Does Anyone Else Have A Iffy Husband

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Leah - November 29

Hello everyone!! I'm sitting here after a night of crying and my eyes are puffy! But this is the second time my husband has done this to me. Last night he said he's not ready, after we have been trying like rabbits!! I couldn't believe it, there is a good chance I'm pregnant too! But I won't know until around the 14th. How should I be feeling, I'm angry, but then I understand where he's coming from, I'm scared too!! Sometimes I think it's because he's afraid the attention will be taken from him, because he said he likes me the way I am and how I take care of him. So now what do I do, I was so excited and all I'm left with is heartbreak!! and all he can say is, "Why do you want a baby so bad?" Like it was all my decision!! He had apart in this as well!!! Sorry for such a juberish question, but I was wondering if anyone else has gone through such a rollercoaster of emotions? Thanks

 

heather - November 29

Don't feel bad Leah. My husband is scared too. Being completely responsible for another life is hard and intimidating. It will change your marriage and your lives forever. Maybe you can try talking to him and see how he is feeling right now. Don't attack though, be understanding and rea__sure him that he will be taken care of too and he will be a great daddy. I had a friend whose husband didn't want a child but once they were pregnant he was so excited and now they are pregnant with their second ! Also, he may be feeling some pressure since you two have been trying so hard. Maybe slow it down a little or surprise him with a special night of something different when you make love. Anyways, don't worry Leah. It'll be ok:)

 

Leah - November 29

Thanks Heather! for your response! We are only 26 but I know that I have always wanted a child, I was just soo excited when he said lets start trying and then to be left with nothing to look forward too!! Maybe I was a little too pushy! He said he felt like a sperm donor! What!! It's only been our first two weeks of trying and all I mentioned were the important days, you know ovulation. I really don't even want to talk about it anymore, it sounds like he has made his decision, so I told him I really don't want to talk about it at all!! I will try to be understanding, I'm just a little hurt today!!

 

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