Being Away From The Baby For A Week

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shellster - September 22

I have a 2 1/2 month old little boy. He is the light of my life. At the end of January, I will be taking a vacation with my mom. I'll be gone 8 days. At this time, the little guy will be 7 months old. He'll stay at home with daddy, but do you think he'll forget who I am when I return? I feel so guilty. I really feel like I need the break, but at the same time, I don't want my baby to feel abandoned or forget me!! Any thoughts??

 

suze42 - September 22

Maybe you could do an overnight or something beforehand to see how you feel. You baby wont be traumatized by 8days w/out you...she may miss you..but she wil get over it (and totally not remember it) plus youre leaving her in good hands. However..YOU may be traumatized! LOl. Everyone is different but i cant leave my kids...i didnt even leave my son until he was 5 and that b/c i was in the hospital having #2...but thats just me. Alot of moms have to travel...and the kids are fine. But i fyou really feel you wont have a good time...maybe you can suggest a shorter trip. good luck!

 

kim00 - September 22

I feel that the best thing you can do is parent is to take care of yourself. Yes, it is very selfish, but also very true. When my dd was 7 months, my dh and I decided we needed a break, so we went to Hawaii for 10 days. It was very hard to leave her, and I cried alot during the trip. But it made us better parents, and it was very nice to reconnect with dh. We all deserve a break, so go with your mom and have a great time!!

 

kim00 - September 22

sorry... not is parent, as a parent.

 

DB - September 22

I think it will be hard on you, but if you need this break then go for it. Personally, I have a hard time with one night away (have only done it once in 8 months)...we are going camping in a few weeks without dd...she'll be 8.5 months old...I know it will be harder on me than on her! But, if you think you will not enjoy yourself, then don't spend the money...maybe do a 3-4 day getaway close to home?

 

DB - September 22

Forgot to mention our camping trip is for 2 nights!! I'm weak!!

 

suze42 - September 22

DB you are not weak at all...we LOVE camping and even bought a pop up 2 yrs ago...of course i get pg and now camping is on hold for awhile....im trying to figure out the youngest age i will take DD11wks...and poor DS5yrs is gonna have to await awhile. i just cant leave my kids...for me...the angst isnt worth it.. Im also 42yrs old and waited a very long time to have a family and sewed my oats...so the best experiences to me are with my WHOLE family. DH and i can always find a little time to sneak off.

 

suze42 - September 22

ps. Another important factor is that i dont have family in town to babysit. Obviously if you have close family that are involved in youre babes life day in day out..then seperation wont be as bad.

 

lin7604 - September 23

i went away too for a week but my ds was only 3 months at the time and he did fine. I would do like other pp's said and do a sleep over a few times before you go, he won't forget you! My ds's daddy is a long distance truck driver and he is sometimes gone up to 2 weeks and he always remembers him every time and he is 11 months tomorrow.

 

MNMOM - September 23

Shellster- When I had my first son, I had a job that required traveling for a week at at time, 5 times a year. THe first trip I took was when my son was 7 months old. I cried all the way to the airport. But what you need to know is, babies have no concept of time...when you return, he will see you and it will be like "oh yeah, hi, I remember you!" He will not forget you. As long as he is in a loving environment and well taken care of while you are gone, he will be fine and you will too. Have a great vacation!

 

shellster - September 23

Thanks so much everyone, for your advice. I appreciate it. This is my first baby, and as much as I absolutely love him and appreciate him, I do feel like I need a break. I went from working a full time job to a stay at home mom, which I'm very fortunate I could do, but at the same time, it's been quite an adjustment for me. It's weird not to have any adult interaction or conversation during the day. I will miss him so much, but I know I will come back a more relaxed, better mommy.

 

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