Jlorezno

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CJ - March 16

J - I hope you can help me. My husband and I just found out we are PG and I don't think he is taking it very well. I was on BC so this is a big shock. Fo the first three days he just kept telling me he didn't believe it. Then yesterday he was hollering me about not going to the gym (I was too tired) and telling me that I need to eat better. He won't have anything to do with me and shows me now affection at all - just tells me that he doesn't think that I have really thought about what this means. What should I do from a mans perspective. I want to be ahppy because there is nothing to be done about this, but it is so hard around him and I want to share this with him....

 

JLorenzo - March 16

Hi CJ, first let me say that I am honored that you would ask my opinion on this. Second, call me Josh okay? When my wife took the pregnancy test back in August and we got the faintest line possible, I didn't believe it either. I was in shock. Now I don't know your situation so I don't want to a__sume anything. I think that sometimes the realization of a baby on the way overwhelms even people who want to start a family. I don't think you can ever go wrong with talking to him about how he feels and about how you feel. It is extremely important for you to minimize stress right now. You will be going on quite a rollercoaster over these next few months and he needs to understand that he is either with you 100%, or not all. I am a firm believer in talking about how you feel. If he is still distant after that, than you might want to distance yourself as well. Is he your boyfriend, husband?

 

JLorenzo - March 16

Oh, I see after rereading your post that he is your husband. Best thing to do is to talk and give him some time to come around okay? But please make your feelings of happiness known to him as well. My guess is he will come around.

 

CJ - March 16

Josh - thank you for your advice. It is much appreciated. I have a feeling that he is worried about finances. We both have college degrees and I have a good stable job, but he owns his own business and his income varies. I can understand his stress, but I need him there for me (as you said 100%). I am sure he will come around. He is normally a very sweet and loving person (and I know he will make a great Dad - loves animals and is good with kids). I guess it is just the overwhelming shock and not at all what he planned....He is 35 and it is probably time he did think about it. I will follow your advice and pray that he comes around. This is something to be happy about - not sad and depressed.

 

JLorenzo - March 16

Yeah, I agree with you CJ. It is a time to be happy. He sounds like a good guy who is a little shell shocked! Did you and him ever talk about having kids? Just talk with him and give him some time. But you be as happy as you want to be! It is up to him to come around, not you. And if he is anything like you mention, I think he will! Good luck and keep me posted!

 

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