Will It Be Ok

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Louise. - December 1

Hey. I'm 18 and I'm 20weeks pregnant. I want this baby more than anything. I had a miscarriage in January and it was terrible. My ex b/f and I are broke up. He was to immature to realise that things will have to change for the baby.We've been broke up for almost 2 months. And recently I heard he has a new g/f. This upset me as I haven't heard from him for sometime and he doesn't seem interested in the fact that I'm having our baby. I have a lot of support from friends and family, but this to me isn't the same as having the support from the babys father. We was together almost 2years and I thought things were going great. Should I keep holding on and wishing for him to show an interest or shoul I move on and cut him out our lives as he seems to have done to us? I don't know what to do to be right. He is the father and I don't want to come between him and the baby but I'm unsure weather he actually cares. Please help me.

 

Christine - December 1

Louise you have many more years to come to stress over this situation...try not to worry about it...I know it is heartbreaking, I went through it at 19...and it was a very long event...I'm not saying that things will not get better between the two of you, but chances are they wont (at least) until the baby is here...sometimes men wake up to their stupidity after they see the baby and realize they are apart of them...keep using the family and friend support system...try not to think about him (at least for now)...worry about keeping you and your baby healthy (and happy). Making a decision to cut him off at this point is really not a good idea...its your choice, but I say wait it out...my oldest is 6 and still waiting for her daddy to be any sort of father to her...but in my eyes in the long run she will blame him and not me...I will not cut him off...therefore he always has the chance of making things right...if they do or dont is on them...hope I helped some...good luck to you and your new baby..and hang in there...I'm a single (pregnant) mom...with two already...if I can do it...so can anyone else...

 

Louise. - December 1

Thanks Christine but I do not want my child to have a childhood or a father the same as mine. As I was growing up my father was more out my life than in. He used to call and say he was coming on a saturday. I would wait all day for him and he never would turn up, No call no nothing just me sat alone wondering what I did to make him stay away. I couldn't bare my child going through this. I don't know. I guess things happen for a reason and I should do as people advise and keep on going for me and my baby that's all that matters right now. You help a lot and thankyou I hope things work for you how you want. Good luck with your pregnancy hunxx

 

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