I Want More Already

6 Replies
kendall - October 5

I am 23 and have a 20 month old daughter and a 5 month old son, and I want another. My b/f and I have been together for 4 years and we know that we want more babies. He keeps saying not till around 30? I don't want to be that old just having my third baby, I mean, I want 5 kids and that is a bit old to start again, just my opinion. Our son was not planned but we knew it could happen. I am having really strong feelings of wanting to be pregnant again. Also I have had c-sections with both of my babies. Let me know what you think, am I being selfish.

 

another Karen - October 5

I know I couldn't do it but some are just meant to breed. I agree with you about waiting til you're 30. I fell pregnant with my first just before 30. I certainly don't regret leaving it so late, it's taken me all this time to find someone worth breeding with. Good on you for managing with the 2 you have, you'll be fine if you believe you're up to it. And no you're not selfish. By the time you're 30 and approach the subjest again your partner might feel by then it's too late and he prefers the time you have together without kids at such dependant ages.

 

k. - October 5

Wow, you want 5 kids.... good for you. I have a 9 year old son and a 10 month old son.... we are hoping to try again sometime after Christmas, I guess.... I'm a bit nervous with having them 2 years apart, a toddler and a newborn, I have to figure out first of all if I'm up for it..but my husband is great and we spend all our time with our kids. The third, if it happens will definitely be our last. Oh, and to your question, no I don't think you are selfish... just let your partner know how strongly you feel about it or come to a good compromise if he's not ready yet. Good luck, keep in touch.

 

Tory1980 - October 5

My husband was very much the same when we discussed when to have kids. We had decided on 26/27 and that went out the window when I fell pregnant with my first son on the Pill. Once he came though we discussed distance between children etc and I told him I wanted them all close together. He has four years between him and his brother whereas my mum had four children 5 and under. I am going the same way and turned 27 in August - finishing having my kids instead of just starting! My oldest turned five in August and I am due in January. It is hard work with them being so young but waiting until 30 is gonig to leave a HUGE gap between them - not many people are willing to go back to dirty nappies and broken nights with a newborn when their kids are pretty self-sufficient. I don't mean to put a dampner on the five kids either (I always wanted four and it is soon to arrive) but if you are to have c-sections it will get dangerous for you to continue to do so and the pregnancies will get more high risk the more you have due to scarring on the uterus and the chances of heavier bleeding in the ops. I know here they will not do more than 4 sections on the same woman due to the complications involved. Maybe your b/f is panicing with having two children under two now! Maybe wait until the baby is a year old and discuss it with him again and see what he says when your son is that little bit older. Also it can take UP TO 2 years for your body to get over a pregnancy - hence why it is usually advised you wait 18months to 2 years between pregnancies and maybe he is a little worried on all aspects - especially with two surgeries already.

 

kendall - October 10

bump

 

Carebear3 - October 11

I am 20 and I have a 15 month old son and a 5 month old girl and I also had two c-sections. I want another one and I'm hoping I'm pregnant now which I think i am. It's not selfish you just love being a mom like me.

 

kendall - October 12

thanks for the replies.Carebear3, I was wondering if your significant other is wanting another baby like you do? That is what our issue is right now, I mean really, 30, that is wayyyy too far apart for me. I think I am addicted to being pregnant and having babies, it probably doesnt help since I am "firtile mirtle". I could literaly get pregnant whenever I wanted with my b/f, his little guys are very eager. Thanks again.

 

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