My Bf S Mom Hates Me To Death I Don T Know If I Am Prgnt

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Katelyn - July 7

The last day I got my prd was May 28th & I went the whole month of June & never got it. I still don't have it & I took 2 tests already like 2 wks ago & they were negative. Well... I just found out last nite that my bf's mom wants to kick my family & I out of the church (she is the pastor) because there have been several past arguments with her & my dad but I guess she is still holding a grudge & also because she seen some pics that I gave to my bf of me in my bra.. so she was so angry (because she trusted me so much) and well now my bf wants to move out of the house & rent an apt. but the thing is I don't know how to tell my dad that my bf's mom does not want us to go to church anymore.. & my parents are planning to go to church tonight.. I'm scared to go because then she is going to tell my parents about the pics & if they find out.. it'll be my last day here alive.. help!! Do u think if it's been 1 month & 7 days w/out my prd.. I could be pregnant?

 

wow - July 7

Kinda a tough spot you're in. I don't know what to tell you about being pregnant, do you have any symptoms? We can't really give you our opinion without them. The only real way to know for sure though, is to get a blood test done by your doctor. As far as your bf's mom goes, if she doesn't want your family to go to her church, she's going to tell them one way or the other (a__suming she doesn't chicken out like a lot of "hot talkers" do). Tell your parents that you upset her and tell them why, it's better coming from you than her. Good luck!

 

Julie - July 7

How old are you?

 

Katelyn - July 7

Well I don't have any symptoms.. yet... I just feel a little thicker & my b___bs look a bit bigger. Is it possible that some women may experience no symptoms at all? I'm the baby in my household (I am 19) & well.. my bf & I love each other so much & we can't stand the fact of not being together so I don't know if I should leave my home & move in with him or... I'm just so scared because I've never gone through anything like this.. & I've never rebelled against my parents.. which I don't have a reason to because they like my bf for me.. but if I were to leave w/him they would be angry.. but I can't lose him & I still don't know if I'm prgnt! I don't have a doctor or medical insurance...

 

Katelyn - July 7

I'm 19 yrs old

 

Ok - July 7

Hold your breath for now about the pregnancy possibility until you can go to a Pregnancy/Family Planning Clinic (usually provide free services, look in your local phone book) and the decision to move out can wait too. For now, the issue that's pressing for everyone right now is your bf's mother. BTW, she doesn't sound like a very good pastor. Anyways, you need to tell your parents WHY it's possible they'll be asked (or told) to leave the church. If you're honest and upfront, and admit that what you did was foolish and you're sorry, then they'll be upset but more likely to look it over sooner than if you let your bf's mom tell them. Parents love it when their child comes to them FIRST to admit some wrong doing, it shows a humble spirit and a willingness to have their approval, and mostly, that you LOVE THEM. Spare them the pain, tell them NOW!

 

J - July 7

I find it strange that a paster would kick someone out of a church. Aren't they there to help?

 

Katelyn - July 7

See.. my bf's mom has never been like that.. but when her & my dad got into an arguments like waaay in the beginning of the year she is holding a grudge against him & my dad does not even know it.. he got over it & he thinks she did too. But obviously my bf told me what his mom told him & so she does not like my dad & now she really does not like me because of the pic.. so I guess she thinks my whole family is messed up or something because all of my sisters got married young & she thinks that I am too. But she used to be so nice to me, she would even give me $$ w/out me even asking her for it.. & since the day she saw that pic.. she hates me.. & she is forcing my bf to break up w/ me or for him to move out but he wants to move out because he loves me. So... I feel so bad.. it's not so easy telling my parents what I've done because they are really strict & if they find out they too will probably restrict me from seeing him.. I'm stuck.. & not sure if I'm pregnant..

 

Julie - July 7

Well first of all you need to find out if you are pregnant and if you are she is going to have to find a way to accept it. Good luck to you.

 

Katelyn - July 7

I'm so confused right now.. but yea, I know I must find out if I am prgnt. I just wish I could go back & change all of the stupid mistakes I've done.. but it's too late. I feel the need to cry, to scream, to run far from here.. you just don't understand how much I love him & I can't be without him.. & I know he wants to be with me too.. my parents will kill me if they find out what is going on.. I have no one to talk to, I am alone on this..

 

Raychel - July 7

Girl I hear ya. My husband's mom hates me too. I really don't care. She hates me because I got pregnant, and now her son can't send her as much money as he has been sending her (hes in the army) because he has a kid on the way. Shes on welfare and won't get off her a__s to get a job. Cuz Matt pays her bills now. (which i hate). But look. When it comes down to its about u, ur baby, and ur boyfriend. And how old are u? If ur boyfriends mom is acting like that, find a new church! Theres plenty, this world is overruned by religion.

 

K - July 7

one thing is for certain it is really hard to maintain a normal relationship when his family doesn't approve. I was in a 2 year relationship and it didn't work because of his family.

 

Ok - July 7

Katelyn, my parents were extremely strict too. I wasn't even "permitted" to date until I was 18. I knew how to take care of the entire house by the time I was 11. I suffered physical and psychological abuse. So I know the boat you are in. Despite this, I still loved my parents dearly and felt horribly when I finally rebelled against them. Yes, they'll be mad, may try to restrict you from seeing your bf, but what's worse? Them being upset because you owned up to it and told the truth or them being upset because you lied and kept things from them that they had to learn from someone else? I guarantee you, it won't last forever, it didn't for me. You're 19, you're old enough to start taking responsibility for your actions. Stop hiding like a coward and own up to it. They appreciate your honesty more than you think.

 

Katelyn - July 7

Thank u for ur advice raychel.. I know there are plenty of churches out there.. but it's not the same because here at the church I go to.. I am the keyboard music player & the main person that sings, I lead all of the music.. it'll all be so different. And I don't want any of you who are reading my forums to think that church people are hypocrites.. not everyone is like that .. it's just me, because I made the stupid mistake, the choice to do this & I fell & couldn't get back up..

 

to Katelyn - July 7

How old is your boyfriend?

 

Katelyn - July 7

The reason why I feel so scared to just confess up to it is because like I said I have never gone through anything like this & I know I am old enough to do this now.. but because I am the only daughter in the family left (the baby) & my parents look after me so much, & they expect me to get married in a church with a white dress since my other sisters didn't. So I'm the last one they've got.. & I've ruined it & they don't even know it. I feel terrible.. then I can't bring this up to them now since my mom has been kinda paranoid lately at night she loses sleep (insomnia) & she hardly eats now.. my dad has high blood pressure.. but I can't lose the love of my life either...

 

Relax - July 7

Start worrying when you find out your pregnant and then prepare yourself. You are an adult now and I am sure you will handle it.

 

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