Finding A Day Care

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Angie in MI - June 2

Well I started visiting day cares today. I need one for September. My dd will be about 5.5 months then. I saw one today and have nothing bad to say about it but didn't fall in love with it. I am very upset about even having to visit because I can't stand the thought of dropping my dd off. It is very close to work and I could go there for lunch. They encourage that. The care givers were interacting with the babies and when they move up to the "walkers" room her care giver would go with her. Should I fall in love with it on my first visit. I'm not sure I ever would. What are some thoughts from those of you who have already gone through this?

 

Kel - June 2

I think its normal for you not to fall in love with the daycare at first site. I don't have to bring my dd to a daycare as she be with a family member but I am already dreading leaving her. She'll be getting one on one care and will be the only child there, but I still feel guilty that I can't be with here 24 / 7 like I have the past 10 weeks. I'm going to return to work on a Thursday so it will be short week and hopefully I can ease into leaving my lo. Good luck. - sorry I'm not more help.

 

SonyaM - June 2

I know how you feel, it's a hard thing to do. Having been a day care director, let me give you some pointers. I am in Texas so what I will tell you refers to Texas but I am sure it is about the same in most states. We have a "minimum standards" book of regulations that must be followed. State inspectors visit the site at least once a year if not more. This report should be posted in a visable area for parents to review. I think you should be pretty comforable with the setting and staff right off the bat. Now I understand that you may not be comfortable with the "idea" of day care but at least be comfortable with the facility and the staff. Ask how long the staff have been there. Turnover is high in this line of work, especially for a "not so good" facility. Look for staff to child ratios, cleanliness, condition of equipment and toys, etc. Also the facility should have a parent handbook explaining their procedures and rules. In Texas we have a website that you can look up day cares by zip code. It gives you tons of information about the facility, PLUS you can review the licensing inspections. Very helpful. I have also found church facilities to be quite good, particularly the Methodist Churches. Good luck!

 

Marlene - June 2

Have you thought about a babysitter? I went back to work when my ds was 9 weeks but felt more comfortable leaving him with a babysitter instead of a daycare center. She has her license but my son is only her 3rd child that she keeps and is the only one under 2 so he gets alot of attention.I dont know if you have someone like this near you but if you do I would recommend this. I love her and how times a day as I need too.GOODLUCK!!!

 

Marlene - June 2

Sorry last line meant call however many times a day I need to

 

Angie in MI - June 2

They have those here, but I can't find a recommendation from anyone and I don't wnat to just find anyone. That scares me! I visited another place today after I typed this and have a much better feeling about it. I don't know why I just liked the people better. The other place was right by my work though and I could go there on my lunch.. I don't know... aahhh I really appreciate all the help. More advice would be welcomed. It has me thinking!

 

YC - June 2

Angie we have a private sitter who is a wonderful family friend and she loves Kai. I still am not "in love" with it. I dont think you ever will be because no matter what it is someone else taking care of your little one. I know that she is in great hands though. I think it's great that this place encourages parents popping in on their lunch breaks. That would make me feel that they are on the ball. Sorry I am not much help. It is hard at first but you will adjust...I promise!

 

Angie in MI - June 2

Hey YC, thanks for the a__surance. I just wish I didn't have to put her in day care at all. I wish I could find a home setting, but I don't just want to pull one out of the yellow pages and I don't really know anyone around here that takes their kids to one.

 

YC - June 2

I know what you mean. If we did not have the family friend then I would have put her in daycare vs. going through the phone book for a personal home. Are there any mommy groups you can join? Maybe you can find someone that way or have someone recommended. Our sitter will retire in a year and a half when her husband retires so Kai will got to daycare then. I am already dreading that. I think the interaction with other babies will be a really good thing though.

 

Elle - June 3

Hi Angie, I completely understand how you feel. We just began the arduous task of trying to find daycare too. I didn't fall in love with a single one and we saw five centers. I think we picked the best of the worst, but it still makes me SICK! So much so that I am considering resigning from my job. $200 per week so some stranger can "care" for my baby? Or she can fend for herself in an overcrowded room that isn't amply staffed? Where she would share a room with walkers? She's 10 weeks old - how are they going to protect her from the bigger kids? The room has 0-12 month olds! Sorry for the rant. Anyway, where at in Michigan are you located? I am originally from there and put my first daughter in a center in the Troy area. We were really happy with it, and had visited several centers there too before we picked that one. As far as home care, I am checking into that now as well. There is a referral source on line - I'll get the address and post it for you. Good luck with the whole search! I know what you are going through and I was going to post the same question. Thanks for that!

 

hello - June 3

I have worked in many day care centers, thats why i am a stay at home mom.... I think occasional care is fine and day care once a week or so for their social skills, to play with other kids etc, it gives them added confidence but full time is cruel, i know many cant avoid it so i am not having a go at anyone here, i just used to feel for the kids in at 7 and still there when i was heading home.... I look forward to sending my daughter to kinder. I know the benefits of daycare in moderation yet i feel bad sending her to occ care 3 hrs a week, havent done it yet but i will at some point.....Council run centers are usually quite good but be careful cause staff are nice to parents but that doesnt mean a thing...If i had to put my baby in care it would be childcare maximum twice a week and hopefully grandma's the other 3 days... Good luck

 

hello - June 3

Not to sound awful but i dont get why they encourage you to pop in on lunch breaks, we used to discourage it as it would sometimes really unsettle the kids, they would take ages to stop crying.... thats not a good thing in my opinion.....

 

Angie in MI - June 3

Elle, I'm in that area too!

 

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