Please Help Me Im Scared

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JASSLYNN - July 13

im 17 and i think i might be pregnant. i know im not ready for a baby, but if i am i wanna keep it, is that wrong of me? my boyfriend told me i have to get an abortion, cause it will ruin his life if i have it. help me

 

Alice - July 2

Congratulations! You should be proud of your decision, respecting life could never be wrong. God bless you for not wanting to kill your baby! I will pray for you so you have the streght to keep your decision. If you need help there are a lot of places where help for pregnant teens is offered: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/

 

Amanda - July 7

Hello, I am twenty and pregnant with my second child. I was also seventeen when I was Pregnant with mt first. She is now four years old. I am married to her father now and we are very happy. You do not have to do anything you do not want to do. I would like to inform you that there are programs to help young moms now. I was a product of one. My high school had a daycare in it that provided quality childcare at a very affordable rate. It cost something like 20 dollars a month. I am now going into my third year of Nursing education. I am doing great. I was really scared too. It was hard to tell my parents but they love my little girl very much and are very happy that I chose to keep her. You do have options and there is no same in any of them. I hope things go well good luck.

 

Lilly - July 7

Wow! You're boyfriend so rude for saying that a beautiful baby is going to ruin his life. First I think that if you want to keep the baby,do it. It's your body. If your boyfriend makes you choose tell HIM to screw off. A child is everything,but a boyfriend can always cheat on you, and leave you. A child will always be yours.I got pregnant at 18, and now I am 21 and pregnant again.I would not trade my babies for nothing in the world.Don't get an abortion just for him, it's not fair to you and especially the baby. Please make the right choice.Down the road if he walks out on you, he'll realize that he's missed out on alot.Good Luck

 

Lucy - July 8

I am 28 and having my first child, when i told my boyfriend he was terrified, and he is 31. It doesnt have to ruin your lives, it could be the best thing that ever happens, just make sure its the right thing for YOU. Relax and remember that thousands of people manage this evry day so why shouldnt you. What ever your desicion, dont be ashamed. Like i said im 28 and i panicked, sometimes it doesnt matter if you 16, 26, 36 if you want to be a mum there is no reason you wont be a good one.

 

Samantha - July 9

Gurlie~let me tell you listening to what your boyfriend has to say will make you regret your choice!I should know I have been there...My boyfriend has said that same thing..I had an abortion...I wish I never did!I would have been a good mom....Abortions are like killing something that is not yet to the point of growth and knowing that if you wouldnt have had an abortion that baby would have grown to the moth of 9!You dont know if you are ready for a baby till you find out for sure if you even are prego~Just remember that maybe this is ment to be...God bless and make this something you bring to life and relize that not everything has to be the way that a boy toy would like it to be!!!:)

 

SHANNON - July 11

I WAS 17 WHEN I HAD MY FIRST SON WHO IS 11 NOW. I WAS SCARED BUT I DID IT AND I KEPT HIM AND EVERYTHING TURNED OUT GREAT.THE MINUTE THEY PUT HIM IN MY ARMS I KNEW THAT I WOULD LOVE HIM FOREVER.SO PLEASE DONT BE SCARED AND DONT LET YOUR BOYFRIEND TELL U TO HAVE AN ABORTION CAUSE THINK ABOUT IT YOU WOULD BE KILLING A HUMAN LIFE THAT I KNOW U ALREADY LOVE!!!!!!I DONT REGRET HAVING MY SON.AND HIS DAD HASNT BEEN AROUND FOR 9 YRS. BUT I HAVE A WONDERFUL HUSBAND NOW WHO LOVES HIM AND SAYS THAT IS HIS SON.NOT TO MENTION IM FIXING TO HAVE MY FOURTH CHILD IN MARCH 2005.SO PLEASE THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU DO IT...

 

sarah - July 12

don't ever listen to what a man has to say about early pregnancy, they don't understand how you could already be connected to something barely even there. I went through the same ordeal though, and I knew I would regret having an abortion... so much so that I took the risk of everyone around me disowning me (very religious family...unwed mother..) and you know what... it all turned out better than i ever could have asked! The father is still here with me, he came around... and we're about to have a baby in a month. I'm 21, not much older than you.. it's hard being young and having a baby, but when you think of all the things that you "think" you'll be missing out on (partying with friends etc..) it's really nothing compared to the unconditional love you'll find in your child. friends come and go in life... guys even come and go... but this love that your hopefully about to experience.. will never fade... best of luck

 

JILL - July 12

I am 21 I have a 4 year old daughter and am pregnant w/ my 2nd child now. Granted I am now happily married and couldn't have asked for anything more (not married to 1st childs father). Being a single mom is VERY HARD, you need to do what YOU feel is right, may I suggest adoption, my sister has experienced many years of infertility and has one adopted child she loves very dearly, she and her husband are in the process of adopting another. Adoption is the answer, your unborn child deserves TWO loving parents! And there are 1000's of couples who would die to be in your shoes (pregnant that is).

 

Harmony - July 12

It is not wrong to want to keep your baby, Actually, in my opinion, it is wrong NOT to want to keep it. Don't be scared. There are resources to help pregnant teens out there. Besides, abortion is something that will haunt you for the rest of your life - especially if you knew exactly what you were doing! Your boyfriend has NO RIGHT to tell you what to do. It is your body and your decision. If he is old enough to have s_x and take the risk of getting you pregnant - then he is old enough to a__sume responsibilty for his actions. It makes me Soooooooo mad when guys think that they have the right to even say such a thing! Direct him to this site: http://www.mttu.com/abort-pics/ He may just change his mind about abortion. I know that if you are evn considering it, you should go to that site too! Another great site for you to check out is: http://www.standupgirl.com There are people with answers and help for you. If you are pregnant, don't think it's the end of the world! There are plenty of young women who have raised healthy children, on their own or otherwise, and still finished school and made something of themself. I encourage you to be strong. If you ever need to talk to someone, I know you don't know me, but I am available. My email address is [email protected] I am 27 years old and I am having a baby in 2 weeks. It is a wonderful experience. It is your wonderful experience if you choose it. Take care & good luck.

 

Beth - July 13

I believe that adoption is the best solution. Trust me, you can regret it your whole life, and blame the baby for taking away your childhood, explorative years.

 

Stephanie - July 13

First off I would make sure I was pregnant. Then if you are see if you can talk to your parents.You will have to tell them sooner or later and as far as the abortion and your boy friend he needs help! He is worried it will ruin his life well what do you think you will be doing if you get an abortion! Either way you! not him will have to live with the decision...

 

Michelle - July 13

Ja__slynn, this is your body and your life too.The decisions you make you have to live with. This is a baby's life we are talking a bout and should be thought about very carefully. Yes raising a child is hard no matter what age or time in your life you have it, but I would not trade my baby for anything in the world. Your boyfriend should of used safe s_x if he did not want a baby. When having a baby it really helps to have the support of family & friends. Your boyfriend needs to not focus on himself and how the baby is going to ruin his life, but look at the life of his new baby and how not to ruin it, be a real father. Good luck. I hope you talk this all through and became a happy new family.

 

mandi - July 13

I totally understand. Im in the same position and my doctor told me that this is a decision you have to make. dont let anyone cloud your decision. you are young and i do hope you have thought this through but either way you go will be hard you just have to be able to make the best of it.

 

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