Not Really Pregnancy But More Hormonal Question

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Selena - April 5

OK here is the deal. I am four months pregnant. I am supposed to get married in one month. I found out my fiance is still updating his profile online with some dating site - should I be worried? I mean, I don't know how long ago he updated it, but I do know it was sometime during the last 6 months. Or is it just nothing and I am just hormonal and I should just be happy we are getting married and look forward to our baby on the way? Other than this, I would have never put him as a cheater or anything like that, it just kind of bugs me that he updated his profile like he is still looking...what do you think?

 

jena - April 5

ouch... have you talked to him about it? I would have a talk because I'd be scared to marry someone that is acting like he hasn't "sowed his wild oats" yet. I'm so sorry! That's miserable. Good luck to you and I hope your fiance pays attention to you the way you deserve it.

 

Selena - April 5

He proposed three months ago - when we found out I was pregnant. I don't want to b__w things out of proportion if he updated it before tben - what is a good way to bring this up without letting him know I checked his profile?

 

leslie - April 5

for how long have you guys been together? This is a situation that I would not know what to do either..but I know that I would not like to be in..there is no reason to update a dating site if he already has a girlfriend..that is why I ask how long have you guys been together...

 

jena - April 5

that's a tough one - how to bring it up without saying, "hey, i was snooping around and..." :) (trust me I don't think you are bad for doing that!). can you just talk to him about the baby and if he is happy with your relationship and what's happening/going on right now? if he may have updated it before proposing, then he could have had a change of heart and felt much more committed to you once he found out you were preggo. still a horrible situation - i'm so sorry.

 

Selena - April 5

I feel like he is happy otherwise he wouldn't have asked me to marry him and besides, this baby was sort of planned so I know he wants to be with me I mean we own a house together but still, I guess I am just emotional and I guess I am jumping to conclusions and maybe he did update it before he proposed. We have been together for almost two years now. I am a little paranoid as it is and the pregnancy has only made me crazier ;o) I have asked him if he is happy and he says that i have given him everything he wanted - a baby and a family. I don't know....I guess I just needed to vent and see what you girls would do.

 

SugarPie - April 5

When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. Updating a profile to meet other women when you've been with a "gentleman" over two years and you're carrying his child is a severe problem that needs to be addressed. Why women want to double check themselves and feel that they're "overreacting" is an issue. Come clean with it. Why should you be questioning anything? Keep it real with him and if he can't keep it real with you, then you know you have a severe problem. Much love***

 

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