6 Week Old Sleeps Only When Held

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beasmama - January 3

my 6 wk old daughter will only fall asleep when being held/snuggled and once she's nodded off, we'll try to put her into her bed but she's awake within minutes wailing. so we'll pick her up again, and the whole process starts over. in the end we just continue to hold her so she gets some sleep and we get some quiet :) otherwise she's a very easy baby, very happy, will play in her baby-gym, she sleeps well in the carseat, stroller and baby bjorn when we're out & about. At night, we cosleep and after she's fallen asleep on us, we can easily roll her to the middle and she'll sleep for hours. Any suggestions? thanks!

 

Rachael mommy2lucas - January 3

My son was like that the first 5-6 weeks. Although we co-sleep and he is still not a good sleeper, it did start to get easier to put him down once asleep, but not until 10-12 weeks. From there, we moved on to catnaps in the swing, and now I can get him in his crib MOST of the time for his naps. It took time. Best of luck to you!

 

HEATHER - January 3

I cant really help only agree with you. My daughter falls asleap much easier in our arms and sleeps longer naping there. Trying to have her nap in her crib seems like torture I figure why have her cry when I can pick her up and she is much more happy there. If she is napping and I try to move her to her crib she normally wakes right up. At night though even at 18 weeks! I still swaddle her and she was sleeping thew the night in the ba__sinette so I put her in her crib but then she began to wake up at 3 or 4am and now I have put her back in the ba__sinette, when she wakes in the middle of the night I cant get her to sleep unless I cuddle her in with us, which I dont mind I really love it but I keep getting told how bad it is and that I wont beable to break her habbit. Although I feel as long as she starts out somewhere else and my hubby and I have that alone time in bed, I dont care if she comes in later.

 

kimberley - January 3

Hi ladies... As a mother of 3, and 1 on the way I will tell you something that was past down from my great grandmother. Start out the way, you intend do go one with :) Even from this young age, babies try to take control....hehehe...I know from experience. I as 18 when I had my first child....and being young and very in-experienced I made lots of, (wont say mistakes) errors of judgement. I used to have to rock my son to sleep every nap or sleep, either in my arms or in his bouncer seat, and if I tried to move him once he was asleep, he would wake up and cry......This wasn't to bad at first, but I can tell you after 3-6 months, it gets very tiring and depressing, and by then he was fully settled into that routine. I was 23 when I had my next son, and I swore I would be the one in control this time, and I was, every nap he had, was in his ba__sinet/cot. Sure he would sometimes fall asleep in my arms (as new borns do) but if I knew he was tired I would put him in his crib, sooth him, and he would fall asleep peacefully. Babies like rountine/habit, and to them falling asleep in your arms, will be there bed. When babies sleep, this should be YOUR time to re-energize, and to have 5 minutes to yourself, or to get things done you need to get done etc etc, but if you have to nurse your baby while they sleep, or the baby is in the same room as you, because they cant be moved out of there rocker, car seat......there is no-way you can get any ME time, and it can make you tired, and depressed. I would really try to get your baby to sleep in there bed, they may seem unsettled or cry the first few times, but babies learn....and it will make for happier and healthier mum and baby in the long run. Please dont take this the wrong way, I am not trying to offend anyone.....I wish someone had told me this advice when I had my 1st, as his first year wore me out, and put me off of having any more babies...lol.....but as you can guess I got over it, as I am now 32 weeks pregnant with my 4th :)

 

TahliasMama - January 4

My girl also did this, and one day my arm got so sore from holding her, that I put her in her own bed and just let her cry a bit. From then on (until about a week ago =( ) she has been a good sleeper...

 

jg - January 4

My baby started out like that. We were awake sometimes all night with him. The problem was that we would not let him cry. Whenever he started to whimper we would pick him up straight away and rock him. This was until the clinic nurse visited and supported us while we put him in his ba__sinet and let him cry for a few minutes. He took a couple of breaths break after a few minutes. He started up again and then took a short break. We only let this go on for 10 minutes total before we went in, settled him and it all started again. It was so painful to listen to him cry and I was sometimes crying outside his door, but after a few nights we put him down and he cried for probably two minutes then went off to sleep. From then on we have only ever put him down awake and he goes off to sleep without crying at all. It was a really hard thing to do at the time but it has also been the best thing we could have done, for all of us. Good luck.

 

sam - January 4

my daughter was like that and then one night while i was rocking her in my arms and she was screaming i thought 'right shes going in her moses basket' and i layed her in there and she stopped crying and then fell asleep on her own after about an hour. i think she just needed to be in a quiet dark room. shes been sleeping in there for over a week now and im finally getting a comfy nights sleep without her in our bed!!!

 

beasmama - January 4

thanks for the advice ladies. We're so torn between the "let them cry it out" to the "you can't spoil a child" ideas. And I know we need to do what works for us. Just today I had a small cry when my husband got home - because I need a break! I haven't even gone to the bathroom without the baby in my arms for the past two days. I need to take charge. starting tonight! ...we'll see how far i get ;)

 

HELLO - January 4

AS THE SONG GOES, CANT HELP MYSELF. BAD HABITS................. YOU ONLY HAVE YOURSELF TO BLAME BECAUSE YOU SAID YOURSELF AS SOON AS SHE STARTS BACK SHE GOES IN YOUR ARMS. STOP THIS BAD HABIT NOW BY PERSISTING AND IF SHE HAS TO CRY A BIT SHE WILL SOON SETTLE OFF TO SLEEP. YOU ARE GIVING IN TOO EASY. STOP CO SLEEPING AND ALLOW HER TO SLEEP IN HER OWN CRIB. SHE WILL SETTLE OFF TO SLEEP BUT YOU MUST BE STRONGER THAN WHAT YOU SEEM TO BE

 

Christy - January 4

Oh, honey, you gotta put her down and give yourself a rest. It is going to be hard, but my goodness, you need a break! She'll be okay, even if she cries a bit. Try this- put her down in her crib once she is asleep. Don't pick her up immediately when she starts to cry. Wait like 5-10 minutes (use a timer if you have to) and see what happens. If she doesn't fall asleep, go soothe her, put her down when she's asleep, and wait. If she cries, wait 5-10 minutes and see if she'll stop and fall asleep. It may not work, but it is worth a try. I've done it a few times (when he would not stop crying no matter what, which can be often at times) and 20 minutes is my limit. He'll usually pa__s out by then, but not always. Good luck!

 

jg - January 4

BEASMAMA It is a hugely emotional decision to let your baby cry and as I said in my last post I was often outside my babys door crying too. But if you just hang in there you can make it work. When you are at the point of not being able to take it anymore, just make yourself wait ONE more minute. That often made the difference for me. If someone else is around and can listen out for bub, go outside or shut your bedroom door or something so it's not quite so loud. A couple of minutes can seem like hours when your baby is screaming themselves purple, or so it seems, but you will be really happy that you traded a few rough nights for what is for us a perfectly contented little sleeper.

 

HEATHER - January 4

id like to do this, but what do you do when the pacifier falls out and she starts screaming do I let her scream or do I keep going back in to put it in. Id like for her not to need it but its so soothing for her.

 

jg - January 4

My baby uses a dummy too, but if you go in every time it falls out then the baby will spit it out on purpose and programs you (sly little critters!) to go and put it back in. We did not go in until at least 10 minutes were up and then part of the soothing process would be to put the dummy back in.

 

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