Relationship Problems

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RJ - March 24

My husband and I have been married for 6 years and have a 3 year old and I am now 3 months pregnant. The problem is that my husband is driving me crazy. I feel like lately he doesn't understand anything that I am going through. All we have been doing is arguing about any little thing. Don't get me wrong my husband is a great husband and father but for some reason I am resenting him for little things. I don't know if this his hormonal or what? I feel like I am losing my feelings for him and often wonder what it would be like to be on my own. I don't know what to do to get my feelings back. We haven't had s_x in 2 months because I have felt so sick. He seems to understand and he told me last night that I will never love him the way he loves me. What to do?

 

Billie - March 24

I'm sorry that you have to go through this right now but it will pa__s, I hope! My husband and I went through a similar situation in the beginning too. It was rough for about 2 weeks and I had considered getting my own apartment and everything. I thought that I fell out of love with him. But then it all changed one day. We started acting like our old selves again. Our s_x life came back to life and I no longer wanted to move out. I think for me, it was hormones. My husband never did anything wrong to make me feel the way I did. He couldn't understand why I told him that I hated him and that I didn't want to be with him anymore. But he wouldn't let me feel that way. He wouldn't let me go! He made me fall in love with him all over again. I think that you should evaluate your feelings and make sure that it's not hormones. In my opinion, it just might be the hormones!

 

EAS - March 24

What is it has been months and you still want to move out or have him move out and you are not only not in love with him but your not sure you like him anymore? I have tried everything to get him to understand how I feel and I don't think it is related to the pregnancy and he always says he will make the changes and he never does and he LIES. Like last night he was supposed to cook chicken and when I got home of course it wasn't ready and he was like well its been on hi (GRILL) for 30 minutes. Then he was like well actually I turned it down for a while etc. Why lie about chicken? That makes me think he is lying about other things. He has a history of lying and he always says its cause he didn't want to make anyone mad. He is so caught up in not p__sing other people off that I don't want to be with him and looking at him p__ses me off. Not to mention he is turning in to the pansy father he had who is my arch enemy and I cannot stand him.

 

EAS - March 24

Oh and the changes I asked for were 1. BALLS 2. Honesty 3. Try to manage to have a conversation other than I DON"T KNOW AND I AM SORRY. 4. Quit trying to make everybody happy and make him happy. 5. Try to handle things like his pay mistakes and our health ins. issues.

 

Billie - March 24

In your case EAS, have you ever thought about counceling? It seems to me that you are not liking the man that your husband has become. I'm sure that you still have feelings for him and I'm sure those feelings will come back if there was a way for you two to talk to each other and have each other really listen! Not to bring up my relationship again but, it helped us. We only had to go for 2 sessions to figure out the problem that we couldn't figure out on our own. Since you have been thinking about moving out for months, I suggest that maybe you look into counceling if you want to stay together.

 

EAS - March 24

We tried counciling before we were pregnant and they gave us a therapist instead of a councelor and the only thing she did was make us agree that we hated her. I am going to call today and see if we can get a councelor instead of a therapist.

 

Billie - March 24

When we went, I'm not sure if we had a therapist or a councelor ( or if they're the same thing) but he let us fight for a while to get everthing out and then told us what we were missing and messing up on. At the next visit, we talked and all was well. I hope that it works out for you if that's what you want. But, all couples are different!

 

RJ - March 24

I am hoping they will pa__s too but it is hard to see at this point. It seems like everything he does drives me crazy. When I was pregnant with my son I adored my hubby now I can't stand to be in the same room with him at times. I don't know what I am going to do I am starting to get really depressed.

 

Ginger - March 24

What helped my husband and I was to spend SOME time apart. Like my bestfriend and I started a Supper Club once a week/once every other week just to have time for the girls. I think a lot of women lose themselves in a relationship. It is very important to maintain other women relationships. Also, we started going to a great church. Our pastor is very encouraging and uplifting. God has a very special plan for your lives. He has made a suitable partner for each of us so that we don't have to go through life alone. Good luck.

 

RJ - March 24

That seems to be one of my problems we live in a new town where I know noone. I have sister who lives far away and so do my parents. His family lives here but his mom is really busy working and his sister has 3 kids and is too busy. My husband works long hours so I am by myself alot.

 

L - March 24

I have found that the pregnancy has changed my relationship a lot. We fight more than we ever have and it seems that I am starting 90% of them. THe two things that are always on my mind now (which leads to the fighting) is he doesn't pay enough attention to me and he does'nt find me attractive anymore. I am having a very difficult time with our marriage right now and everyday I think that it will be different and everyday it is more of the same.

 

mr - March 28

i fell just the same with my husband. i cant kiss him and get near him i dont like his smell. i too wonder if its the hormones because it happend to me just one day and its not over yet. i am at my 11weeks of pregnancy. he is soo hert by my behavoir but i cannot help my self. i cry all the time and i fell like i need help. i am afraid to be left alone without love in my life.

 

BabyTiger - March 28

To all of you with the same problem as RJ: An Aunt had that same 'problem' once :). Turned out to be hormonal. She hated it when he was around but missed him when he wasn't :). Calm down and let the pregnancy run its course before making hasty decisions. If there is nothing obviously 'wrong' with your partner, be civil ( at least) towards him. Use his help. Appreciate his presence. Some men aren't around at all.

 

nicole - March 28

im in the same thing, i love my bf but every now and again when im up all night bc hes snoring and waiting for him to wake up to go to work so i can sleep later on, i start to think if i really do love him. but i know i do, i think its more the snoring which leads me to be p__sed off and then makes me wonder if i love him. but he doesnt understand anything im going thru he doesnt understand why it hurts to get up from sitting, why it takes awhile to go upatairs or anything. its kinda like he only wants to be apart of this when its convenient for him. hes always on his computer when hes not at work which p__ses me off to no end, so i never get to actually spend time with him unless we go somewhere which is always where he wants to go, bc god forbid i want to go anywhere, he decides it takes him over an hour to get motivated for something i want to do. but i guarentee mine is all hormonal bc i never felt this way before being pregnant. his snoring never bothered me before and now it keeps me up all night. and i want s_x but he doesnt were lucky to have it once every 2 weeks. but he thinks hes turned off by me being pregnant, im not sure how that works but i know its sure as hell isnt what i wanted to hear. all in all guys need to either spend more time with us or at least genuinely try to understand what were going thru and respect us for it.

 

a man speaks out - March 28

hello, ladies. Just thought I'd drop my two cents in the bucket. My wife's pregnancy was very hard on both of us. I was so confused by her sudden hostility. She wanted me out of her way one minute, but then wanted to know why I never wanted to be close to her. I was afraid to do anything because it seemed that everything I did was the wrong thing. I am glad we stuck it out. Our Dr. told us to give it at least a year because hormones are still raging after the baby. Our son is now 2 yrs old and another on the way. Hang in there and have patience with us simple-minded husbands.

 

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