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TiffanyRae - October 8th, 2007 4:58 PM

Just wondering if anyone has had their second/third ect baby within a year of the first one? How did the whole pregnancy go? Labor? I know all bodies are different and we should wait....but my husband and I are thinking about TTC again soon. CRAZY I know....but both of us have siblings that are less then a year apart from us and we both have amazing bonds with that sibling...and I believe in my case it was because we are so close in age. And our home situation/financially I feel it is a great option for us to have the second...ANYWAY just wondering if any other moms out there have had back to back babies! Please let me know how it is going!! Thanks!


sahmof3 - October 8th, 2007 6:00 PM

My 2nd (dd) and 3rd (ds) aren't quite that close, but I got pregnant with my 3rd when my 2nd was 8 months old. They're 176 months apart. They are 3 1/2 and 2 now and do everything together... especially when my oldest son (who is 7) is away at school!


sahmof3 - October 8th, 2007 6:00 PM

*176 months... yeah* LOL. I meant 17 months :-D


MNMOM - October 8th, 2007 9:48 PM

Tiffany- One thing to consider is that ideally your body should have 12 months from delivery until becoming pregnant again. It takes that long to heal/rest/replenish lost nutrients, etc. Pregnancies that are closer together than that can be considered high risk.


DB - October 8th, 2007 10:13 PM

I felt that way when my dd was younger (like3-4 months)...I had BAD baby fever!!! Nursing was finally easy, she was sleeping through the night...then when she turned 4-5 months I changed my mind!! Her sleep patterns became erratic, teething is a b___h! Anyways, I'm not trying to change your mind, I understand, how could you NOT want another bundle of joy :) I can tell you though, I see a Reproductive Endocrinologist and they recommend a minimum of 6 months after delivery...and if you're b___stfeeding then obviously it's a longer gap. Good luck with whatever you decide!!!


DB - October 8th, 2007 10:14 PM

Oh yeah, ha, now baby fever is back! I have already scheduled my RE consultation in December...we will ttc in January..CANNOT wait!!!


k. - October 11th, 2007 8:59 AM

Hi, I have 2 boys, one is 9 years and my other is almost 11 months. We are thinking about actively trying maybe in the new year, but we made a mistake this month, just once, and I'm taking a preg test in the next few days just to see.... it wouldn't be a bad thing if it happened now though. I'll keep ya posted.


TiffanyRae - October 11th, 2007 2:43 PM

Thanks everyone for your posts! I guess another reason for wanting to start again is I have fertility problems. It took us two and a half years to concieve Alex. Many Drugs and shots later we were blessed with this little man! So I don't want another two years to go bye. But I also don't want to up my chances of a high risk pregnancy either...(thanks MNMOM..oh and how was your Cobber reunion?) anyway thanks again ladies. I see my doctor tomorrow so I am going to discuss it with him! :)


crystal74 - October 11th, 2007 8:00 PM

wow momma, already thinking about another?!! Me and my siblings are all very close in age. My husband wants me to be pregnant right now so they can be close but Lincoln wears me out!! I told him that I need at least 3 years before I get pregnant again.


alida - October 11th, 2007 8:05 PM

We'd like to get pregnant again in Jan or Feb...my dd is 7 1/2 months so they would be about 20-21 months apart. It never seems to go as planned though! :)


MNMOM - October 11th, 2007 9:26 PM

hey tiffany: the reunion was ok. not ideal with a almost 4-month old in tow! most of the social events were at bars and started at 9 pm...and we were up all night the first night with a baby that got sick and we spent saturday morning in urgent care with him. UGH. But lots have changed up there and it was nice to see all the girls. PS>I had to use fertility with both boys, and the second pregnancy happened on the first round, so it seems that once they figure out what you need it works again the first time often.


suze42 - October 11th, 2007 9:44 PM

my sibs and i are 47, 45, 44, and 43 yrs old...OY...my mom and dad just banged us out...and we are all normal and very very close.
I had my first at 38 yrs old and tried for a second...but after 3 m/c had my second at 42yrs.
So go ahead and try if its in your heart...bc/ you never know what God wants.
I LOVE having my kids 4 yrs apart now..but if God had given me the others that i lost..i would have loved that also.
GOOD LUCK!


Jmom - October 27th, 2007 8:44 PM

My kids are 14 months and 10 days apart. So, I was pregnant very quickly after ds was born! I had a C-section though..my body was fine for it...(I also had a miscarriage 4 months before my 1st child- so I was literally pregnant 3 times in 2 years...)


Justine1 - October 28th, 2007 5:20 PM

My children are 14 months apart. The first pregnancy was through IVF with ICSI after 3 years ttc and was a terrible pregnancy (bled 10 times, blood clot, tested for cancer due to cysts from IVF etc, small for dates) and terrible 3 day induced labour. The second pregnancy was a breeze - natural conception, easy pregnancy with no complications and water birth which went fine. I've heard of a few people getting pregnant close together and miscarrying so I can beleive its higher risk, but for me it was fine and I wouldn't have done IVF again so we were very happy. You are very fertile after having a baby so it can be quite easy to get pregnant then. Its great for the kids being so close in age but at the moment I find it difficult (though I have postnatal anxiety which is partly why) - I've heard its very difficult for the first few years then great once they're at school. The trouble with this age gap at first is that the oldest will initially do things like try and sit on the baby as they aren't old enough to know better so you have to watch and try and chase two at the same time. Its very difficult to get anything else done. It also is important to think about if you want to be a full-time SAHM for a few years as often with 2 the costs of daycare are so high its not worth working. I am going back to work 3 days a week 6 hours a day but my salary will only bring in a little more than the 2 nursery places and my very high travel costs for a couple of years. I think a 2.5 to 3 year age gap would be my ideal choice as the eldest would have more common sense when the baby is born but you have to find what is right for you and if you think thats two close in age then go for it and good luck ttc.


suze42 - October 28th, 2007 7:14 PM

Britney did it...but its not working out so well for her! LOL.


tryin44 - October 28th, 2007 9:00 PM

My first two are 13.5 months apart. They get along great or terrible (now 7and 8). Compet_tion has taken over. All in all however they are inserperable.


Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - October 30th, 2007 2:42 PM

I'm 2 months pp and my husband is begging me for another. I want to wait a while though. Although it would be nice, I would just rather not at this point. I miscarried one month before i found out i was pregnant with dd, so being pregnant 3 times within almost a year i dont think my body will be able to handle it


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