Concerned About Toddler Sleeping

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Dee - September 14

I have a toddler, he will be 4 in a couple of weeks..I am pg w/ second little boy due in January...my concern or question is, how can i keep it so my toddler gets his sleep, i mean the baby will be waking up every few hours to feed. We do not have a large house, basic ranch style house w/ all bedrooms at one end of the hallway. I've heard that toddlers will just tune the baby out and adapt very easily, but i know at my son's age he needs his sleep. I'm planning on putting the crib against the far wall in the baby's room, we are making my older son a "big boy" room w/ bunk beds, (make him feel special), i do run an air purifier in his room at night, which he cannot sleep unless it's on, basically the noise that it makes....any mom's w/ any suggestions, me & dh will bear w/ it, i just want my older son to be able to get the rest he needs. Thanks for any advise....

 

Kris - September 14

when I was 5 my mom had my baby brother, we had a sizable house but my bedroom was right beside my parents room and the nursey...I never woke up once from him crying. Infact, I think at that age I didn't even know he didn't sleep all night like the rest of us. haha. I don't know if that helps but thought I would share anyways.

 

Dee - September 14

Thanks Kris, I know toddlers have an amazing ability to cope so I'm hoping he will just sleep right thru any disturbance in the night....

 

CEM - September 14

Dee - your little boy should have no problem adjusting to the noise that comes along with a new baby. just like babies/kids always get what they need nutrionally, they also get the sleep they need. nature has a way of helping us out in that department. my boys haven't had any problems getting used to their little brother and vice versa. in fact, i think if anything, they stir more when it's too quiet in the house! good luck :)

 

Dee - September 14

Thanks CEM: I guess it just concerned me because we do not have a big house, about 1800 square feet, i love it, it's cute as a b___ton. I'm hoping all will be okay, i'm sure you guys are right....I'll be the only one NOT sleeping...haha...

 

CEM - September 14

our house is not very big either, and it really hasn't been a problem at all.....actually, what i'm finding troublesome right now is my older boys waking their baby brother up during the day, because they want to kiss him and manhandle him!!!! my oldest son is constantly on my case to let him carry the baby around in the infant-carrier, you know, the one where the baby sits on the front. i wouldn't mind, except that i'm worried he'll wipe out! it's so cute.....

 

MJM - September 14

Dee_ Well 1800 is not that small of a house. We only have 1200, but houses are spendy here almost 300 grand for the darn thing, and the babies room will be right next to my daughters. She is 4 also. Well let me correct that before I get into trouble with her. She is 4 AND A HALF!!! I am not too worried about the baby waking her. We are also due Jan 9thish. My daughter is a heavy sleeper and it is not like your new one will be screaming for hours. I would not stress and if it seems to be a problem after the baby is here then adjust as needed.

 

Dee - September 15

Thanks MJM, i know what you mean about house prices, you cannot get anything like a nice brick house w/out it starting out in the high 200K or 300K, i work for a bank and do commercial lending, i'm always asking the builders i work w/ can't you build some nice houses that people can afford????? Anyway, my son is a pretty heavy sleeper too and you're right, little one won't be screaming, just the "i'm hungry mommy" cry....And, yes, get her age right, even when my son was 3 (still is, will be 4 in two weeks), he told everyone he was 4.....truly amazing to watch these little guys grow up into people.....seems like i just had him and now i'm having another boy.....life is good..

 

chelsey - September 15

My 9 week old dosn't wake up his almost 4 year old sister. She does that all on her own! Then again, Gabriel has still yet to really cry. He still grunts and groans and whines, but has never really CRIED. The minute I pick him up, he's fine. I'm still in shock about how well behaved he is. I dread the day he cries and cant be stopped. What will I do? Not only doesn't he wake his sister at night, he barely wakes me. And I have the monitor right next to my head! Usually my husband nudges me and says, "Gabriel's awake, for like 1/2 an hour!" Hmmph, could've fooled me! I do have a problem though with my daughter wanting to wake up the baby, for kisses and hugs. Little turd! Or the minute he stretches and groans, she's in his room shaking his rattle, really waking him up!

 

Dee - September 15

I'm a little concerned about my older son w/ baby too, not in a bad way though, I mean like you guys are saying, waking the baby, wanting to carry him around..Jake kisses my tummy all the time, talks to my tummy, wants the baby OUT...so he can play w/ it, tells me he will keep him safe, which makes me cry.....so i know he will be very hands on, i know Max already know's Jake's voice because whenever he starts talking, baby starts kicking, hears that kind of high pitched toddler munchkin voice....so he will definately know his brother when he arrives...

 

CEM - September 15

you bet he knows his big brother's voice! just wait until the baby arrives and you can see them together....it's the best thing in the world. my baby (11 weeks) adores his big brother (4 and-a-half) and smiles and giggles and stares at him all day long. it makes me want to cry with joy! he loves my 2 and-a-half year old as well, but definitely has a soft spot for my oldest son. :D

 

Dee - September 15

CEM, you're right. I cannot wait for the baby's eye's to light up when he sees his older brother. Jake has already told me he will share his toys, feed him, bathe him, no help w/ poopy diapers though, I guess the little guy has to draw the line somewhere....It took me so long to have my first, 3 yrs fertility, 2 m/c, one involving a d & c, never thought i'd have one baby, much less two. DH and I are estatic, our two boys, couldn't be better...The dynamics of our family will change drastically i know, going from 1 to 2 babies, but i can't wait...Best wishes to all.....

 

CEM - September 15

it's hard work, and definitely takes alot of getting used to, but it's also fun! it'll be really great when my 3 boys are a bit older and can hang out, and hopefully be the best of friends. they're all 2 years apart, so they're interests won't be that different. congratulations on your second son. better late than never....:)

 

CEM - September 15

Dee - if you don't mind me asking, how long did it take for you to conceive number 2?

 

Dee - September 15

Almost 4 years...we were not trying at all, in fact, i was making an appt. w/ doc to get my tubes tied...was a little late on that one. I'll be 39 by the time Max get's here in January, Jake my first son will be 4 in a couple of weeks. I mean this was a total surprise to me and hubby, a great surprise but no less a shock. We really didn't think i would have another w/ all the trouble i've been thru, then "Hello"...right before i got pg w/ Jake my doc was getting ready to send me to a fertility specialist, my hubby took me on a ski trip w/ friends to get my mind off it, they skied, we Uh ummm...stayed in....humping is great w/ 14 inches of snow and a fireplace....so along comes Jakes in September of the following year...all 9 pounds of him, god he was so fat and cute...still is just not quite as chubby....I guess this time we just nailed it right at the right time, strange how that happens when you've been on clomid for all those years and we could never get our timing right....This will be it though.....2 is good for us and i really do not want to be in my 40's and pg again plus my wonderful hubby is insulin dependent diabetic, juvenile diabetes, and although he is very healthy and takes great care of himself, diabetes does wear on a person's body after 25 years. I think 2 is all he could handle, especially boys.

 

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