For Those Worried About What They Drank B4 They Knew

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E - December 7

This link will make many moms-to-be feel better. No dashes in link, if some appear. Underscores stay. http://www.obgyn.nus.edu.sg/maxdata1/mechanisms_by_which_drugs_affect%20fetal%20development.htm

 

KM - December 7

E I think its great that you posted that because it is a common concern of pregnant women. I spent my whole pregnancy having extreme anxiety over this topic, till my doctor rea__sured me with basically the same info. at the end of my pregnancy. needless to say she was right and i have a gorgeous healthy baby

 

Jane - December 7

mannn i cant find this website i copied and pasted and i got an error

 

Jane - December 7

O nevermind i got it, forgot to take out the dashes, lol. http://www.obgyn.nus.edu.sg/maxdata1/mechanisms_by_which_drugs_affect%20fetal%20development.htm thanks E

 

E - December 8

I am glad you ladies feel that this was helpful. There is nothing worse than feeling scared about the health of your unborn child due to alcohol, meds, and or drugs taken so early in the pregnancy. Obviously it is ideal to abstain from all unhealthy behaviors while ttc, but let's face the facts and realities. I hope the teen board does not get ahold of this info b/c I believe some teens will abuse such information through misinterpretation.

 

Mellissa - December 8

http://www.digitalism.org/hst/fetal.html

 

Mellissa - December 8

I posted the link above. I drank for 4 weeks before I knew I was pregnant. It was the month of my birthday and we had several farewell parties for coworkers who were posted to different areas of the world. I know that drinking during pregnancy, even though I can be free from guilt because I was on the pill and not trying to get pregnant, is not something I'll be able to rest my mind about until my baby is out of the womb and grown old enough to cause me no worry. It's Russian roulette with this because everyone knows someone who had a baby after they drank during pregnancy that turned out "fine". However, my fiance has two University degrees, is a distinguished military officer, is a respectable and law abiding member of society, has no physical abnormalities and no s_xual disfunction (common symptoms of FES individuals) yet he was still diagnosed as a child with ADD. He is "fine" too while him Mom drank unknowingly for 2months! He has difficulty staying focused while reading (which is why he doesn't read for fun) and if the television is on, it is nearly impossible to get his attention. His friends and family delight in carrying on conversations around him with him as the topic of discussion and he, is a dazed stupor, none the wiser. It was a struggle for him to get through University and he worked his a__s off to overcome his learning disability. The point is, the only thing women like us can do (and we are far from uncommon) is try not to worry ourselves crazy about something we can no longer do anything about. 1 in 500 babies will have FAS (caused by drinking throughout pregnancy) while 1 in 300 babies will have FAE (often caused by drinking in the first trimester but, can also occur with occasional lighter drinking later on in pregnancy. The bottom line to me? I can tell myself not to worry because I can't fix what's been done but I am well aware that the odds are against me and it will be luck if my baby isn't affected.

 

E - December 8

"Alcohol also affects the pre-embryonic or blastocyst stage resulting in delayed implantation and structural changes." --- This helps to reiterate the all or nothing effect that toxic substances have on the pre-embryo. Structural changes and implantation problems often result in miscarriage. Women who drank b4 finding out they were pregnant are not at high risk for having a baby with FAS. I hope your link is not an insinuation of that.

 

E - December 8

Melissa, the odds are not against you. You posted the odds and they are clearly in your favor. It is true that a person's genetics, combined with maternal lifestyle is the true determinant in how your baby will turn out. Not everyone will have the same outcome. I agree abstaining is best but there is a level of fear amongst women that they will have retarded babies due to exposure so early on. The reality is that if your baby does not miscarry due to lifestyle choices in early pregnancy, he/she will likely come out healthy.

 

tiffani - December 8

I would hesitate to say that he was diagnosed with ADD because his mother had a few drinks. My brother and I are both ADD and my mother was not a drinker. This is not to say that FAE doesn't cause ADD, because I honestly have no idea, but what I am trying to say is you can have ADD for many other reasons.

 

m - December 8

I work in the school system, and I see a lot of ADD. It is more common than people realize I think. In some cases, the mom is/was a drinker before, during, and after pregnancy, but many have mom's that have never been drinkers. Genetics plays a big role in this disorder. I wouldn't be too quick to blame mom for the ADD! Yeah, many people "know" someone who's child turned out fine... but I "am" someone. I didn't know I was pregnant with my first son until 7 weeks... I drank the whole time. In the 6th or 7th week, I developed a distate for beer, but I still had my wine. Now I have a 1st grade son who is the most well-behaved student in the cla__s.... not to mention that nearly every paper he brings home is a 100. He reads and wants to be read to all of the time, he watches full length movies in the theater and never even itches to go to the bathroom, and he sits and colors/draws for very long periods of time. Besides that, I have a friend with ADD. She's the daughter of a lady who is a respected pshychiatrist in Dallas who has led a spotless lifestyle (well, no drinking/drugs... ever!). So there's another example of ADD being in someone who's mother didn't drink. There are always going to be differing stories on any subject. But I'd just like to back up what E said. If the pregnancy lasts through early pregnancy, drinking most likely won't be the cause of anything that may be wrong. I feel bad that this woman has a son who blames her for his learning disorder.

 

m - December 8

Let me make something clear. I said that many of those mom's are/were drinkers.... however, that does NOT mean that I think the 2 are related. I think the early drinking may just be the scapegoat for people who need to blame "something" for their misfortunes.

 

m - December 8

One more clarification..... when I said "I drank the whole time", I mean the whole 7 weeks that I didn't know. After I found out, I didn't touch the stuff until I stopped b___stfeeding.

 

E - December 8

Yeah right, M!! Try to sugar coat your boozing.... :)

 

E - December 8

I am picturing you with a bottle of whisky 7 days a week for 7 weeks:) Sitting on the front porch swing with 3 dead cars in the yard, a rusty swingset, and a kiddy pool with a wet diaper floating in it. LMAO!!! Arkansas, here I come!!!

 

m - December 8

Darn E, you caught me! :o)

 

L - December 8

When you ladies say you drank the first seven weeks with out knowing, how much are you actually drinking, per day/week and how many drinks. My husband and I have a bad habit going out and playing pool or just having a few friends over for cards, I can easily drink up to nine beers while conversing and playing cards. But we have been trying and frankly I've had a hard time putting them down. Believe me we're from Missouri but we're not raging Ozark whitetrash, just some 25 year old city folk!! Could you ladies give me an idea of what you drank! Thanks

 

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