Pregnant Girlfriend Has Bad Feelings About Me Help

2 Replies
exiled - December 26

My girlfriend and I were not together very long before she became pregnant. It was all good at first and then things just started changing. She doesnt want to see me or talk to me. I tell her that I love her she tells me that she has bad feelings when she thinks about me. I have no idea what I did wrong or how to rectify this situayion. Some posts have suggested that she might feel guilty becuase I might not actually be the father and she is just not telling me. Does this make sense? I want to make this relentionship work but it seems like a one way street and I am getting tired of trying. Any advice or help would be greatly apperciated.

 

jred76 - January 30

It's possible that she's not sure you're the father. It's also possible that you're the one that changed. I recently had a talk with my pregnant girlfriend in which she expressed her disdain for my new acquiescence to her every thought or desire. I just love her (and the baby), and want to make this as easy on her as possible, but she still needs me to take charge. You've gotta communicate. She says she has "bad feelings," but that's very vague. What kinds of bad feelings? Is she afraid you're going to leave, so she's pushing you away? Is there a flaw in your behavior or character that's not sitting well but could easily be corrected? I know it's more than a little bit daunting to ask probing questions in that sort of scenario, as no one is comfortable being vulnerable, but vulnerable is all that she is right now. Ask the questions, validate her feelings, and try to work together on solutions to her fears. I'm very new to this, but that's my 2 cents.

 

E457 - August 23

old thread

 

ADD A COMMENT:


You must log in to reply.

Are you New to the forum? Sign Up Here! Already a member? Please login below.

Forgot your password?
Need Help?
New to the forum?

Sign Up Here!


Already a member?
Please login below.





Forgot your password?
Need Help?  
Start A New Discussion