10 Month Old Questions

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waiting100 - February 13

My ds is 10 months old today. I just got back from a weekend trip with my sister-in-law and brother. They have 3 kids--two 4 year olds and an 11 month old. She had her 11 month old and 4 year olds on a strict schedule. The 11 month old went for 1st nap at 9am sharp both days. took 1 hour nap (she would wake her up if longer than 1 hour) and then next nap would be at 2pm sharp for baby and her 2 boys. They would sleep for 1-2 hours. The 11 month old feeding schedule was also very strict. Same times everyday. She also uses cry it out method at night for 11 month old--before bed and then again in the middle of the night - one night baby cried for 1 hour. Ok, so my little guy is on somewhat of a schedule but not so strict -- he usually takes a nap at 10/10:30am for 2 to 2.5 hours then again around 4:30/5:00pm - sometimes he wont go down for afternoon nap. He goes to bed between 8 and 9pm and wakes between 7am and 8am. He sleeps thru the night. My sister in law made me feel horrible for not having my ds on a strict schedule. She said that before I give him his bottles that I should be feeding him food first (my ds is not a huge eater - he likes food but does not LOVE it) well her baby LOVES food and screams at meals if food is not right in front of her at all times--her 11 month old eats more food than bottles) My SIL also said that I need to let my ds cry it out (she said this because for my ds's afternoon naps he would not go down to sleep and at bedtime I let him fall asleep on me watching a DVD and then took him to his paknplay)--the only reason I did this was because we were at a house baby had never been and I think he was overly stimulated. There were 8 kids, 6 adults and three dogs over this three day weekend. My baby is used to me and hubby and 2 cats. My ds loved the excitement but I think it made him a little overstimulated. He did not throw crying fits or anything. But all my family said the whole time was, boy ds does not sleep, ha,ha. Then my mom kept asking did you feed ds breakfast, lunch, etc.? I felt like a bad mom. My family was going off of my SIL schedule for her kids - and then were laughing saying my ds doesnt sleep. It made me feel bad. My family acted like SIL baby was such an angel and that my ds never slept--and then my mom double checking to see if I fed baby acutal food - she never asked my SIL that!!!! I have a wonderful ds who has always been an angel. No, I dont have him on a tight schedule and I dont use cry it out, never have. Just had to get that all off my chest. Ok, so for all of you with 10 month olds--what is feeding schedule like - bottles and food, what are they eating and what are sleep schedules like and is ds/dd on a strict routine, schedule?

 

waiting100 - February 13

Oh, I forgot to mention that over this three day weekend my ds wa teething like crazy (front two teeth are still pushing thru) and he just learned to crawl and pull himself up within the last week or so.

 

K - February 13

I read a ton of baby books when I was pregnant. Personally, I don't agree with the way your SIL does things, and while some of the books do agree, many others do not. My SIL and her DH did the same thing as your SIL with their DD. In fact, they left color coded minute by minute instructions with the grandparents when they went out of town and left the kid a couple of days. This strict scheduling is why, although we love them, if anything ever happens to us, there is no way we want them raising our kids. There are books that are against your SIL's methods stating that she is setting a recipe for a child to have a complete meltdown when things ever go off schedule or not perfectly as planned throughout childhood and maybe even later. The books also talk about how the cry it out method can lead to insecure kids/adults later on, while your method can actually lead to greater independance because the baby was always secure in knowing that their needs were being paid attention to and met. My 11 month old is an a__sertive child who is almost always happy and almost never cries, while my SIL's daughter for the first 3 1/2 years was extremely whiny and insecure. We keep a loose schedule, and DD adapts to any changes really well. She has 3 solid food meals a day - breakfast when she gets up; lunch around 12:30 and dinner around 6:30. The times can vary up to an hour depending on the day. She doesn't take bottles anymore, but b___stfeeds or has sippy cups of pumped milk in between meals and right before bed. She takes two or three naps. She usually takes one around 11:00 a.m., and one around 2:00 p.m. Her naps range anywhere from 20 minutes to 2 hours(rare). If her naps are short, then she will take a third nap around 4 or 5 p.m. We never use cry it out, although if she starts to cry I may wait a minute before responding to see if she goes right back to sleep. Basically, we watch her cues and follow them. I think what you are doing is just fine. I much prefer your methods to your SILS. Every parent has to decide what works best for them. As to the not sleeping thing, the books state that some babies just don't need as much sleep as others. If he is happy and doesn't act tired, then he is fine.

 

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