My Baby S Father His Health

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Hmm - March 18

The father of my baby was diagnosed with paranoid schrizophrenia, is this hereditary? And is there a way to stop it? His father was bipolar, and my boyfriend did not develop this until he was 16. I'm kind of hoping if it's a girl, maybe she'll have better chances of sidestepping this problem. Also, my boyfriend had a long history of doing many drugs: heroin, ecstasy, cocaine, crack cocaine, marajuana... This can't be passed through his sperm can it? There were a few times I thought he may have been messed up when we had s_x after I got pregnant, and I'm worried that if he was, it will hurt the baby.

 

Julie - March 18

Hi I hope I can help I am going to school to be a psychologist. Yes schizophrenia is hereditary and so is bipolar disorder. Here is the breakdown of risk of getting schizophrena : Identical twin: 46%, Offspring of one schizo parent 13%, offspring of 2 parents with the disorder 46%. Both disorders can be controlled under proper medical attention. Do you know if you boyfriend is under the care of a physician? Schizophrenia is a serious mental disorder and if your boyfriend has it he needs to be treated. As for your unborn baby there is only a 13% chance. Good luck.

 

JLorenzo - March 18

Hi, I am also in school for Psychology and I agree with Julie. The best thing to do is make sure your boyfriend seeks medical help to control the disorder. Is he off drugs currently? Both my parents were heavily into that stuff when I was born in 1977. I didn't get any of the addictions they had, nor did I have any desire to try those things. Just be a healthy role model to your child and hopefully the disorders and addictions that grip your boyfriend won't carry on into your child.

 

Hmm - March 18

He is trying to get back on Resperidol and get his act together. I have been begging him to see a psychologist and get a__sessed so he knows for sure he is getting the right meds. It had also been discussed by a counselor it could be drug induced paranoia, I thought that too, maybe with the bipolar. Not to sound rude, he's really difficult to deal with sometimes. He gets these ideas in his head, like I'm not being faithful, then builds on it and adds stories that aren't true to it, then tells his family lies about me, then they feed back on it, adding to his issues. He has one characteristic of a paranoid schrizophrenic. Sometimes he can be very conceited and think he's better than everyone else. Other times, he'll let his hygiene go for days on end. When he was in jail he was scared they would kill him, and did not bathe but maybe twice in a month. This might sound stupid, but it almost sounded like a defense mechanism, like a skunk when it's scared. Does that sound dumb to you? When he would do drugs though, he would be fine, then when they were gone, or the next day, he would be severly paranoid. I really appreciate your input on this, it's confidential and I take your words on it, since you're in school and it's right at your fingertips.

 

Heidi - March 18

I know a guy who used a lot of ecstasy and meth and started the symptoms of schizophrenia around age 21 and it did not run in the family. He did not take his meds and committed suicide. It was very sad. Please make sure he is getting the proper meds and staying off drugs. Take care....

 

Julie - March 18

I know that people with this disorder often have delusions such as a persecutory delusion in which one may believe that others are conspiring against them or a grandiose delusion in which one may feel that he has great power or knowledge. The thing with Schizophrenia is that people with the disorder at times are highly functional individuals and other times they lose touch with reality. Paranoid Schizophrenia in general is with people have hallucinations and delusions that involve themes of persecution and grandiosity. This may be where the stories are coming from that he has made up about you. They may often feel that someone is plotting against them. Luckily paranoid schiz. is considered a milder form of the disorder and with treatment you can live a normal life. Another remedy you might want to try is fish oil one of the newest prescriptions for schizophrenia is fish oil (omega 3 polyunsaturated fatty acids which are found in fish). Try to increase his diet with fish. This is controversial but hey what the hell! He really should be under a physicians care and family therapy for you also will work well for people with the disorder.

 

Hmm - March 18

Does anyone know if his past drug usage could have any effect on my baby?

 

Heidi - March 18

Julie's totally right. I've dealt with a few schizo people and they can lead very productive lives and then one day they go downhill just like that. A lady I know was a nurse and she had schizophrenia and she would call us and say someone was taking things out of her house and people were out to get her. The guy I know who died, he'd sit in his room and say people were outside his window talking to him telling him to do bad things. He heard voices all the time. It was really sad.

 

Julie - March 18

I don't think his drug use is going to hurt your baby. I am not trying to be judgemental here as well but I am wondering what kind a person he is going to be when this baby arrives? If he is into drugs and will not seek medical help for his disorder he may be a danger to you and your baby?

 

Hmm - March 18

Well, I have given him a choice, either get the help he needs or he can't be around. Bottom line. It's very sad about your friend, Heidi. It makes me worry for my boyfriend. He too claims to have heard voices and seen things that weren't real. He has thought that I've said things under my breath and whispered things when I haven't. I have put the bottom line out that he needs help. I can't continue with him until he does. He has begged me for help, but he doesn't take the initiative himself. No one can do it for him. I have been patient, tried to deal with it, and tried to be rational. I told him when this baby gets here, I am going to have to focus on the baby, not be interegated over if I was whispering something behind his back. I told him a child can't see that either, because it will think that it's okay to act like that. Thanks for all your help. I appreciate your input, feel free to keep posting, I can never know enough about this illness.

 

Julie - March 18

Smart move you are doing the right thing. When a patient is over 18 it is up to them to get some help. good luck.

 

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