 weeks.

 

nicole - March 29

oh yea, call me naive, but what can stress do to a baby?

 

to nicole - March 29

To sum up, your bf's ex wants him back (so you think), your bf still loves his ex (you a__sume), you got no job (which is a good thing at 30 weeks preggo), your bf tells you that you're lazy cause you're not working, you wanna hurt yourself and your bf's mom wants to take away your baby.... does that sound about right? Just wanna make sure I'm understanding the facts. Sounds to me like your living in a soap opera - sorry not to sound rude! Anyhow, stress can cause you to go into premature labor which is why I really think you need to relax! Don't you have a mother or family you can stay with until you have the baby, someone to take care of you? Have you spoken to your dr? Perhaps something could be prescribed? If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

 

to nicole - March 29

Sounds like you have quite a bit on your plate. I think you are taking a lot of c___p from your bf... he broke your windshield? Sounds like he has an anger problem! Thats not healthy for anyone. And about the job thing... I don't work either, doesn't make me lazy! It sounds like your bf needs to learn how to be a gentleman! The fact that he expects you at 30 weeks preggo to get a job is insane! You would have to quit in a month, does he not realize that??? Whats the point??? Pregnancy is a time where women should be pampered by their bf/husbands - I'm a strong believer in that! Nicole, I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through because it really breaks my heart! I just don't know what I would do without the support of my hubby (I'm 38 weeks preggo). Although, I do think you need to try and take it easy! I hope you can talk things out with your bf and make him understand that when he stresses you out he is putting his baby at risk as well. And about the ex, don't even waste another second of your life thinking about the 'what if' because its just time and energy wasted! Concentrate on your new lives ahead of you. And don't forget, you always have this forum to vent on!

 

D - March 29

I'm so sorry to hear what you are dealing with. I'm hoping things will start getting better for you really soon. It is ok to ask for something to help you with your depression, and it might help give you the strength to deal with the other problems you are facing. There are mild anti-depressants out there that are okay to use during pregnancy. When my OB/GYN put me on one (wellbutrin), my husband saw her a week later and actually thanked her for "drugging" me! (sometimes he's a brat! - but it really did help dramatically) Whatever you decide to do, you are welcome to vent your stresses to us!

 

nicole - March 29

i just dont know what to do anymore i literally will cry at the drop of a hat and i dont know why. i go to the doc on fri so ill talk to her about it but i feel horrible for feeling so horrible, im almost having a baby who im told is healthy so why am i so upset?

 

To Nicole - March 29

Nicole, just read your posts, you say you are fine. YOU are not fine, you need to talk to someone professional about what the real problem is. Are you scared you wont be a good mother, that your bf's mother will take your child? You need someone to help you feel that YOU are in control of your life. Windshield breaker boyfriends are not great father figures and it is not the homones that are making you feel so bad, later in pregnancy you tend to feel physically worse but mentally better. You are a prime candidate of post natal depression and your boyfriend a potential baby-shaker. Babies SCREAM alot. There is no OFF switch. If you are EVER in the situation where either of you cant stand it, put baby in crib, walk OUTSIDE for ten minutes. The baby will still be in the crib when you get back. You will be calmer. They dont die from crying, they die from people trying to make them stop. My babies tended to have a scream fest between 4 and 6 pm, my poor hubby would spend two hours on coming in from work walking up and down or pushing baby over lump in lino floor in pusher. If you have a hubby who has a short fuse you stand no chance. If you cant bring yourself to get help maybe check out DrPhil.com.

 

To Nicole - March 29

ps... Do talk to the doctor, dont feel horrible for feeling horrible. But get that boyfriend of yours to do something on anger management (he could study up on this instead of going to the mall when he is bored). Good luck Nicole.

 

nicole - March 29

im not too worried about him and the baby ive seen him before with kids and babies when he thinks no one is looking and he adores them. what im more worried about and mad that ive put up with for soo long is him getting mad at something and taking it out on me, hes never hit me or anything, but its pure mental abuse and its breaking me down soo fast. ive told him before if hes p__sed off at something about work then dont come home bc he knows ill ask whats wrong and that apparently is what p__ses him off. so i dont know anymore, hes great most of the time but every month we get into an argument where hes an a__s for a couple days.

 

leslie - March 29

I know it sounds easy to do..and it is easy but since you are the one with all the problems you may think its hard..I think you should go get help in your city..I don't know where you live but I am sure they give single mothers help as to get food stamps, an apt, money etc..my cousin is getting all this help and she is not working..her bf left her when the baby was born ONLY BECAUSE IT WAS NOT A BOY can you believe that???? everyone has their own problems but u may have a little to many! If your bf is acting like this is better been without a guy..you don't need him, all he does is stress you and make you feel worthless!! Please try to get help and about your family its very sad.very very sad..if it was my case I would stop any comunication with them..they are not treating you like a daughter..just my opinion..I know that when your mom sees the baby she is going to wish she had it with her all the time...GOOD LUCK!! plese keep us posted

 

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