Any Spoiled Sahm S Out There

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taral - January 29

We have a nanny 6 days a week. She doesn't watch the kids he whole time as they are in school (Plus I want to be the main caregiver), but she helps me when I need it and she cleans and cooks. I love the help, plus she is a wonderful person and the kids really like her. Does anyone else have help like this? I want to know how you negotiate the time. Thanks for the help.

 

sahmof3 - January 29

Oh, how I wish lol...

 

mcatherine - January 29

I don't have a nanny, but I'm a little spoiled because I have a wonderful husband. We have a housekeeper that comes every other week to do things like clean the stove, mop and wax, dust behind furniture chores, etc... Also, I don't do the laundry - my husband does it. I have a sitter for things like hair appointments, my nails and ma__sages, etc. And my husband brings home dinner twice a week from a gourmet grocery store so I don't have to cook every night. Thats about as spoiled as I am - no luck for me with a FT nanny.

 

Rabbits07 - January 29

sahmof3....I was thinking the EXACT same thing! lol.

 

ry - January 29

Oh this is funny because i was thinking i was spoiled just being a stay at home mom (that works two nights a week)lol! And I do nonstop laundry, dishes, cleaning, cooking, feeding, bathing, etc.....

 

taral - January 29

This nanny thing actually started out as 2 days a week. She is having a hard time financially and she doesn't drive, so we offered her a place to live and then we help take her places in exchange for cheap help. She is married, but is probably going to leave him soon. I feel so weird to say we have a "nanny".....but it is so nice. I just don't want to be a mom that just comes and goes, I want to be there, but also take some time for myself. She is just especially good with the baby and I find myself handing him over when he gets really fussy. I am having feelings of guilt, although it is REALLY nice!!!! Mcatherine, your husband sounds like a dream!!!! We started with the nanny because my husband is a neat freak and was getting stressed when the house wasn't perfect. (He's working on that!!!) He does help a lot, but he also works a lot.

 

Shea - January 29

I saw a show once (wife swap I think)where a woman had 3 kids and 4 nannys!!! She said she made it a "priority" to spend an hour a day with her kids, meanwhile spending 3 hrs a day shopping and 3 hrs a day at the gym. It depends on how many kids and their ages I think If I would want a nanny (not 4 of course) , but I would love to have some help w/ cleaning and cooking for sure!

 

SonyaM - January 29

Well I don't have a nanny but I do have it pretty darn good. I don't do much house cleaning lately but only because of my back pain. I have a bulging disc and can't really do alot of house cleaning. I do what I can when I can but otherwise my husband does it or we hire someone. Also, my oldest (4.5 years old) goes to pre-k four days a week from 9-2:30 so then it's just me and the baby (16 months old). My mom keeps the baby for me if I have a Dr. appt., hair appt. or I need to be at my oldest school for a party or something. My husband is just the absolute best though. I love him to pieces and he spoils me rotten.

 

taral - January 29

You all sure are making me feel better. I honestly can't imagine having 4 nanny's!!!! My priority is definitely my kids....but I do get stressed easily, so this has truly been a godsend!!

 

taral - January 29

Btw....I have 3 kids, ages 5, 3 and 9 mths!

 

mcatherine - January 29

I would say divide the time. Take time for yourself during the day to go to the gym or something like that and then relieve her when you get home and steal a night out every week sorta thing. Leave her with the baby in the afternoon and take the older kids out for alone time with mom - or pick a child a week to do something special with. It's nice of you to help her out. I only have two kids. One is 5 months the other is 11, so I don't really need much help with the kids. What I don't have is anyone to watch the baby at night - now that would be a dream come true. Dinner with candles that no one tried to b__w out! Ha!

 

HannahBaby - January 29

I know im going to get SLAMMED for this but i dont really care.....You are a SAHM, and you need help to clean?? YOur kids are in school, so what do you do all day?? You are too stressed to cook, clean and take care of the kids??? Welcome to the real world!! Im so glad that you have enough money to do this because i coudlent see someone like you working a job, taking care of kids, cooking and cleaning.....you would drive yourself in to a break down....

 

HannahBaby - January 29

and BTW, i am VERY spoiled. Im allowed to stay home and take care of my children......cant get much more spoiled than that.....

 

Paula S - January 29

We do not have a nanny,but my husband does more than any other I know. When I was pregnant I lost a lot of my eyesight, so he did all the cleaning, cooking,laundry in addition to his full time job. He did all this for almost a year. Even prior to this, he has always done part of the cleaning and cooking and just little things like picking up things at the store for me. I home school my 9 year old daughter as well as have a 7 month old son, so the help is great.! I feel fortunate to be able to stay home with my children because when I first had my daughter I worked and I missed a lot!

 

taral - January 29

Hannah baby.....I'm not going to slam you.....I TOTALLY understand what you are saying....However, here are my circ_mstances.....My dd goes to school 4 days p/t....my ds goes p/t 3 days.....doesn't sound bad, but the school is 30 min away. If I drive there, I have to wait around for 3 hours for school to be out. If I drive home....I use a TON of gas and there is only a few hours at home....so needless to say baby gets toted in and out of car. Second, they go there because it is a Christian School that is very good and my husband insists on it. We live where we live because it is on a lot of land that has doubled in value in 4 years....it is continuing to increase in value at a incredible pace, eventually we will probably sell and move closer to the school as the children will go to school there through h.s. May not sound bad to you, however, embarra__singly enough, you add the fact that I am medicated for OCD and Bipolar, and maybe you can understand a little better my predicament. I'm not justifying....I do not believe in parents that just leave their kids all day.

 

taral - January 29

btw hannahbaby.....I love the fact that I get to stay home.....my husband is very sensitive to me and our family. I don't understand why when you talk to people you always talk down to them. I read your posts a lot and often agree, however you could you some tact and empathy for others. Just because you believe it, doesn't mean it is so or that others are stupid or ignorant. Just a thought.

 

taral - January 29

oh, and p.s. hannahbaby, who says woman should have to "do it all"?????

 

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