Husband Excited An I Am Not So Sure

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Tigerphoenix - March 10

I am 8 weeks pregnant and my husband is bouncing off the walls. He is so happy and proud but I am not so sure. I really am scared out of my mind. I never really wanted or thought about having kids. I really dont have much to worry about. I have a home, steady job with a boss who is very family oreneted, and the greatest partner anyone could ask for. I just can't shake this fear. Anyone else going through this? What are you doing to ease the anxiaty?

 

Heidi - March 10

I went through/am going through, the same thing you are. I'm the youngest of 7 kids and everyone else has kids and I never even considered having one. I liked my freedom...and my pets. Then I accidentally got pg. My fiance is very happy and I was on pins and needles for weeks. I didn't tell a lot of people but he took care of that for me! I'm still worried that I won't be a good mom or bond right away. I'm 30 years old so the thought of losing my freedom isn't that big of a deal. When you get to be my age you realize you don't do a whole hell of a lot anyway. I have always been first though and now it won't be like that. It sounds selfish but I can't fight feeling that way. And I know it will probably change and I'll regret every thinking that way when I see my baby for the first time, I hope! I read that some mom's don't connect at first but do in time. The financial strain stresses me a little but ya get over it everyone says. You'll be okay if I'm going to be okay!!!! I just take it one day at a time. We're in the middle of building a house so I haven't had much time to think about it but the morning sickness keeps reminding me of it. I'm 8 wks pg today. Next week is the ultrasound. Everyone asks if I'm excited and some days I'm okay with it and other days I feel differently. But like my fiance said, things happen for a reason. I always said I wanted to wait a couple more years to have a baby but deep down I knew I wouldn't. So maybe this is a sign. I never wanted to grow old without having a child but I know I probably never would have tried or as I got older, it would have been harder to have one etc. So I'm taking it in stride and trying to look on the bright side of things and keep a positive outlook. Everyone around me is happy for me and asking about names and stuff and I'm like, huh? Oh yeah, that's right! Ha ha! And I was scared out of my mind too. I cried a lot at first but then faced reality. I see all these moms on this post that are so happy and I felt just the opposite till a week or two ago. I'm starting to come around to the idea and I figure I don't have a choice...I talked myself out of that choice....so I think of the good times we'll have in the future. Good luck to you!

 

Tigerphoenix - March 10

I told my husband that after I turned 25 (which I am now) if it happened it happened. Well it happened. Im not an overly social person so all the attention Im getting from everyone is throwing me off. I guess I should be greatfull that I have so many people ready to help me out but do they have to talk in such a high squeky voice about it??? LOL

 

Kelly K - March 10

Like my mom told me when I freaked out at first.. just think.. in a few years you'll have someone to help around the house and do chores. It made me laugh and that helped ease my mind.

 

Tigerphoenix\ - March 10

Hmmmmm Good point Kelly! Someone to help with the animals and the dishes......Im starting to like this already! lol

 

Kelly K - March 10

Forget about the help with the animals.. that'll never happen! Just ask the dead fish at my SIL's house and the dead hamster. The dishes now.. that is a good one. Don't forget dusting either! They are little and can fit in more places than we can!

 

Kelly K - March 10

I've wanted to strangle my fiance a few times myself. Just need to remember that they are experiencing something that they haven't before either. Just be a bit patient with him and people around you. Even though you/we may not be excited yet, that will all change after the first ultrasound when you see the heart beating and release you have someone growing in you. I'm 27 now and this is my first baby and I wasn't planning this either. In fact, my doctor told me it was almost impossible for me to conceive. Well.. SURPRISE! I'm almost 7 weeks pregnant now and have a shocked doctor and mommy.

 

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