Should I Be Worried Need Advice Please

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T - September 18

Hello~ My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year. We found out last week that we were finally preganant and we were both very excited. Using the first day of my last period we figured out that I would be about 5 weeks pregnant. This is my first pregnancy so I wasn't sure what to expect. I had shooting pains a few days after my test came back positive and then menstrual like cramps for a couple days after that. I read that I should call my Dr. if I was experiencing anything like that. When I called my Dr. she ordered blood tests to check my HcG level and Progesterone level to rule out an ectopic pregnancy. The first reading I have was around 400 and the 2nd reading 48 hours later was at 1400. They said this was very good because they usually only want it to double and mine more than tripled. My progesterone level was at 11.5 and they like it at 15 so they gave me supplements. However, my Dr. said she knew I wasn't 5 weeks pregnant that I was only 4 because of the HcG level. She said it would be around 5000 if I was 5 weeks. How do they determine how far along you are? I was worried I was actually 5 weeks and my HcG level was low because there was something wrong. She said she didn't want to do an ultrasound for another 3 weeks. She didn't even do an exam because she said she knew I was only 4 weeks and she wouldn't be able to tell anything anyway. I thought seeing my Dr. would put my mind at ease but she actually made me feel much worse.... especially when she asked me how many people we have told and then told me not to tell anyone else because I wouldn't want to "untell" them later if anything happened. I asked her what she meant and she responded with 1 out of every 5 pregnancies miscarries and it's best to wait until you are at least 8 weeks to tell people. This worried me because I wasn't sure why she would say that unless she felt like something was wrong. Is there a way I could only be 4 weeks instead of 5 going by the first day of my last period or should I be concerned? I tried asking my Dr. this but she seemed like she was annoyed and snapped that I just needed to go home and wait it out. Instead of making me feel more at ease she made me even more worried. My friends and family who I told about this think I need to find another Dr. who is more understanding and would answer my questions better. Does anyone else reccommend this? Does anyone have any knowlege about HcG levels and what is normal? Should I be worried?

 

Ranae - September 18

I have been married 12 years & I was on fertility drugs to become pregnant. I was 5 weeks pregnant & miscarried two weeks ago. They can tell by the date of your last period & your HCG level how far along you are. Your doctor is right, a sonogram will not show anything at this time b/c your baby is too small. An internal will show thickening only. They were pretty confident that I would miscarry before I did b/c my HCG levels were not doubling every 48-72 hours like they should have been. At 5 wks my HCG level was only at 35. My progesterone was decreasing also. They checked me for an ectopic pregnancy which was negative. I later miscarried. Believe me when I say that you are worrying about nothing. Your doctor is just being honest with you. Actually, they recommend not telling anyone until your are at least 12 wks b/c 1 of every 5 women do miscarry. If your doctor is upsetting you though, get a new one. I was over the moon about being pregnant so I had told everyone the day my HPT was positive (although I knew you are supposed to wait until 12 wks). I have now had to face all the questions & silly comments (ie. it happened for a reason, something was probably wrong with the baby) which just hurts more when you are already devestated. I would wait to tell the world although I am sure your baby will be fine. Good luck.

 

T - September 18

Hi Ranae ~ Thank you for your advice and kind words.... I feel a little better. I am a very paranoid person already so I always expect the worst but know I should just try to relax! I am soo sorry for your lost and wish you best of luck in the future... I'll say a prayer for you and your husband!

 

Ranae - September 18

Thank you T. I just wanted you to know that it sounds like your baby is doing fine. Doctors are just overly cautious & if you are already a worrier their cautiousness does not help you any. I thought my story might just help you know that you seem to be right on target. Again, best of luck.

 

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