Helping With Baby Shower

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Heidi - June 29

Is it a bad idea to help out for my own shower? My mom is going to do it but is just swamped with other stuff this summer and she has medical issues along with this and doesn't have a lot of money so I want to help out and have the kind of party I want. Is this a bad idea? I was going to buy my own invitations and help pay for decorations and make some of the food etc. I'm inviting over 30 people so I don't think it's wrong to help out and pay for some of it. What does everyone else do? I'm asking for certain things for the party too so that's why I figured I'd chip in and help out a little too, which doesn't bother me at all. I read somewhere that your mom isn't supposed to even throw the shower! That seems odd!

 

E - June 29

I think its great that you plan to help her. After all, you are going to reap the benefits of the shower:) Tit for tat. I wouldn't tell people at the shower, b/c you know how strange people are about these kinds of things. You will be known as "the woman who threw her own shower". Just help out where you can and let mom take the credit. Best wishes!!

 

Heidi - June 29

I know she'll do a lot of the work but it's going to be my one and only child so I want it to be special and I don't want to make her buy invitations and decorations that's not in her budget etc so I want to help out with that part. I've been to a couple showers where it's in someone's house and they have a bowl of chips and pop and that's it! Whoopie! Of course grandma is helping out also!

 

TC - June 29

If you want to help, great! She'll appreciate that! At least she's not like my sister! For my bridal shower, it got canceled last minute because of one of the hurricanes (I hadn't been included in the planning, just to let you know) last year, so what does she do? She asks ME to call everyone invited to come on the rescheduled date, which was two days from when she asked me. The clincher? Most of them, she hadn't even called in the first place to invite. I was inviting people to my own bridal shower!

 

TC - June 29

BTW, I'm NOT letting her do ANYTHING for my baby shower.

 

Heidi - June 29

Ha ha! I would have been p__sed! All I've done so far is made my list of who to invite. She's stuck doing all the planning for my grandparent's 50th wedding anniversary this weekend so I know she's stressing out so I offered to help too. It's not until August 27th so I'm sure by then she'll be doing most of the planning. There isn't much to plan really. But she doesn't know anything about computers so I said I'd find games on line and stuff like that for the shower and I'd make labels for the invitations and stuff like that, which takes me no time at all. Plus I kind of get to oversee what we're doing. If I didn't speak up, she wasn't going to buy a cake! I'm like, yes, I want a cake! Gees! Cus she doesn't like cake. One of those kinds of moms! I said this is my one and only shower so I'd like it to be a little special! Nice invitations, cute decorations etc, some fun games, good homemade food etc. Nothing fancy, but fun.

 

tiffani~edd 11/07/05 - June 29

I think it's a great idea for you to step in and help! (and I agree with E that you shouldn't mention your efforts, and Mom should get all the credit)Your Mom's financial and medical issues make it difficult for her to give you a shower that you'll always remember. She needs your help, and you need to make sure there is a cake at the shower. :o)

 

E - June 29

...and that people get invited:)

 

chel - June 29

My mom and my sil are throwing my baby shower, but I am taking care of most of the details. I just want things to be a certain way. They are paying for the food, the rental building, and party favors. I am taking care of the invitations, since I would have to be in on who to invite anyway, and decorations. That way the cost is split a little bit more, however, only their names will be as hosts on the invitations.

 

Shelly - June 29

I don't want to depress anybody, but my best friend was going to throw my babyshower.She was the first one to know i was expecting;also she had really bad b___stcancer and she told me the only thing that made her happy was going on the internet and get info on the games and partyfavors etc.She printed a bunch of information,I have those papers now because she pa__sed away 3 months ago.I had several friends wanting to throw the shower for me,but i decided i wanted to do it the way my friend would have done it. So basically i'm throwing it myself with the help of my other friends and family.Is it strange for me wanting to do it that way????????

 

tiffani~edd 11/07/05 - June 29

I don't think it's strange at all Shelly. I think it's a wonderful way to honor her memory. Sorry for you loss.

 

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