Pls Help Me Figure Out

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Sam - October 10

i am pregnant right now. my last period was on april 18. my bf and i had s_x on april 25, 27, 29 and may 1. however, i made a huge mistake of cheating on him on may 20 (i was due to have my next period on may 18 but it did not come). i tested positive 6 days after, may 26. my bf and i have been having unprotected s_x for 3 yrs already and i never got pregnant. which is why i'm nervous... my baby could be with the guy i cheated with. pls help! i really need somebody to help me. pls don't judge me. i have already regretted my mistake.

 

Lisa - October 10

It sounds like it's your boyfriends...may be the timing was right this time. I take it your boyfriend knows you're pregnant and is a__suming the baby is his? I can see why you are stressed but don't beat yourself over it; it's over and done with and there is nothing you can do to change it.

 

Sam - October 10

thanks, lisa! that really helped a lot to calm me down. i'm so bothered all the time but i have no one to confide with for fear that my friends would judge me. all the tests, ultrasound and such, seem to be accurate (that it's my bf's) but i still can't help but be stressed. my last u/s was when i was 23 wks and the u/s read correctly. yup, my bf knows about it. in fact, we're living together now and we're gonna get married soon. many thanks to you!

 

Lisa - October 10

Lots of people make mistakes and no one really has any room to judge anyone. Congrats on the baby and the upcoming marriage! You have a lot to do in a short amount of time! If you need any wedding planning help I will be glad to help you out...my husband and I had a beautiful wedding for a really great price.

 

Becky - October 10

I don't know when, but I think you should tell him that you cheated.....it seems wrong to start your marriage being untruthful. Also, I would definitely recommend a paternity test after the baby is born. You need to know for sure, and it's not fair for your husband-to-be to be raising a child he thinks is his, but may not be. I would say it's most likely his, but you never know. Perhaps you could wait until the baby's born, discreetly get the test, then address the cheating at that point if it turns out it's not his?? Not sure how you'd get him to go in for the test, though.

 

kl - October 10

sam when is your due date from there you can you can input the date into this website and it gives you an apporoximate conception date http://www.fairfaxidlab.com/idlab/calc.html remove andy dashes if they appear

 

Sam - October 10

thanks for all your answers! thanks, becky! i'll consider ur advice. and kl, thanks, thanks, thanks! that website helped a lot in easing my mind. i'm due on jan 23, 2006. accdg. to the site, my conception date is may 1, 2005. thanks, thanks, thanks! a million thanks to you!=)

 

ally - October 10

was gonna say if u cheated on him on may 20 and u have a result on the 26th i doubt it could be the persons u were with may 20....

 

Sam - October 10

hi, ally! so ur saying that it's more likely to be my bf's since i got a clear positive in just 6 days after may 20?

 

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