No Baby On My U S I Have A Broken Heart

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cat - July 21

Well I just got the news yesterday that they couldnt see a baby on my u/s I have been crying all day. At 11wks I dont understand why my body is going to wait this long with no miscarriage. I cant believe this is happening to me. I go back in 9 days to redue my u/s and they also have me on schedule for a D & C. MAN this is some bullshit, Im so mad sad and emotionally drained. Has anyone else had this happen to them? Does anyone know why this happened why would your body become pregnant with an empty sac? This is going to be the longest and emotional nine days ever. Wish me luck ladies.

 

Jess - July 21

((((((((((((((cat))))))))))))))))))) I am so sorry to hear this. There is no words that I can say that will take any of this pain away that you are feeling. Was this your first ultrasound? Had you heard the heartbeat yet? Know that we are thinking of you and are here if you ever need to talk. Take care of yourself.

 

b - July 21

I am so sorry, my heart is broken for you. I did a quick search online for you and found this site. I hope it will come up for you. Its similar to what you describe but earlier--6 weeks. all I can say is I am sorry and I hope everything works out for you. http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Maternal/messages/31306.html

 

Jamie - July 21

*hug* Is it possible that you are less than 11 weeks???

 

Holly - July 21

Sweetie I am so sorry. I wish I had the words to help you through this, but I don't. You never know what will happen in the future - you may go in for your next ultrasound and they may see the baby. I hope so. Try to keep your head up - every day is a new day. Let us know how it goes. You know that you will have support here no matter what! Take Care.

 

kris - July 21

cat, Im sorry. The same thing did happen to me at 8 weeks, although my body did pa__s the baby on its own. m/c will happen for no reason and no fault, and it sucks. DH and I cried all night long. That was in January of this year. I waited one cycle, then tried again, and am now 23 weeks.

 

MJM - July 21

I became preo 6 months after my first was born. So this was 4 years ago that this happened to me. At first we were like OMG what are we going to do. Too close together. Then it was cool, 2 kids and we are done. I went for my 1st dr apt at 11 weeks and everything was great. about 4 weeks later i had a little bit of spotting. Dr said no worries. A couple days later, mucus and MORE blood. Well I called my hubby off of work and he rushed me to the DR before he closed and D&C that day. What happened is that I actually lost the baby before the 15 week point and my body was trying to absorb it. So it is not all the uncommon to be where you are and go through this. The strange thing is about the time the Dr said that I lost the baby was when all of a sudden i was laying in bed one night and I looked at the hubby and said you know I dont feel prego anymore. He said what dr said everything is fine. I knew in my heart that the miscarraige was going to happen but blocked it out. Everything is going to go good for you it is a very hard and trying time right now for you and I know that but try to keep your head up.

 

DAYI - July 21

AWWW CAT I'M SO SORRY I HAVEN'T BEEN ON THAT SITUATION BUT IT SHOULD BE VERY HARD.I ALWAYS SAY GOD DOSEN'T GIVE YOU MORE THAT WHAT YOU CAN'T HANDLE.BUT REMENBER YOUR HUBBY LOVES YOU AND HE IS SUFERING JUST LIKE YOU I UNDERSTAND WHEN THEY TELL YOU U ARE PREGNANT YOU ARE ALLREADY THINKING OMG HOW IS IT GOING TO LOOK LIKE HOW AM I GOING TO NAME HIM/HER AND YOU LOVE THEM FROM THAT FIRST MOMENT BUT YOU ARE YOUNG U HAVE A GREAT HUSBAND WHO REALLY LOVES YOU AND YOU GUYS CAN HAVE MORE BABY'S BUT DON'T PUT YOUR HEAD DOWN I HAVE HEARD ALOT PEOPLE THAT MISCARRIAGE AND THE MONTH AFTER THEY ARE PREGNANT AGAIN AND I AM PREATY SURE THAT WILL BE YOUR CASE. I DON'T WHANT TO GET YOU SAD BUT REMEMBER THAT THERE IS ALOT OF PEOPLE THAT HAVE THERE BABY AND EITHER THEY ARE SICK OR SOMETHIN OR THEY ARE PREMATURE AND THEY DIE AND THAT WILL REALLY BREAKE YOUR HEART FOR ALL YOUR LIFE.DON'T ALSO LOSE YOUR HOPE YOU NEVER NOW WHAT CAN HAPEN MAYBE THAT DOCTOR IS BLIND OR STUPID BUT IF HE IS RIGHT WE ARE GOING TO BE HERE FOR YOU AND REMENBER YOUR DH LOVES YOU AND HE IS THERE WITH YOU I HOPE YOU FEAL BETTER AND GOD BLESS YOU.

 

Lissi - July 22

So sorry to hear that. I think it's everyone's worst fear when they go in for that first scan, that they won't find a baby. Sorry you were unlucky this time. I hope you fall pregnant again soon, so that you can put this grief behind you. Good luck cat. Hugs.

 

cat - July 22

yes this was my first u/s jess and no I havent heard a heartbeat I dont know if my doctor even checked he seem to really harp on the fact my sac was empty. Im positive on my period dates because we were trying I paid real close attention, also my sac was huge! there is no way I could be earlier. This Doctor is the same doctor that delivered my son and I really trust his opinion anyways I dont want to get my hopes up this is already been so emotional for me, I just buried my Nana and now this all in a few weeks time I just dont know how much more one person can handle. Thank you all for your blessed thoughts.

 

beth - July 24

Im very sorry cat, Ive lost too and I know how bad it hurts. Good luck to you.

 

jen - July 24

I had this happen too, its called a blighted ovum. Everything is normal expect there is no fetus. I do wonder if you have had any signs like cramping light bleeding blood test come back saying somethings wrong.....have you had any of these? please let me know your answers very curious to know, sincerely ~ jen ~

 

JS - July 24

I am so sorry, cat. I have had 4 mc's and it sucks. It hurts, it's confusing, it's frustrating, it's everything all wrapped up at the same time and it sucks. No one knows why these things happen for sure, they can only guess. Have faith and be strong. Well, as strong as you can. You are in our thoughts and prayers...

 

Dee - July 26

Sorry cat, so sorry.

 

Karen - July 26

So sorry to read about your sitution. Although I have not been there. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks so I can totally understand how you feel. All the best.

 

LB - July 26

cat my prayers go out to you. I agree that god wouldnt give you more than you could handle and i am so sorry to hear the bad news. its kinda scary because in 11 weeks and i dont feel preg any more but i heard my baby's heartbeat and i have an u/s pic of a healthy little kid. im a little worried but i will use you as my stregnth for my next visit because you have a good spirit. much luv 2 you and yours.

 

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