How Did He React When

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Missy - March 1

you told him you were pregnant? My story is kinda funny - we just bought a house and closed escrow two days before and we are upstairs looking at the two extra bedrooms and I ask him which room he wants to make the baby's room. He kinda laughs it off and goes downstairs...meanwhile, I am in shock that I have to break it to him ALL OVER AGAIN and follow him down. Then I look at him and tell him I am serious - his reply? "You're kidding". So, I hand him the test - those two purple lines were sooooo dark he had no choice but to accept it. But he didn't say anything, he just hugged me and started talking about what we are going to remodel in the house. So, my question to all you ladies out there - How did he react?

 

upset - March 1

well I just put a posting very similar to yours just a few minutes ago I am crying bec. my bf seems like If I had not told him anything he doesn't even talk about the pregnancy I don't know if I am over reacting but I thought that if they loved you they were supposed to jump with you, hug you and touch your belly all day but in the other hand he acts like if I told him I was going to get a new puppy...(maybe he would make a bigger deal if I said that) I feel very upset and I totally know how you are feeling..is it maybe that they are confused?

 

to upset - from Missy - March 1

I know what you mean, my bf jokes about stuff, we call the baby "Danger Bean" (after all, the nausea is pretty dangerous!) but he doesn't seem excited for me, the baby, or us at all. He is just kinda making the motions but no emotion behind it. Kinda scary, makes me wonder how he REALLY feels. Anyway, if you need to talk privately, let me know and I will get you my email address. by the way, how far along are you?

 

desire - March 1

Well, my man and me was apart when I found out about my 1st pregnancy. But when we got back together like a month later, he cried because he wanted to be with me when i was going thru the vomitting stage, and I had to abort it at the time because my mother didn't believe being a single parent. So he was very angry I aborted it, but he talks about it everytime we walk down the street and see kids in the carriage, he be like " our child would of been 2 by now"! So don't worry upset, or missy. They shock now, but they will be good when you get alil close to contraction time. Keep in touch at my email "[email protected]"

 

upset - March 1

thank you missy and desire it really helps to have peopleto talk to that have been or are in the same situation my email is [email protected] I would really like if we could keep in contact and talk about it..since I have no one else to talk to about it.

 

Gisele - March 1

When I told my bf that I was pregnant he was upset and sounded mad (i told him over the phone). He said he didnt want anymore kids, and asked me what i plan to do and to keep in mind that i still need to finish school, we both have no money, etc.... i just stayed quiet and hung up the phone, during the rest of my pregnancy he didnt really say anything about the baby, its like if i was not pregnant, but as i got close to my due date, especially after i got my 3d/4d sonogram done he got really excited. And now hes so in love with our baby. I dont know if its normal for guys to act like this, but my guy did and i hated him for it and still now i kind of hate him for being that way in the beginning u know, but what can u do.

 

upset - March 1

I was just reading Gisele's message and i read something that I think is happening to me, well similar sometimes when I see he is acting like if we are not pregnant and sees that I am throwing up in front of him and he sees when I am sick, he wont do nothing or even ask if I am ok..Its LIKE IF i WAS A GHOST and then I hate him for that and I am scared that all this hate will pile up and hurt this relationship I don't want to tell him this first bec. he will change the subject right away second bec. he may say that I am exagerating or that not to say that just bec. I am mad at him..

 

to Gisele from Desire - March 1

How many kids does your man have? How many years yall been together? And r u in college or hs? Because I was in a similar situation because my man has a daughter, and I may feel not wanted, like I was my first pregnancy, but was aborted! But he is hoping I get pregnant this year. I'm turning 20 by june. And still in search og a job, and going to go to night school soon. So please keep in contact with me at my email [email protected]

 

Missy - March 1

So, I totally understand the whole ghost thing. I was throwing up (gross, I know, sorry) in the shower (even grosser, I know, but when you gotta go, you gotta go, ya know) and he just continued brushing his teeth or whatever the hell he was doing in the sink and all I could think about was before, when we talked about kids, were the promises he made that he would be there for me every step, holding my hair when I was sick and holding my hand at the ultrasounds. Well, thus far I hold my own hair and hold my own hand at the doctors - he missed seeing the HB for the first time, and that really made me cry (without telling him I cried) because I wanted so badly for him to be a part of this....I don't know, he just says I am hormonal and he can't go to the doctors because his boss is the evil b___h from hell and he is friggin whipped by her.....whew - that was a whole lotta typin for me - I think I need a snack now!!!

 

UPSTET - March 1

Missy I totally know what you are talking about the brushing his teeth scene I was throwing up in front of him in the toilet and he could see and hear me and he still continue to brush his teeth...I was sooo mad and I also cried because he did not seem to care one bit and when i tell him something new that I found out in the computer for example here in this forum he says were did you got that from? probably from the computer don't believe everything they say..I GET SOO MAD

 

Gisele - March 1

OO Missy i know how that is, i had morning sickness til i was well over 5 mo. he would not help me in anything, i wanted him to feel like i felt about the baby, i would get all excited when the baby kicked he wouldnt get as excited as i did. I would be like "hey im hungry (hoping he would jump and get me something to eat), but instead he would be like "yeah im hungry too go cook us something" Id get soo mad. My friend was pg during the time i was pg and her bf was so considerate and atentive, i wa__sss sooo jealous. To Desire: He has an 8 year old daughter, hes 24, and I am 20. We've been together almost 5 years on and off, and I go back to work and to college on the 14th. email me at [email protected] if u wanna chat.

 

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