What Did I Get Myself Into

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AH - December 7

I can even get through a pap smear and now my husband and I are expecting in August... I do not want to go to the doctors tomorrow b/c they said they have to do a pap... I think I should have that choice - for centuries women gave birth without pap smears! I will get my blood drawn ANYTHING but that - then there is the birth part - OMGsh how am I going to do this? I think I might die from pain and fear - I am opting for the epideral, but that damn needle has to go into my spine - it's like nothing can be easy. I am terribly scared and might be too scared to go to the doctor tomorrow

 

AH - December 7

I meant I cant even get through one

 

Mirra - December 7

I can understand your fears, I hate those things too. But you need to do it for the sake of your baby. There are several things they test for, Group strep B is a major one that you may not even know you have and can kill the baby. Let your doctor know how phobic you are of these exams, they are usually pretty good with me when I tell them up front how nervous I am. Consider it all practice for hte big day! :)

 

britney - December 7

I know how you feel. I'm almost five months with my first baby, it seems like nothing is going to be easy. You just have to look on the bright side you get something thats so precious and adorable in the end. It's not like all this hard work is for nothing and pap smears aren't that bad, trust me you'll get through it. So, you go ahead and go to that appointment tomorrow, you'll be doing yourself and your baby a favor. And remember your body is made for this, its not like you're the first woman who's going to give birth, so don't worry ok. If you need to talk to someone you can talk to me, this is all new to me to but I'm willing to help in any way that I can.

 

~m~ - December 7

AH, I totally understand how you feel. I hate hate hate the "yearly". So when I was pregnant with my first son, it was like torture every time I had to spread eagle! I know it's hard, but just grin and bear it. If your dh will go with you, have him to stand and let you put the death grip on your hand. In the end, it will all be worth it. And the more you do it, the less modest you get. Best of luck sweetie! Hang in there! :o)

 

AH - December 7

I have tried getting pap smears before - 3 times!!! all three times the doctor got the speculum thing in and then I started crying and telling her to stop - one time they gave me a muscle relaxer which worked until I got to the office... then it was like I didnt take anything. I just want to die - dont get me wrong I want this baby sooo bad, but I think I am doing it more because I wanted my husband to become a father - now i can't beleive what I have done and I dont think I can get through this without going crazy. I keep reading these birth stories and NOONE has a good one... they are all filled with pain, ripping, sewing, complications, epideral not working etc etc etc - I am about to pa__s out just writing about it - I called the doctor and they said they dont have to do one tomorrow, but will talk me through it for a follow up appointment - I am going to die.

 

To AH - December 7

I think the pap is the least of it...wait until the last month when they have to check you every week. Just think of this doc visit of a warm up for the last month. Good luck!!

 

~m~ - December 7

AH, I have a good story! Since my baby was breech, I had to have a C-section. Yes, the healing process is longer, and can be painful at times, but there was none of that stuff involved that you would dread.... no spreading the legs, pushing, pooping, tearing, etc. And from what I read, not all women tear. And not all women poop. Hang in there. I'm so sorry you are scared! I hope more women with good stories share so you might be less worried.

 

erin - December 7

It seems that we are always more eager to share horrer stories than good stories! I am sorry you are so scared. I think every first time mom is scared of giving birth. I sure was. But try not to worry too much about it. By the time you actually get to the end of your pregnancy, you will welcome labour to get that baby out! It's scary to think about beforehand, but once you get to it and do it, it's like a huge accomplishment, no matter how it goes. Good luck!

 

Steph - December 7

When I was pregnant with my daughter and right close to having her, I remember looking at women wondering how the hell they didn't die from birthing a child!! I had to tell myself constantly that women have been having children for years and years blah, blah, blah, but it's still scary! When I had my daughter, it was a piece of cake, no issues or problems and she was a quick little thing. Three hours from getting to the hosptial, changing, epidural, visiting, and then boom, she was here! I did not tear, but I found out later that I pooped. Whatever, I hope the p__sy nasty nurse had to clean it up!! :o) I'm not to freaked out about having this kid, but I'm still early on so that could easily change!! Also regarding the epidural, I did not necessiarly care how big the needle was because I purposely did not look at it, but I was more concerned with st_tting still while it was in my back! Thank god for Jerry Springer because that freaking tv was where I concentrated all my being on!!

 

to AH - December 7

If a pap scares you, I'd hate to see how you react when the doc sticks his whole hand up there!! Yikes!!

 

What??? - December 7

What kind of doctor do you have??? That's NEVER happened to me or anyone I know.

 

to AH - December 7

If you had such an extreme reaction to something as simple as a pap smear, then perhaps you should really think about seeing a therapist. I'm not trying to be mean here, just honest. Your phobia is extreme and very out of the ordinary. There must be a good therapist in your area that specializes in phobias of this sort. I'm not making any claims about you, but the only person I could reasonably fathom having such a reaction to a pap smear is someone who's been raped.

 

well, - December 7

you've probably never had your water brope for you or needed the baby shifted-happens all the time! Docs have to go up there-plus they check you for dialation-you never had that??

 

What??? - December 7

To check dialation they certainly don't have to put their whole hand up ya!!

 

well - December 7

my doc does and she did-guess it was high up there-I don't see what the big deal is when a big head is coming out of there anyways. And if they strip your membranes-which is awful-then they really have to get in there, what is the big deal??

 

well, - December 7

also, when I watched my friend have her baby-when she delivered the afterbirth the placenta got stuck and her doc had to go in whole hand to get it out. She said that was more painful than the whole delivery!!

 

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