Feeling Lost OT

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LollyM - February 2

I just don't know how to feel right now (sorry this is mostly just a vent) My husband got a new job about a week ago and has been working 12 hour days 6 days a week since then. He leaves for work a little after 7 am and gets home between 7 and 8 pm. Then, he eats, plays with dd for a few minutes and basically passes out by 10 30. This new job is a really good opportunity, but it will be a few weeks before he is even making as much money as his last job so right now we are barely making enough to pay the bills, so needles to say, we have no extra spending money to speak of. Anyway, I'm feeling lonely and lost at this point. I love my husband very much and he really thinks this job will pay off in the long run so I respect that and support him, but it's just so hard at the same time. I want to cry at the end of the day because I am alone most of the time now (with the exception of my daughter who is the only thing that keeps me going these days). My family lives close but they are pretty busy with their own affairs and my friends are all doing their own things as well. I have been praying for strength and guidance which is a comfort, but I still feel lonely and homesick (I believe that Heaven is our home before and after we are in life). Anyway, I know things will get better, but for now, I just want a little affection from my husband and he is just to tired to pay any attention to me so now Im just lonely and whiny and I feel bad that my daughter only gets to see her father for about 3 hours a day now.

 

hello - February 2

I seem to be going thru a saying phase these days so heres another hah.... 'It wont be forever'... 'Nothing lasts forever' the same way he wont always be doing such long hours...... Its the perfect opportunity for you to get yourself motivated and make some new friends. You will meet other mums at parks, play centres, join a playgroup ... not sure what u guys call them there in the us.... where mums and dads take their children for 2 hrs for social interaction, morning tea etc....... its the best and you get to meet new people which you cant do sitting in the house... It changes when u have a child, i am struggling to hold onto one friendship ... this girl doesn't have kids and well i dont know how its taken a dive downwards... Anyway thats my advice to you... i imagine your partner is very tired so try to take it easy on him... I encourage u guys to go out from time to time alone .... it will make you inparticular feel better and keep your relationship going strong.... You can feel isolated sometimes at home with a baby and i think u can feel like that when they are baby babies rather than when they get a tad older.... I always go out with my daughter daily, its the only way to stay sane, supermarket, shopping centres, friends...... i have rambled on here but u get the picture.... take care

 

mosley12 - February 2

Lolly, i understand how you feel. right now dh leaves for work about 5:30 am and gets home some time between 5-6, than it seems like all we do is fight because he's exhausted from work, and im exhausted from being with DS all day, and i feel like we never spend any time together, and we hate each other half the time. he's getting ready to get out of the military and we are going to move home near family and friends, and he'll have a different job so im hoping things will get better than. if you ever need to talk you can email me at barbiegirl2958 at yahoo

 

LollyM - February 2

Thank you =) I know you are right. This is temporary and I have been thinking about getting together with other moms around my area. I don't know any, but we do have groups called "Las Madras" and "mommy and me" where moms and their children get together with other moms and their children. I haven't really mentioned my frustration in detail to dh because I know he is really tired, and I don't blame him! He is working hard to provide for our family and I do admire him for that. It's just tough to go through this kind of change for me and for him as well=/

 

LollyM - February 2

thanks mosley =) It is tough to have such a change of lifestyle. I'm sure allot of couples go through what we are going through right now. i think it's a shame that the world only cares about money though. It seems like people work their whole lives for money and in the end, it's only our loved ones who matter at all. I hope things do get better for you once dh gets a new job =)

 

mosley12 - February 2

i cant say anything about the world caring about money because i use to be like that..lol..before i got married and had ds i always had the newest and hottest purse, designer sungla__ses, clothes, phones, and drove a lexus. and this was all while i was still in my teens. DH grew up in a middle cla__s family not caring about money. but now i know id rather have him home with me and just make enough to pay bills and have a bit of extra money. i hope things get better for you too!

 

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