Thinking Of Abortion

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Martha - April 18

And I was wondering if anyone knew if the fetus could come back to haunt me. I'm really scared of that otherwise I will do it.

 

ashley - April 18

why would you have an abortion in the first place?

 

April - April 18

It makes me want to cry when I hear about abortions... i can feel my baby girl kicking around in my belly right now and i think.. "how could anyone want to kill their precious child?" and don't anybody say it's not killing a child... they have a heartbeat at 18 days... they're alive from the start.. and babies can feeeel when they're being aborted... please please please don't have an abortion... if you don't want your child.. there are many many loving parents who want to adopt...

 

Hmm - April 18

Dead is dead right, nothing after that

 

Martha - April 18

So does anyone know anything about them haunting you? I'm 18 wks and since its kind of big and I can feel that's its alive I'm afraid it will haunt me if I abort it.

 

Misty - April 18

I don't know about the fetus coming back to haunt you. But the memory of the child you chose to not have will most likely always haunt you. I look at my son when people ask questions like the one you just asked. He is so happy most of the time. The joy he finds in learning new things, in playing. I wasn't ready for a child when I had him. I wish I could have had him come along at a later point in my life. But that just isn't possible. He is a special mix of one certain egg and one certain sperm and no one else like him will ever exist. If you do have an abortion (this is just my opinion) you are eliminating a person that was starting to form that could have such a wonderful life. But now they will never exist. It just seems so sad. Lots of people say they can't do adoption because it would be to hard for them. But stop thinking about what you need in your life for a bit and think of the amazing life that the person growing in you could have if you just give them the chance.

 

April - April 18

you are 18 weeks?!?! you do realize that you are at the point where you can tell whether it's a boy or girl, right? I'm not even sure if you CAN abort it now... you know what?? i think if i had aborted mine at 18 weeks... it would've haunted me for the rest of my life... I can't believe you can feel your baby and your'e STILL thinking about KILLING YOUR CHILD...

 

Martha - April 18

In my state you can abort upto 20 weeks. I'm going to give it another week to decide.

 

Misty - April 18

18 weeks is definately a bit far to be thinking like you are. You know they can suck their thumbs now. They truly look like little people already. You should go to this site http://pregnancy.about.com you can see pics of what a baby at 18 weeks looks like. Just get rid of any - marks that might show up when I send. That happens sometimes and I don't know why. You have an amazing little person growing in you. It is perfectly alright to be afraid sometimes about how you will manage, you are important too. I know this will sound a bit harsh and I am sorry for that but you need to stop thinking about just yourself right now. This is partially about right from wrong. If there was nothing wrong with what you were about to do you wouldn't be worried about it.

 

Martha - April 18

Man, I'm not trying to go to jail. I don't want to kill a real kid. Anyway if I have an abortion the dr. killed it not me.

 

ashley - April 18

Why would you have to have an abortion anyways? what is your situation? I could never have an abortion....even if i was raped by some crazy maniac i could never kill a child....one that is growing inside of YOU! dont do it.....give it away when its born but dont kill it

 

Misty - April 18

Martha, that is the thing, you are killing a real kid. This is not some imaginary thing just because you can't see it. That baby growing in you has a heartbeat and is already breathing. It is breathing the amniotic fluid but no less it is breathing. I don't know what reason you have for wanting to do this, but if you need to do it you need to be understand that you ARE the one killing it. You are the one going to the doctor and telling him to do it. Maybe he is performing the operation, but because you want it to happen. What you just said is like saying " I didn't kill that deer, it was the gun that did it." This is your decision and if you decide to do it it is YOU that is getting rid of this baby. Why did you let this child come this far along if you were going to get rid of it? It seems so cruel. It is not just some little cluster of cells anymore. For goodness sake, at 25 weeks, just 7 weeks from where you are babies can sometimes survive out of the womb. Now yes, they do have a lot of problems physically surviving on there own at that point but it can happen. That little person in you is almost big enough to survive on their own. Now maybe you have your reasons to want to do this but don't kid yourself about the truth, if you abort you are killing a child.

 

. - April 18

but you ARE killing a REAL kid... just because you can't actually see it doesn't mean it's not there! you said you can feel it can't you?? even if the doctor does the killing... you're obviously an accomplice by giving consent... do yourself a favor and get an ultrasound before you decide... THEN try to tell me you're not killing a REAL KID!!!

 

to martha - April 18

Why didn't you have an abortion in the first couple of weeks of pregnancy? Why wait until 18 weeks along??? Its like murder! Why come on a site with women ttc or is expecting. You baby have a heartbeat, arm , legs, and even hair. What is wrong with you? Use birthcontrol & condoms! ABORTION IS NOT THE ANSWER! Adoption is. You only have 22 weeks left. Please think about your decision. A couple could love that gift from god. I will be praying for you and your baby.

 

Misty - April 19

I will pray for that baby also. I hope something happens to make you decide to keep this baby at least to the delivery. You will get lots of nasty responses to this before too long. Try to not just give up because of it. Just realize that the place you decided to post your question is a place where lots of women having been trying to concieve for over a year sometimes. Questions like the one you ask are heartbreaking. You are going to have a lot of people that get hurt by what you asked and so they will try to hurt you back. Don't let that make you withdraw and decide to go through with this. Take the good supportive answers and realize that there are supportive people out there that can help you with whatever you are going through. Plus there are a lot of people out there that want children so bad it hurts, but they can't have them. They would adopt your child a shower it with more love then it would ever know what to do with. Maybe that is why you got pregnant if you don't want a child. To provide someone else with the miracle that you are right know growing inside of you. Good luck, and please don't go through with this. The memory if nothing else will haunt you forever

 

... - April 19

It WILL haunt you for the rest of your life

 

Martha - April 19

It doesn't seem like anyone wants to adopt anymore. All people want to do is use infertility stuff. I don't want the kdi to sit in an orphange or in foster homes. Nobody adopts kids with all the new technology. Everybody just wants their own.

 

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