Can Pregnancy Occur Without Intercousre Help

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mary smith - September 13

I am 7 weeks pregnant and should be elated but instead I have been extremely depressed. In 2003 my boyfriend, Bill, and I were trying to conceive for about 3 months over the summer. We were having s_x daily to ensure conception. Month after month nothing happened so we decided the timing was not right and we would try again later. For about the next year we always used just the withdrawal method and no other contraception although we might have had a few mishaps that never resulted in pregnancy. I was starting to wonder if he was infertile. He got a job out of town with a big pay increase and I was not ready to leave my job and go with him so we tried the long distance relationship thing which didn’t work and we ended up splitting up for almost a year. During that time I was intimate with another guy, Jake, that I was dating. We only had s_x ONE time using the withdrawal method (although I think he was a little late pulling out) and I got pregnant. It happened to be midway through my cycle. The pregnancy ended in miscarriage 5 weeks later. Bill hated his job and moved back and we got back together. Although he knew I had been seeing someone else I never told him about the pregnancy. The relationship is going great and we are so happy together that in July we decided to begin trying again. My period began on July 26 and my average cycle is about 28 days. We had s_x regularly during the month but not daily like before. One night Bill was out with his buddies and Jake showed up to my house unexpectedly. He had been drinking and said he had spent the evening watching soft p___n and m____eing. He said even though he knew the relationship was over he just could not get over me. I asked him to leave several times. He was extremely forceful probably due to the liquor and was grabbing and groping me. I was wearing a short thin mesh nightshirt and very thin nylon underwear. He pulled me down onto his lap and was trying to grab all over me. He grabbed my crotch through my underwear several times. I finally broke free and threatened to call the police if he did not leave. I then went to bed. The following month in August when I didn’t get my period I took a pregnancy test that was positive. I was excited at first but then began to wonder if it could be Jake’s baby. My question is if he had been m____eing could he have had semen on his hands that could have gotten onto my underwear and got me pregnant? The day that he came over was my most fertile day - exactly midway through my cycle. At one point he even pulled down his pants and showed me prec_m on his p__s and wiped it on his hands. I know semen dies once it is dry but what if he had wet semen on his pants when he pulled me onto his lap? Could it be enough to get onto my underwear and get me pregnant? Or had enough wet semen on his hands that soaked through my underwear? At the time I was not even thinking of that so I have no idea now if there was anything there. I don’t think there was ever direct contact with my va___al area but everything happened so fast I can not be sure. Jake has 4 kids and constantly brags about how fertile he is. I wonder what the chances are that Bill and I had been trying and never conceived and Jake stops over and now I’m pregnant. I hope I am just being paranoid but I hear all these stories about pregnancy without s_x and the virgin birth so I’m scared to death. I can not tell this to Bill as it would ruin our trust because I never told him at the time that Jake was here. If it wasn’t Bill’s child I’m sure no one would ever believe I didn’t have s_x with someone else. I want Bill’s baby so badly and just want to be happy and enjoy this pregnancy but I feel so sad that I want to run far away. This would crush Bill if he knew about it. Jake was someone I never should have been involved with in the first place and certainly not someone you would want to father a child. Can somebody help? This is affectly me so badly that I have lost 12 pounds! I would feel so awful if Bill and his family stood by me through this pregnancy only to find out it was not his baby. If there is a chance it is not his I would leave now rather than hurt anyone like that although I would miss him tremendously. On the other hand Bill wants to go to every appointment with me and I would hate to deprive him of that if it is his.

 

N - September 13

I am 99.999999% sure it's your boyfriend bill's baby. You said you were trying, and it wasn't everyday (which actually gives you better odds because his sperm count is higher than it would be if you had s_x every day). The chances of Jakes sperm getting you pregnant that way are slim to none, i really wouldn't worry. Congrats and enjoy your new family :)

 

k - September 13

it would be very rare if it wasn't your boyfriend bills baby. I am positial it is. But one thing that doesn't make sense to me...if you two were TRYING to get pregnant, why would you use to pullout method?? that's usually what people do when they don't want to get pregnant..I am confused.

 

k - September 13

**positive it is (typo)

 

Cringe - September 13

I'm sure it's Bill's. I hope it's not Jakes because he sounds really gross!

 

J - September 13

I can't imagine it being possible. My hubby and I tried for a while and nothing happened having s_x everyday. The sperm have a long way to travel I am sure this baby is your guys.

 

mary smith - September 13

oops I had my dates a little messed up - for June July August 2003 we used no contraception. Bill left in November 2003 and we got back together Sept 2004, we used the pullout method from Sept 2004 until about July 2005 when we began trying again. Then we went back to no contraception. I just thought it was odd we tried for 3 months before and had some mishaps during the several months with the withdrawal method during the time we weren't trying and nothing happened and then the first time we tried this July I got pregnant. That's why I was so worried it was "fertile Jake's" I feel much better now so thanks for the responses. I would appreciate anyone elses input. :)

 

mary smith - September 13

PS JAKE IS GROSS!

 

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