HE HAS TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT FROM But I Think Im Pregnant

11 Replies
DEE - February 2

Well, this is my story: Today( Feb. 1st) I found out my man told me that the mother of his daughter is taking him to court for child support since she don't work. And he was really p___sed off, and I was p___sed because he really don't be buying me things or taking me out, but we good as in love. But anyway, I have been 11 days late from which my period was suppose to occur. SO basically, I think I'm pregnant and scare to admit it. But I don't know if I should tell him because he is already going thru his mess with his daughter's mother. And he said if I got pregnant again with his child, he wants to go thru the whole pregnancy thing with me and it would be his first own delivery. ( I was pregnant with his child before but aborted because of our problems). So what should I do???

 

syx - February 8

You've got to tell him. My husband pays child support to his ex wife for his six year old daughter (who I have a really good relationship with.) You have to bear in mind that the money is for the child, to provide a roof over it's head and to pay for it's food and clothes...just basic needs really. So tell your husband not to be p__sed off with that. It's his child and he has to pay for it...it doesn't mean that he still loves his ex wife because he has to pay her money....what is money anyway! The good news is, that if you tell your husband you are pregnant, when you have the baby, the support payments to his ex will be greatly reduced because he now has to support two children instead of one, and your child will be living in the same house as you, which means YOU have to provide the bedroom, mortgage, food, clothes 24/7. This costs more money than a child that isn't living WITH you. That is why child support gets reduced. you've gotta tell him

 

Dee - February 13

It doesnt get reduced in ALL states.

 

TO DEE - February 22

SO THIS IS YOUR BOYFRIEND NOT YOUR HUSBAND. BECAUSE HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND,HE WILL LIKELY DO THE SAME THING TO YOU. NOT TAKE CARE OF HIS CHILD AND BE FORCED BY THE COURTS TO DO SO. HE SHOULD HAVE ALL READY BEEN SUPPORTING HIS CHILD. YOU SOUND SELFISH!!!! WORRIED ABOUT WHAT YOU NOT GETTING. YOU SHOULD HAVE KEPT YOUR LEGS CLOSED. HOW COULD YOU GET PREGNANT BY A DEADBEAT DAD. HOW SAD!!!!! I HOPE THE WELFARE SYSTEM IS NOT SUPPORTING HIS OFFSPRINGS!!!!

 

About Dee - February 22

You are extremely judgemental in your advice and obviously ignorant to the whole situation.Unfortunate things do happen but that does not change her situation.Yes her BF has to pay child support because its about the kid not about anyone else.I agree with that.But you should not be so harsh because you do not have the right to talk to this girl the way you did because you do not know everything.Im sure u r far from perfect and also you sound very prudish.I am judging by your answer that you are a kid.

 

WHAT?? - April 14

I'm sorry your broken English is aweful, I can see why you would think we only need child support because we, as single moms, don't work to support his and my child -- wake up lady. This guy is such a manipulative jerk and you don't see it. Why did you have an abortion? Because of your and his problems that you couldn't work through at the time. No way, will adding a screaming cooing ball of poop machine make that better? No! Ladies need to educate yourselves on how and what you need to do to protect yourself from these predicaments!

 

Lynn - April 15

You should definitely tell him. My husband pays child support to his exwife also.. for a 9 year old son who we see very irregularly because she is always making plans for him on our weekends. anyway, some states do reduce the child support & honestly, I live in MD & the way they figure child support is WAY wrong. We have an agreeement with his ex-wife, but if we had to pay what the state says we SHOULD be paying, we would not only NOT be able to afford a child of our own, but a house, and a car too! Child support is way unfair. And Dee, if people can't put their real names on what they have to say, then don't let it get to you. We don't know the full situation, only the tiny little bit of info you thought was necessary.

 

to dee - April 17

I cant believe you ask this question. Child Support is to support the child. Every child deserves to be taken care of by BOTH parents, not just the mother....Sad!

 

Jessica - May 26

my husband pays child support for my step son who is 4 and a step daughter who is almost 6. And I am 17 wks pregnant. I do believe that child support is a very important thing for the non custodial parent to do. Obviously its not his or your choice the court will decide how much will be owed monthly. I know that in NC where I live the child support is reduced when another child is born to the father. I also believe that the child support is my husbands obligation to his two children. They live in PA and we don't get to see them as often as we'd like but it's all in the court order for when we do get to see them so it is uniterupted. LYNN if you go to court and get the judge to make a visitation schedule the ex will be in contempt of court if she interferes with the visitation. It truly helped in our sittuation. My hubby and I make it a point to keep up with the support order because it's what is best for the kids. My step-daughter is ending her first year in elementary school and she has gone to a private school. She really enjoys it and my step son is going to one of the best daycare centers up there because of the money that she gets. We also send up new clothes once in awhile and the kids new toys, Now don't go thinking we are rich cause we are far from my hubby is 25 and i'm 23 we just know that the kids are the most important part of it all. His ex also used to hate me and try to turn the kids against me at first. Took her 2 years to get used to the fact that I am not going anywhere and that the kids really and truly love me. This mother's day I got a beautiful card that I know that she bought. She also sent one to MY mother from the kids. If that wasn't thoughtful I don't know what was. As much as we miss the kids the move for her to PA was actually a good one for all involved with only 1 BAD thing i can think of. The kids don't get to see there father as much as would be liked, but they are overall very happy. Good luck and try to help him see that child support is a good thing. and Definitely tell him about your child he deserves to know

 

stacy - July 9

dont tell him im 6 weeks pregnant and my husband is pressuring me to have a abortion i wish i would have never told him

 

Dakota - September 13

I think you should tell him. All because she needs help dose not mrean he can't be there for you and your baby. Even if he is just your boyfriend. Sounds like he want to be involved with you. You shouldn't get rid of the baby. New begaining in life. Some time life can give greastest gift of all each other.

 

Dakota - September 13

Now your family is bigger and you just adding on more love to the family. Think about that. We all here to understand and listen to each other. It dose not matter who you are but what the problem is. To try to help even if we think drifferant. Focus on the problem and not each other. Good luck!

 

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