Does Anyone Else Agree

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amethyst_dragonfly - March 18

You know, ladies, it really bothers me that there are such young girls--I'm talkin' as young as THIRTEEN years old-- on this forum, asking about pregnancy symptoms and signs. I wish there were something I could say or do to get them to change their minds about s_x... at least until they are old enough to TRULY understand the complexities of having s_x and what it may [or may not] entail.

 

amethyst_dragonfly - March 18

Not that I'm being judgemental, and I hope that no young lady that is reading this feels that way, but COME ON! I'm a very realistic person, and I am very aware that at high school age (at whatever age that begins these days) it's very likely that girls are starting to have s_x. But ladies PLEASE protect yourselves. There is so much more to be concerned about these days than just getting pregnant. I mean, you can contract something that can literally RUIN your chances of having children once you're older and are actually READY for it. Also, you hear these crazy statistics of how every hour, 2 Americans between the ages of 13 and 24 contract HIV. COME ON! Maybe you'll think about it when your a__s is itching and burning because you think it's cute to have unprotected s_x with some dude you probably just met a week ago. Anyway... I don't know you, but Amethyst_Dragonfly does care about you. And I would never say anything to you or to anyone else that I wouldn't apply to myself as well. It's called keepin' it real!

 

Jade - March 19

I know how you feel Amethyst. It is amazing to see such young girls on this forum. I could never imagine being in their situation at such a young age. The question I ask myself is, why are these young girls not educated on the subject? Do they not know anything at all when it comes to s_x and pregnancy?

 

jg - March 19

Don't worry, we've all tried it. It just isn't going to happen. Kids who do not want to be reasoned with, will not listen to reason. Ignorance is bliss.........until two lines show up on that pregnancy test! Then their world comes crashing down......... if only they would listen. But they won't.

 

mandie - March 19

I agree. It's also a little disheartening to read about 15 year old girls getting pg without even trying, and then to see all these women who are mature, stable and ready to start a family have trouble conceiving.

 

mtlquebec - March 19

I think after reading these comments and others on this site, that I will stop coming here. I am amazed at how people are so judgemental of others. WOW! I suppose all of you have never made mistakes or have any sins.

 

MelissaP - March 19

I think a big part of it is, is that parents aren't sitting down and talking to their kids about s_x and it's consequences. They are learning from their friends and from kids at school and they feel pressured to experiment. If these kids had a good sitting down with their parents at a young age, they could have some important values and information instilled in them that could help them make better deicions when it comes to s_x!

 

MelissaP - March 19

mtlquebec- Noone is judging. Everyone here is just stating that it is sad and unfortunate that teenagers and even young kids are falling pregnant. AND that it is dangerous to have unsafe s_x because of all the diseases and other problems that can come along with it. That is not being judgemental. It is just pure sadness that young kids aren't educated and taught how to keep themselves safe and from getting pregnant. Young kids will continue to have s_x......but I wish they would be more careful and take care of themselves

 

mtlquebec - March 19

Hmmm... this sounds judgemental to me: "I could never imagine being in their situation at such a young age." Meaning I would never have made that mistake.... there are many more comments like it.

 

MelissaP - March 19

mtlquebec-That is how you percieved it. I understood it to mean that she wouldn't know what to do if she were pregnant at a young age(or in some of these girls shoes), something completely different. I guess we aren't on the same page. There are comments that are judgemental in this forum..but I was reffering to this particular thread. To me, these girls were expressing concern about young girls getting pregnant, not pa__sing judgment.But I guess we all see it our own way

 

Corrine321 - March 19

okay, i think its a bit rude of what people are saying... I'm a teen that is pregnant I'm 15 and 26 weeks 5 days pregnant.. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years.. he's 19 and we love each other to death.. its just accidents happen... So just like mtlquebec said it is judgemental!

 

Mommy - March 19

I am personally one of the girls who got pregnant at 15. I was on birth control, but my parents did not know it. They didn't even know I was having s_x. I would have probably talked to them about it, but anything having to do with s_x was against the rules to talk about unless you were a boy. I didn't really know birth control (the pill) could fail. I was also one of the ones who wasn't aware you could get pregnant while on your period. Another problem with most of the teenage pregnancies that occur is when s_x ed begins. I started having s_x at before I even attended a s_x ed cla__s. If kids as young as 5th graders are having s_x, s_x ed is useless because it starts where I am in 7th and 8th grade. I knew that you should use condoms to prevent pregnancy and that was it. It would have helped if people would have given facts. The only thing I ever heard on the matter was "good girls don't do that." I'm going to make sure my kids are educated when they are 11, if nothing else but to help them make the right choices.

 

Jade - March 19

Melissa was right about what I had meant about my post. I was not pa__sing judgement nor was I saying that I could never have been in that situation. This is a forum people- a place to discuss opinions and ideas, but I don't think any one is being judgemental here, only realistic. Of course accidents happen. They are a part of life. But I think the point most people are trying to get across is that we need more s_xual education out there so girls can make the right decisions for themselves. A lot of girls write posts that demonstrate a complete lack of basic knowledge when it comes to s_x and anatomy. When I read posts like: "if my boyfriend ejaculates inside of me the day before im suppose to ovulate, can i get pregnant?" it does demonstrate a lack of education (this was a real post by the way). In conclusion, we are not judgement about people who made a mistake, only concerned about the lack of education out there.

 

kayla_shauntel_05 - March 19

I know exactly what you mean amethyst_dragonfly. I think it is said that all these young girls are pregnant. I am sorry if some of you do not agree with my opinion, but I honestly think that these girls do it on purpose. They think it is cute to have a baby. They like the attention they get. Yeah, some of them honestly do it by mistake. I really think if they did not want to have a baby they would not be having s_x. I am sorry but birth control and condoms are 98-99% effective. There are thousands and thousands of teenage girls who are like 16 and younger that are pregnant. I think that makes up more than that 1-2% of contraception failure. I honestly think there should be no use for s_x ed when you are 11. I was 16 the first time I had s_x. I had s_x for over two years without getting pregnant. I am now 18, and 7 months pregnant, but I am very mature about things. I can see both sides of the issue. I sometimes feel like 18 is not old enough to have a baby, but I am completely capable of holding a real, full time job, I am out of high school and in college, and old enough to have my own house and get married without having to have someone sign a paper. Most people consider the age of 18 to be an adult, but I think it depends on how mature the 18 year old is. I had a full time job from the time I was 14 and have always took care of myself. I graduated with honors and am putting myself through college. My boyfriend of over three years and I are planning to get married, probably before the baby even gets here. I am only 18, but I am very mature, and I can totally understand why anyone would say that that is too young to have a child. I also understand that I am an 18 year old, who is considered an adult, and I act like that too. I just honestly believe that anyone under 18 can not possibly be old enough to completely handle the responsibility of raising a child.

 

Corrine321 - March 19

Okay first off Kayla, I am very mature for my age... Alright! and yes i am young and having a baby! I have a baby brother thats 18 months and i have been taking care of him ever since he was born!! My mom works from 2-2 in the morning and my older brothers dont live with me because we have different moms.. my dad commited suicide before i was even born! you cant tell who is mature and whos not mature to raise a baby! I know i am... my little brother loves me to death! and I know i wil be able to raise this baby! and the babys father is 19 and he has a very good job and a house! we been together for almost 3 years! and you cant tell me that people under 18 are immature to have a baby! it was a mistake! and i will live with it!! get over it, teens are gonna get pregnant if they have s_x unprotected at some point... and you know your a teen yourself!

 

Corrine321 - March 19

and im 15 and 26 weeks pregnant...

 

Been There - March 19

I'm sorry, but having s_x is not something you accidentally do. I made a very conscious when I was younger that anything that could happen from having s_x wasn't worth it to me that early in life. And there are plenty of young ladies out there purposely having s_x or purposely getting pregnant. I do think that when a teenager gets pregnant, she has not allowed herself the chance to experience life yet. There is plenty of time to have children a little later. But if it happens, it happens and it must be taken care of. There's nothing to do but move forward. I'm sorry Corrine, being mature or a parent is about more than being to take care of your baby brother while your mother works. A lot of women have to work outside the home, pay bills, pay their own rent. I baby sat for my mother and father too, but I still would not have considered having a child of my own at such a young age. There are a lot of young ladies who make the best of the situation, go to school and do very well for themselves. It can be done. I just know that that was a struggle I wanted to avoid. I also don't want my daughters to make such a mistake. I'm honest with them about consequences and I can only continue to reinforce that there is plenty of time to have s_x and babies later. They need to enjoy their youth while they can.

 

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