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Consequences - March 21st, 2011 12:27 PM

As far as I'm concerned, this question should not even be up for debate! There is NO justification for cheating on the woman you committed to having a child with and even less justification for what you by implication do to your innocent, unborn child, who didn't ask to be there and certainly didn't need to experience the sting of rejection before his\her life even fully began.

It is severely psychologically traumatic to be cheated on and\or abandoned during pregnancy and, to my mind, the parties who engage in such infidelity have no moral compass whatsoever.

I also want to add that it must take an extremely despicable female to cheat with a man who has a wife or partner who is expecting his child. How one woman can do such a thing to another is beyond me! And what possesses women to think that a man capable of such deep betrayal won't betray them?

Men who cheat on their pregnant partners are dogs and the women who they cheat with are dogshit!

fatima boomba - April 13th, 2011 8:39 AM

Pregnant or not, cheating is statistically (and depressingly) common. Because let's face it, If HALLE BERRY's ex husband apparently cheated on her, then what the hell chance does a normal girl have :(

notjustguys - April 20th, 2011 11:06 PM

I just wanted to say that it's not just husbands or boyfriends who may be tempted to stray in pregnancy. Affairs in lesbian relationships during pregnancy are also common, usually the woman who isn't carrying the child may be tempted to or have an affair.

Honestly, pregnancy is a hugely transformative thing for BOTH people in the relationship and if there isn't communication about that, something bad is bound to happen. Yes, some women and men are just jerks, but I can relate to some of the father's posts here about loss of intimacy during pregnancy. Sex is important in a relationship -- it's not the only important thing, of course, but it is important. I know that pregnancy is a very vulnerable experience for women, but partners/husbands also feel vulnerable -- it's a life-changing experience for everyone.

I'm not excusing cheating, but I am saying that this isn't just a "men are pigs" issue. Get thee to a couple's therapist, pastor, or counselor for help!

XMarchHareX - August 14th, 2011 12:39 PM

I just signed up to say that I personally think pregnant women are incredibly sexy. First of all because they are just sexy and also because I've heard during the second trimester their sex drive is as high as mine. It's messed up to say but it's true. Also mostly because they seem more loving and caring. I must state that I never slept with a pregnant woman and as much as I would like to I'm sure it will remain simply a desire. However If I find out a guy cheated on one of them I come and help her get back at them. A man should be very lucky that he is going to be a father and should not cheat on who should be his wife. If he doesn't feel lucky I'm going to. so hehehaha. Be very afraid.

XMarchHareX - August 14th, 2011 12:45 PM

I just signed up to say that I think pregnant women are incredibly hot and I always had a fantasy to sleep with one cause I think they are more caring. If any pregant women want to get back at a guy because he doesn't feel so lucky to be a dad and lucky to be with you and he doesn't constantly remind you of how beautiful you are then you kno where to find me.Hehehaha Be afraid cheating men be very afraid. I'm on the hunt for milky pregnant women. Woohoo. omnomnom

XMarchHareX - August 14th, 2011 12:48 PM

og I just read the posts looks like some dudes are cheating and I want to sleep with a pregnant woman so sucks for them their loss. Its really to bad I feel bad for them and what they are going to miss out on. omnomnom.

Madders - October 16th, 2011 8:15 AM

I'm in the same boat. I'm pregnant with twins, only 6months along, 2 months ago I found my bf using several different ways (txt, FB, dating websites & skype) to talk to different women, unsure as to how far these relationships went as he lied about everything until I had proof and then won't give me an explanation as to why, as deletes most things. We were still having sex EVERYDAY! At least once a day, I'm not exaggerating here, we were still going out and doing fun couple stuff, going to the zoo, ice skating and what not.

I cannot figure out why though, and he won't tell me, he just apologises and tells me it won't happen again. I'm reasonably attractive, have a healthy libido still and have actually lost weight (due to morning sickness), I've been eating healthy for our twins (boys) so have failed to put any actual weight back on. I'm a calm person by nature, though I can be brutely honest at times. I can not think of a time when I haven't tried to include him, all our Dr's appt's are around his work schedule so he can be there and though I get tired I attempt to keep our home tidy as I'm no longer able to work. He has seen me be so violenty ill that I've broken capillaries in my face (at which point he apologises for getting me pregnant), he has seen me pass out with low blood pressure, he has agreed that I'm not suited to pregnancy, we try to make the best of it. I try not to complain as I know he cannot fully appreciate what my body is going through, though sometimes I can't help it. I know not all men are jerks, but I am really starting to believe he is one of those males that would have found a "reason" sooner or later.

He says he wants to make it work, but I can't believe it won't happen again, nor is he actively trying to fix our relationship. He just acts like everything is normal and as it was before I caught him out. Though if I'm honest I was up front with him that I never wanted children and he wasn't planning on a family for another 5yrs, neither of us were happy to find I had fallen pregnant. When we talked about it though he said he wanted to be a family. If he didn't want this he should have said so, I wouldn't have been offended, I have given him many outs and he has never taken it.

I just want to know why...

yukary85 - June 6th, 2012 7:54 PM

Im 8 months pregnant and Im not saying that my boyfriend is cheating on me, but he has been acting weird lately, he's not as loveable as he was before or romantic. He has been really distant from me. Our relationship was mainly physical when we first met and I think that fact that i gained 30 lb has really affected our sex life, of course its not that easy for pregnant women to have sex all kinds of ways like before they were pregnant but, Im a very sexual person and it really sucks for me. He says that I'm beautiful pregnant but there's something makes me not believe what he's saying. He's into physical fitness and he works out everyday, so I know im not his ideal girl right now :(

Perfect_Marriage - September 16th, 2012 7:28 PM

You Women need to understand that sex for a man is more than it is for a woman. If he does not get his need from you, he will find it elsewhere. Am I justifying a man cheating, NO!!!! But if you can't satisfy him in some way and show him you care about his needs then he is going to do a wrong to fulfill his needs! I was lucky enough to find the perfect woman who understands this. Been married for 17 years, with three kids and I have never had to think about another woman cause my wife takes care of my needs, even while pregnant. I think all women need to know this!!!!

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