Has Eveything Change With Your Partener Since Found Out

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Saydie - April 28

First off me and him are going through some very stressful times, not just with the baby coming, it is a lot more. When i was a month and a half he went to jail and then to work release for 2 and 1\2 month. On top of that we are both pot smokers. But we have both quit, me because of the baby, him for his probation (for a charge for 4 years ago). We both are more level headed and easier going when we can relax the way we want to, with the pot, but for obviouse we are both cant do that. Before all of this we had a great relationship like a fairy tale almost. But lately we seem to fight a lot and he is very hot headed, so a little fight get blown way up, and yes i do play my part in this as well. But every fight he blames on me being pregnant and dont consider the other things that we are goin through. He still loves i know that and i know that he is goin to be a wonderful father and we want to be together. But the fighting about stupid little things just dont stop. Does anyone have any advise to help get through this with out us breaking up?

 

jena - April 28

how far along are you? if you are in the first trimester, you could be more moody than you know (I am!!!!) and also the shock hasn't quite worn off for both of you. I understand how he could blame the pregnancy because it is the biggest change right now, but it sounds to me that he has a lot of things on his plate too that lead to arguements. Maybe you guys can find something to do together that gives you a similar "result" as smoking like taking walks together and going on dates - okay, maybe I'm starting to sound a little too "fairy tale" here! But find something else you can focus on together that relaxes you both and doesn't harm your body or the baby. Good luck - sorry it's not too much advice! Congratulations on your pregnancy.

 

Karen - April 28

I was going through a simalar sitution.(except for the pot ting). I have come to the understanding that some fathers to be experience similar or same symtoms as the mama to be. My bf was miserable all the time and everything I said was a problem. I had to control my tongue at times, stop and say a prayer and sometimes even ignore the a__s. I talked to his mother and she had a talk with him and explained that he should not be stressing me out at this time. That seem to work and now he is more sensitive and loving. Try talking to him and expressing how you feel. It is easy to b__w up and get hot headed I know. But try some the things I tried and see what happens.

 

Saydie - April 28

i do bite my tongue 90 percent of the time, it is just the time i say something it just goes froms little to exploeding. i just feel like i cant get word in edgewise

 

Karen - April 28

I know excatly what you talking about. When bf starts he cant stop and it goes on and on and on. I feel like killing him sometimes. But my baby would grow up with his mother in jail for killing his father. Good luck try the ignoring with out him realizing your are. Oh yea at some point I broked down and cried and that seem to be a wake up call. Good luck

 

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